What is the best way to forget about a person we loved?

Unfortunately, I think that you have to endure a certain amount of the grief and heartache; you cannot rush the 'getting over it' phase, or you will only damage yourself in the long run. The worst thing you can do is go for the rebound, which is, as far as I'm concerned, any sooner than 6 months after a serious relationship. You have to learn to enjoy yourself and love yourself, and keep happy and positive; drawing upon the things you can learn from this past relationship.

((hug)) i been there first off if ur thinking i want to die cause somebody left u or doesnt feel the same about u..u need to see somebody cause there is more there. never never let urself feel that life cant go on just because somebody no matter how much uloved them in gone... second u dont need to forget..this person helped u become you....u cant forget...its apart of u and always will be... and yes it hurts now..terrible..that in time does fade..and all that will be there is memories..some good some bad..but nothing like the pain ur feeling now.. i like ot chalk it up to my journey in life...in life there are many journeys..and love fortunatly and unfortunatly is one of them u must go on to complete urself...((hug))

I think I can understand this feeling very well because I experienced it. In my opinion, if you really fall in love with this person deeply, it is not possible to forget him. But the time will mend your heart slowly, especially when you free your mind and find another better one.

I don't think it is the love that pains us. It is our attitude towards love that brings pain. When you no longer are with your loved ones, why is that one should keep on brooding. Why don't one live in those wonderful memories when you spent with your loved ones. A friend of mine fell in love with a pretty young lady during his graduation. But he never dared to propse her. The truth is she never knew he existed. Years passed. He still loves the same girl. He doesn't know where she is. But he tells me that when he thinks of her face, he feels immensely happy. He is 55 now. He is none other than my Uncle. I asked him if he felt lonely or sad, he says that love is the only way to be completely happy and i'm the happiest man. No doubt that he would have been more happy with her, but atleast he is not sad now.

Forget one person is a very difficult thing to forget what they have deep love of people is a difficult thing, and sometimes we can not forget that the only painful, but to put aside some really hard feelings, I have heard that people want to forget about the best way is to love another person, I they finally had the situation could not escape customs.

hi there. i know it's a very pain..you can to cry for the reason..even you wish to die..but it's not all your feel..you can to smile, you can to happy, you can to romantic n stell many more of feeling. maybe it's a good feeling or a bad feeling. you don't have to forget he/she..because your feel not for your forget..but for your learn. ok.. experience your live in as usual..it is of course with a not good n good feeling. good luck for you..n me too. LOL

Falling in love is the greatest feeling you will ever feel but we know that there's an opposite of that which is th pain of being broken heart. Well, i guess the best way to forget is to accept the fact that the relationship end and you have to move on. its not the end of the world. After all if the fate will be both of you then that time will come. I know its not easy because i've been through that experience before. It took me so long to forget but in the long run i learn to accept it. So be strong , everything happen has its purpose. Have a nice day!

i felt the same way as you do. i fell in love with someone who has/have many relationships. you cann call him a playboy and the entire schools knows all about it. he constantly brags to his friends every girl that he conquers to bed. fortunately, his friends became my friends. i didn't know at that time that i was wearing my heart on my sleeve. my friends including them noticed that i had feelings for him. they began to warn me about his attitude and what kind of person he is. i was happy because of the way they show their concern for me. i began to forget my feelings towards him but it was really difficult because i see him everyday and talked to him. trying to forget the feelings that u have for someone is i guess the worse feelings that one can have. i began to run away from him. every time i see him, i acted like i didn't and sometimes i'll cross the other way so that we just don't meet. i think he noticed it. at first, he would shout and call me, trying to gain my attention but i turn blind and deaf towards him./ later, when he graduated, i regretted all the things that i've done. i now realized that i should have told him how i feel and let time takes it course. if we will be together and hurt me on the process, then i should have just accepted it. how can u learn something if u haven't tried it, right. i believe that experience is the best way of learning things in our life.

why do you have to forget someone that you loved? it is a wonderful memory, although there are bad things in it. when i sperated with my ex-boyfriend, then i dropped tears everyday, and when i find a boy who like him, then i must follow him and then the boy thinks i have neuropathy. so i hope i can forget him, and forget all things about him. but i can't. i know he has been a part of my memory. why i have to let it blank? isn't it good to have a man that you can miss?

