How often do you talk to your Mother?
By heavenschild
@heavenschild (4777)
Canada
August 29, 2007 8:51pm CST
Or a mother figure in your life?
My Mom is like my best friend but I also go to her for help and advice when I'm in a rock and a hard place? do you do this? I feel no matter how old I get (I'm 29) I'll always need my Mom as long as she is alive...What are your thoughts and experience on this?
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
30 Aug 07
My mom passed away from a long painful abttle with cancer over 10 years ago. Almost every night I pray then I talk to my mom. She also was my best friend and still is. I know she is looking down on me, my family, the grandsons she never saw, and especially on all my gardening exploits and loving it all. It is really hard for me arouind the major holidays. She would come from the farm and stay with us for a few days every holiday. The huge family meals etc. She loved staying here as I would always take her to a casino around here to play Bingo and slots afterwards. Anyhow....I love ya and miss ya mom.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
30 Aug 07
I can totally understand your sadness at the loss of your mom, Grandpa Bob, and am sorry to hear this. I lost my mom to cancer, many years ago now. I do cherish our family photos, and other memorabilia, and of course, my own personal memories of my mom.
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@Michael2009 (5)
• United States
30 Aug 07
I understand how you feel. Mothers are the greatest gift to human kind. Without mothers, none of us will be here. They are fun to talk to, and they always seem to understand how you feel. CHEERS TO MOTHERS EVERYWHERE!
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Thank you very much Michael2009.
They are the life and blood of humankind are they not?
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@comeonmolly (828)
• China
30 Aug 07
You are so lucky to have your mother listen to you whenever you need,Your mother is not only your mother but also your best friend who can lend you a ear whenever you need,When I am in bad mood or I have something that I want to say I will find my best friend or I will make it in my deep heart,I often want to tell my mother,however,she always don't know what I really thought,so I want to say you are so lucky,wish you happy!
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
Thanks so much comeonmolly!
I am glad thatI have the relationship I do with my Mom and I realize not everyone has that type of relatiuonship with their mothers...My husband has had to really work on a relationship with his Mom as she has not been interested in him in the past. It really does make a difference!
Hope you can build a bridge to your Mom soon :)
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
I too talk to my mom almost every day.
Will your mom come and live with you for a time when the baby is born? That is what mine did and I really appreciated it!
Congratulatuions! :)
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@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
5 Sep 07
Like some others who have responded, I too lost my mom, she passed away in February 2007, after an almost 10 year battle with heart disease, so it's still a difficult time for me. I always called my mom when things happened or I needed advice or a recipe. We talked at least once a week, if I didn't call her more for the things I mentioned before. Now I talk to her a lot, although obviously, it's not the same. It's hard now, I feel lost when something happens, when I would have normally called her, I can't so if it's something upsetting, like yesterday when we got from my husband's doctor with some disturbing news, that news was upsetting enough compounded by the fact that I couldn't call mom to talk about it. She was so good at listening and offering her advice, I've tried calling other people and even talking to my mother-in-law but it's just not the same, there is no love like a mother's love, and no one can replace it. Cherish your mother for as long as you have her.
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
6 Sep 07
So sorry to hear of your recent loss gapeach65 and I thank you for your thoughtful response! :+)
I truly do cherish my Mom and I really don't know what I will do without her when the time comes....
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
25 Sep 07
I really appreciate your response to this discussion..especially due to your recent loss.
I feel honoured that you would share this with me here at this time and truly appreciate your friendship!! :)
HUGS
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
30 Aug 07
I talk to or see my mother a few times a week. I call her for advice even though every time i do she tells me what i don't want to hear and we end up fighting lol. we are pretty close, but i wish we could be closer. i think we are just too different.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
30 Aug 07
I miss my ever so often arguments with my mom. HAHAHA! We could
get pretty heated also seeing as we were best friends as well.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
I'm glad that you keep in touch with your mom even though you don't always get along. It is important to keep family ties and I am sure your mom likes to hear from you.
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Not often enough. On average I talk to my mom maybe once a month. I am not a phone person and I have tried to get her to get into the computer age so that we can communicate more often via IM, but she just won't budge (darn her Filipino stubbornness! LOL). Not to mention she works 2 jobs and even though she has a cell phone it's still hard to reach her.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
My parents do not even own a computer and never will so I understand your plight! LOL
My mom also works and she will be 60 next year. She works five days a week and I work anywhere from four to six days each week but we always manage to talk at least four times per week if not more. I could not go without talking to her :)
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
1 Sep 07
Thanks so much sacmom!
My Mom will be 60 next year and she is also very technologically challenged! LOL
I hope you get in touch with your Mom really soon! :)
Maybe you could go and visit her for a short time....
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Well at least my dad has a computer. Though it does me no good when talking to my mom via the computer as my parents are divorced. UGH! LOL
My mom will be 67 in April. Her work schedule always seems to be changing so it makes it a little difficult to get a hold of her on her cell. And it does no good to leave a message on there as she doesn't know how to retrieve her messages.
It's nice that you and your mom find the time to talk. :)
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
2 Sep 07
I talk to my mother everyday, and know if I ever needed anything at all and it was in her power to give it I would have it.She is a good friend as well as a Mother to me. If she doesnt call me in the mornings I get worried about her.
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
3 Sep 07
My mother is the same type of person as yours.
I wouldn't trade her for the world! :)
Thanks so much for your response.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I speak to my mom quite frequently. We talk at least 4 times a week. I live about 10 hours away from her, so we try to stay in contact as much as we can. We have become quite close as I have gotten older. I agree with you, for as long as she lives or I live, I will always need my mother, I value her advice on all things, I treasure her stories of her homeland and I feel sorry that I can't do more for her in her later years of life. I hate that she has to work so hard for so little. I wish there was more I could do for her. She is one of my true heroes in this world.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
2 Oct 07
Thanks so much Mamsan!
