Your Divorce!

Hello friend, It is early in the morning here in Sweden, I am about to go to work, but just had to make a short notice on your question. I am divorced since about 6 years ago. My late husband discouverd that he was a homosexual and had met a man he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. This was however not a big mager thing for me, but for the children of course. This is samething that is hard to understand for a child. But we have talked, discussed and today both children are fine with this, even if they do not like it. But there are so many things we al do not like, but have to accept anyways. We are still friends, we still talk, and the children talk to him on a daily bases. In the end he is still thier father. We did get divorced in a friendly maner. It was very important for me to make the children to understand it was not thier fault. today my daughter have recently left home for her own recidens, but have contact on a daily bases with both of us. My son who is 16 se him once a month, becouse his father moved long way from us and traveling every weekend would be to much. I could write a lot about the divorce however the time i set for me to go to work. Have a nice day.

I have been divorced for 26 years. We had an amicable breakup (we didn't have any children) and have remained friends ever since, although we don't see one another too often. He's in another long-term relationship, and I get on very well with his now partner. There's absolutely no bitterness between my ex-husband and I and there never was. I believe our situation, if others could strive to copy it, was probably one of the easiest divorces in history and it honestly makes life so much easier being friends with one another rather than being in an ongoing situation of resent and hate. Our lives changed beyond all belief after our divorce (mine very, very much for the better - but for some years his was for the worse, even though he's very happy now). During that 26 years, I've not had one single regret about our divorce - neither has he - and I've never re-married or lived with anyone since as I'm perfectly happy living alone. I just wish everybody else's breakups and divorces could be that easy - the world would be a much happier place. Maybe it is harder if there are children involved, but I have a feeling that had my ex and I been parents, we'd have amicably come to an arrangement that suited above all the children, and secondly ourselves.

Breakup periods out of the worst people, worst, most dangerous instincts of revenge and defense. Those who have been abandoned against their will - that one always takes courage or folly to go, leaving behind a riot - go muster the attack, and those who thought they left to see their happiness and selfish change their mind and get in game enemies. Loves abruptly followed by periods of intense burning hatred. Those who could not breathe once you get one without the other choke malice, indignation, disgust at the decision not to participate and they can not accept. Former boyfriend is suddenly a miserable creature who said they despised her from the beginning, but, of altruism, of kindness, they get stubborn, wanting to change it happiness. Where does our love go? What makes us choose the generosity of our partners who are lovers wrapped in an aura of tenderness and splendor, beyond which no defect does not seem mean or sustainable? How about those who harbor and we were meant for the soul becomes the benchmark, only because we love monsters that want to kill them only after I tortured extensively, taking their homes, children, name and joy of living? The opposite of love is not hate, is indifference. Cat still hate, our love is not extinguished altogether, but they remained only poison, just tearing. Only when we look back not in anger, when we succeed, again, to wish good man who once lived with us as we ought to be any good neighbor, it means that we went over really love more than a disappointment and, forgetting, forgiving, we are given the chance to love again. And to be happy.