Do you argue in front of the kids?

i know when i was a little one i never liked my mommy and daddy arguing it always scared me thats why w/ my little one i mke sure she aint there to hear it i dont want her to be scared.

Well My wife and I are still pretty new to the parenting game, as our son only is a little more than two years old. But we have found that he picks up on all our moods and little quarrels. Therefore we do all we can to keep the arguments away from him. We talk after he's been put to bed, if we have issues, that need addressing. Waiting to that time gives us both time to cool a little, which is good too. all the best

It is a very good rule for you and your husband. Parents should not have a fight in front of the children. Especially when they have a serious argument, they will probably say something mean or hurtful to each other. Actually these words are so bad for children. They will blame themselves because they think their dad and mom argue because of them. The children are afraid of it. Because they are worried whether their parents will be divorced because of the argument. When children grow up, it is better not to have a serious fight or argument in front of them. It is just OK to express your different opinions and discuss about it. Your children can vote for one of you. So they may learn something from the discussion and learn how to discuss. After all, the world is much more beautiful because there are various voices.

You are great parents! My wife and i sometimes argue in front of our daughter, i know it's not good,but sometimes we have no way to control! I will discuss this with my wife and learn from you to give our daughter a better and wonderful childhood. Thanks a lot!

We all argue and it can get really bad at times,and we dont realise what impact its having on the tender minds of the kids as they are very observant and grasp things, no matter how much we try to hide it from them. We also believe that we must not argue nor fight in front of the kids and we do just what you have also mentioned, do so after the kids are asleep, or when they have gone out to play or when they are in school, out of the house that is, as then even if there are loud voices, they are no heard, as even when kids are in their rooms they over hear,and half the time when they hear only half the things, it adds more trouble. The kids are of course grown up and ones already in her teens too, and nw even if we do argue we do so with normal tones, not in the fighting kind of voices so that the kids know that these things do happen and its normal, we also take care that the kids arent brought into the discussions nor that they take either of the parents side, that would not be good too. Of course we know they are over hearing and its alright at this age, as we want them to know that these things happen after marriage so that its a preparation for them for their married life too. As of now its a rule in our house too, that we all talk politely and with respect with each other, no harsh tones, and we all follow that though at times it gets hard to control, that time we go to ur bedroom and talk in whispers and try to kep cool and calm, knowing that the kids are hearing.

I grew up in a household where my parents were constantly fighting. My sisters and I did everything we could to stay away. I don't want my kids going through that. My daughter is 15 months old and so far we've managed t keep any arguments away from her. We either go in another room or wait until she's sleeping.

I don't think it is a good idea ato hide things from your children, if done properly when you have a disagreement, they will learn from you. Arguing and negotiating are skills that they will need all of their lives. My ex and I seldom argued. He did not like to argue- he would not talk to me or go out. Eventually I told him not to let the door hit him on hte way out and he agreed. He had been distancing himself from us for a long time. My son learned to hide his feelings, it took a long time for him to learn to talk about the way he felt. If he had seen us talking/arguing more he would have been better off.

My hisband and ex-husband always try to discuss or argue right then and there whether the kids are there or not. I always found that what you say is true, it is better not to, so I always say we will talk about it later and give us both time to cool off and make sure that the kids do not hear it, because as you said they always somehow feel it is their fault. I do not want my kids thinking that. Because nine out of ten times it is not even about them. Thank you for the interresting topic, and now how many times do you think people will look to see who is around before they argue?LOL I know I do already.

Me...? No, being a parents of a kid so should have a good mural.. Because someday your childs would be basis of what they see from you.. How you do an agreement...or how you manage them And its working and proven by you.. Parents is the path way of the child to be a better man/woman someday.

I agree that you should not argue in front of your kids, it teaches them that fighting and argueing are ok, and that some times they pick up on the negative vibes from the parents, even some times taking sides as well. Pitting kids in the middle of an argument could also put them uneasy and against the parents. When I was a kid, my parents always argued in front of me and my siblings, this made my brothers and I fight. It also made us against my mom, since she was our step mom. The negativity that I was talking about in example is my brother became very tempermental like my dad, I became very docile and hate to argue. These behaviors stem from childhood experiences and therefore I believe that parents argueing should be kept behind closed doors, discussions of course are open to intelligence and content.