Forgiveness is essential
@redyellowblackdog (10629)
United States
August 29, 2007 3:39pm CST
Sometimes in a relationship forgiveness is essential and the most important thing. Could forgiveness possibly play a role in saving the situation described in the letter and photo at this url?
http://fp1.centurytel.net/polydimensional/oops.htm
What do you think? Can this relationship be saved?
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7 responses
@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
30 Aug 07
In this case I think forgiveness is highly overrated...I am thinking late loving wife...after all, there is still the girlfriend...:)
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@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
30 Aug 07
If you are married, I hope your wife is not on myLot! As for me, my wife is. So, yes, I think that was a very bad man who should ask his blessed sainted wife's forgiveness.
@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Actually I am married, my wife is on myLot, and she is aware of my response.
Just because a person is married is no reason not to speak your mind.
Sometimes these females like to think they are in charge, and we throw them a bone from time to time just to keep them quiet.
She saw your response and agrees with me that you may be sucking up to stay in your wife's good graces...:)
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@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
30 Aug 07
The real question her is NOT "Can this relationship be saved?"; but, "Should this relationship be saved?".
Obviously, this was not the result of a one-night stand; if, the person who called was his "girlfriend".
Also, this means his wife was apparantly "clueless" during the affair he had been having.
So, if he is so dissatisfied with the relationship that he has been cheating AND she is totally unaware that there even was a problem with the relationship until she got a call from the "girlfriend"; that isn't much of a "relationship" to begin with.
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@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Well, you are right, of course, if this is not just an urban legend. I believe the photo is genuine but I think the story to go along with it is just something someone made up. May God and all the angels in heaven help this couple if it is a true story!
The pic and letter are just one of those things people receive via email all the time. I received it that way and put it on my personal web page to link to.
@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Yes, I've got to agree with you that this particular relationship likely can not be saved. I have a sibling that went through a similar situation and tried to put everything back together. All she did was delay the divorce until the next affair. Her first husband was hopeless.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
31 Aug 07
I had seen the "letter" and photo before myself; but, this type of situation happens quite frequently (minus the vehicles).
One spouse is cheating and the other spouse is totally blind to the fact that there even IS a problem with the "relationship". Then, they get a call, an email, or actually see the cheating spouse with whomever they are cheating with and everything falls apart.
I am just saying that by the time it gets to that point - the relationship is already over and has been over for some time. That does not mean that the couple cannot TRY to rebuild the relationship; but, it is rarely successful when the situation has gone that far.
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@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Indeed, she has made up her mind, but at least still has her sense of humor!
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
yes, of course the guy still forgive the lady..in that picture, it's really painful to have a car like that..but it's only a car..you need to have a good relationship still with your partner..material thing is not important with love..
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@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Yes, it is just a car and a wife is more important than that. I particularily liked the understatement in the letter.
@procezx (76)
• India
30 Aug 07
Lovely and very lip twisting. It always been essential to forgive to just accept that some irreversible event has occurred. Of course a sign to further development.
It is the way world goes on when an even cannot be reversed. And this becomes a certain to forgive(accept the hurt by the ball) when you are juggling two balls with one hand.
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@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
30 Aug 07
Hi there. Forgiveness is essential, in order to clear ones own conscience... Forgiveness can definetly save the situations from getting out of hand and turning into hatred... I couldnt view this link, as it said an error occured both times I tried... So I couldnt really give my opinion on that situation...
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@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Sorry about the link. It is working now. There is a picture there of a pickup truck parked on top of a sports car after having crashed through a garage door. It is where a guy's wife parked her truck after receiving a phone call from her husband's girlfriend.
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@Stiletto (4579)
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30 Aug 07
LOL I like it. It depends who you think needs to do the forgiving. Speaking as someone who took a golf club to a cheating exes car (his pride and joy) I know who I think should be seeking forgiveness. As I said to my ex at the time he should think himself lucky I took it out on the car instead of him. I think I would give this guy the same advice!
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@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Without question it was the guy in this instance who should seek forgiveness, on his knees, pleading for mercy.