My Mom too still works five days a week as a waitress and she is nearly sixty...I do wish she did not have to work so hard but there is nothing I can financially do as we do well to float ourselves and so she works. The thing with my mom is she would not want our help...She loves her work but I worry about her...She certainly is my hero and my angel she has always been there for me and I truly cherish her in my life!:)
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@kishusia (1066)
• India
26 Sep 07
Before my marriage, I used to talk to my mother a lot. We were like friends. After marriage of my elder sister I was left alone with my mother. We will talk all the time, while working in kitchen or taking rest. After my marriage, I keep talking to my mother on phone, two or three times in a week.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
Much like myself. I have a wonderful relationship with my Mom and wish I could see her more often!!
It is hard to be away from her.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
29 Sep 07
I am glad that you have a good relationship with your mom.
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@needy911 (51)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Hi heavenschild! My mother is my mentor though we have very different views in life. I love and respect her very much and I tell her that. I dedicate the song, " The wind beneath my wings" to my mother. I make sure I communicate with her everyday. She is being loved by my husband and my children adore her! I always tell her that I need her and she tells me that she is always there for me. Good to know that you do the same. And I can't believe that I am someone's mom too! : ) have a great day!
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
2 Sep 07
So glad that you have a most excellent relationship with your Mom...
I hope our children(Yours and mine) grow up to have that same kind of relationship with us! :)
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
2 Sep 07
Welcome to MyLot needy911.
I hope you enjoy your time here :)
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@eve0922 (364)
• China
30 Aug 07
I talk to my mom frequently,and all of my friends know that she is a good mom,it means that she gives me right to do almost anything i wanna,(i won't do bad deeds,she believe me,and i didn't disappoint her).the most important is ,she understands me ,and she encourage my creative thoughts.I'm proud of my mom.
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
Thanks so much eve0922 I'm proud of my Mom too! :)
I don't know what I would do without her as she is always there for me and encourages me with her strength!
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@isaiah12 (416)
• United States
17 Oct 07
I am 48 and still have a very close relationship with my mother. I am lucky that my parents have always been there for me. They have always been supportive of me. Through my divorce, raising two daughters by myself. I can always go to them to talk. We live about 15 minutes away from each other. So we visit each other often. And talk on the phone alot.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
18 Oct 07
I have been fortunate also to have parents who have always been there for me. They have supported me in everything and have given advice when I needed it!
I am glad that you live so close...My parents live an hour and a half away so I do not see them as often as I would like but I talk to my mom almost every day unless our work schedules conflict!
Thanks so much for sharing here!
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
26 Sep 07
It's not that she doesn't want to understand but that you will understand better, her views, as time goes on. Keep up your relationship with your mother because I am sure she loves you and just wants what is best for you.
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@Pythonis (233)
• United States
30 Aug 07
I usually talk to her about once a week. But if I am upset about something, or worried, then I could call everyday. Its good to have someone to lean on when things are tough, and my mom usually has good advice. When I see her in person she can get annoying- I think cause I like more personal space than she does and she gets too close to me- but on the phone theres no issue with that.
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
2 Sep 07
Moms do tend to have great advice...I just wish I had taken her advice more often in my life! :)
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@babybluebellebj (413)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
your lucky your mom is also your bestfriend...i can talk to my mom about family issues but not the talk as a friend...i felt that if ever i will talk to her about my stuff or open up something, she is not interested to listen to it and will only make fun of it or get angry...i can say that my friends know me better than my mom...
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
I do cherish the relationship I have with my Mom and wish the same for others but I know that is not always possible :(
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@fab315 (1231)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
HellO!
I have a very close relationship with my mother, she's my bestfriend and I can tell her any problems i'm carrying. She's the best mum for me. Now that i'm working away from my family I talk to my mum almost everyday online. We always sends sms to each other and talk on the phone. I love my mother so much, she is my guide and my comfort. And I do miss her terribly.
ciao! =)
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
3 Sep 07
I miss my Mom also as I do not see her very often!
I have often said that if I could have chosen my own mother I never could have done a better job as my mom is great! I love her so much and she is so good to me.
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@zabawaus (1730)
• United States
30 Aug 07
My mother and my sister are the ones i love the most. My mother is very sensetive and very friendly. She was 21 when she had me. I am 30 now and me and my sister are so close to mom. We are like 3 close friends . We like to travel together and even going out at nights together. I need to leave them soon so i feel really upset but i will love them forever.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
2 Sep 07
I am twenty nine and my mom is fifty nine....
She tried for eight years before she actually had me and I'm an only child so we are very close! I only wish I could spend more time with her as I only see her about once every two months due to the distance! It is hard for me to live so far from my parents....
I am glad that you too have such a great relationship with your Mom and also your sister. Thanks so much for your response :)
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
2 Sep 07
LOL! Thanks so much for your response EZhang and Welcome to MyLot! :)
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@laurika (4532)
• United States
30 Aug 07
You have to be really happy have such a nice relatinship with yur mom.I have never been really close to my mother.I never really speak with her about my problems, becuase she is just kinda person, who who would not advice me, but blame me for something.The propblem is propbably big age different between us.My mom was pregnant with me, when she was 35.She very conservative too, so I better go for advice to my friends.It s sad, i was all my life kinda jelaous of my friends, who has all this great mom, who they can talk to like a friends.I don't want sound ungrateful, but sometimes is really hard talk to my mom.
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
31 Aug 07
My Mom will be 60 in 2008 and I will be 30 the same year but maybe the fact that I am an only child has something to do with our relationship.
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