If you're not too depressed, and you may be, then keep busy. As busy and occupied in the mind as humanly possible. Go to work, volunteer, visit friends, read, be busy. If you're depressed, read joke books, remember that another, better relationship will happen, watch comedies (probably not romantic ones), then go out and volunteer. If even that doesn't help, you might need to see a counselor. But give those a try, with practice, we can forget. Reading and writing about other things on mylot can help, too. Stay busy.

Hi donnoname! :) I think you can never forget about the love that you feel. In time, the love you had will change and the amount of love you had given then will not be exactly the same as what you will have years later. Still, the feeling is there. First of all, it's not about forgetting the love, but ACCEPTING that both of you are not meant for each other. Through acceptance, there will be healing. Let yourself be healed from all the pains. Let go and surrender what you feel. You can make yourself busy - like engaging in new organizations, interacting with new people, or learning a new hobby. Make yourself productive. :) Take care and God bless! \(",)_

well,beased on my personal experience...I told myself that I must full myself together and be more optimistic.if someone leaves you there is always one that will comes around, not now not yet but it will happen in God's perfect time.don't let it full you down, but take it instead as a lessons and don't you ever let that person see you down but instead show him that life must go on without him...you become a better person without him/her otherwise the pain just stuck with you they key to it all is to let go of the feelings and moved on,well its easy said than done but try it,I was once there and now I have moved on and happy without him..

If it real love I can't forget. But the best way to forget is searching for another real love

I always forget someone I loved in the past. For me, the most important thing is today's love and hope will be forever. So I never think about the past. So far, I can do it well. Even still becoming friends with him, but for sure there is no more feeling for him.

Only time will help a situation like this. The person affected would need to take it one day at a time. They would need the time to mourn the loss of that love as it's a process of grieving a loss. If someone else came into their life before they're done with the grieving process, it would probably end up just being the result of a rebound. I'm afraid there's no way to just forget the pain.

i don't know what exatcly i'm trying to say , becuase i've not been in situation like this (thnx GOD) , but i think if i really love a girl , it's too hard to forget her after a while!!! and i think the best thing to solve that , is trying to have relationships with some one else....being alone may cuase bad troubles!!!

I think it would not be an easy task to forget about the person, whom you loved, it would be on the other hand I think is an uphill task. Because memories related your beloved cannot vanish from your mind, all of sudden. I am also not sure, whether there exist any method to 'brain-wash' the stored memories in our brain. Because when you were in love with someone, whatever quality time and happy moments you spent with him/her, must be very strong and etched in your memory. I think, one will have to just make himself understand that that person has gone, and life has to go without him/her. I do not think memories related to that person will ever go. Excellent Post indeed!

I am sure it s very hard for you to forget.But there is always way and when time pass and pass, you would feel better.When I am trying to forget about somebody I focus on myself.I always start to do something new, I sign up to some course, like dancing, drawing or learning new language.You would meet new people and will have something other to think about.Maybe you should try volunteering for kids.It might help.

Well, just let it be, if one loves him/her that much but finally break up, misreable though she/he might be for quite some time, they should be happy for him/her since he/she might be happier with some one else:) Just let the time machine works here, as the time goes on, everything will becomoe normal again, what is done is done:) Andy

Actaully whatever you do you cannot forget the person that you once loved in your life. Memories of past love will always stay there and you can't change this reality. This is based from what I have experience from previous relationship. The only thing you can do to help yourself is to move on. Moving on is only possible if you realy wanted it to happen. In time you will pass to a step by step process in forgetting the hurt you feel inside. Try finding someone who can listen to you and understand the things your going through right now. It's a great help also if you start going out and making friends.