when love dies
By matt24
@matt24 (25)
Philippines
August 31, 2007 1:30pm CST
have u been in a relationship that has passed the tests of time.however u wake up one day, and find that ur no longer in love.how do u deal with this?ive been married for awhile.we had some fights that we overcome.kissed and made up.and after all, the obstacles we go through in life,we still end up asking, do you still want to go on with this person.the answer is suprisingly yes.i keep asking why then i get thoughts of giving this person up everytime we have a fight.strangely enough,i came up with answers why we choose to be with someone and yet it didnt matter if hes gone.definitely love has been lost and one more thing, RESPECT.fights are typical occurence. but when he starts calling you names, yelling at you like youre some kind of slave/servant,treating you like sh**,lookin at you so low in his most furous state,it all goes down the drain,sadly ur confidence as well flushed along with it.it is when u reach the point where you as a woman dont feel like a woman anymore'it all falls down.yet u know to urself u never treated him the way he had treated u.u tell urself then, u dont deserve this.its just time to go
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7 responses
@wyy3265576 (6)
• China
1 Sep 07
well,i can understand your feeling.i am a chinese
when i've leaved my family,i missed my home very much and i feeled that everyone around me didn't like me.i was sad.but time has fly,i feel better.i think time can cure any pains.
@patels (65)
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6 Sep 07
iam sameer and iam 18 years old and i loved a girl, she is so prity, beautiful and talk to me every day ,she never forget to call me whether it is a day or a night if she loves me and respect me then i will never live her till i die or if she lives me not responding to my views, i will make her to respond me and i will my level best to regain her in my life
@lissienpaul (478)
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
Married life happens because you felt that there is something good in that person that turned you on. Aside from physical attraction, you found something intangible in that person, then you decide that you get married.
In marriage, spouses should stay together, pass through tough times, enjoy the good times and thank God for whatever you are going through no matter how painful, not to mention when you are problem-free.
God said, be patient with each other. A man should be a spouse of only one woman. Bear with each other. And do not separate from your spouse.
If you think you did all you can to save your marriage, and if separation is your last solution, you might want to test it for a while, do not commit to anyone, and continue hoping that soon you might be back in each others' arms.
@fredgame (1260)
• China
1 Sep 07
Life is a great challenge to humans. God doesn't tell us who should you be your right pair as we've learnt from the bible he made a woman from a man though some believers say they have revelation from God who they should be married to.
For most beings it's a try and error process. THE believers(christians) would rely on God to help them make the choice while it sometimes prove wrong and others right. i think with marriage the couple should always think of the kids and respect their relatinship. Most at times, i do blame the men, for they bring up many accusations upon the women and looks guard that they've caused them not to look like they former youth time and therefore bring frustration upon them.
too much of abuse is unbearable. i pray for you.
@kennedee (156)
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
I guess it's really strange how we can love a person too much but it time the sparks fades away. Even if this happen I don't believe that love is loss, why would I feel hurt, and why would I still care for him if I really don't love him anymore. and yet when we're together I can't feel the same happiness I felt when we're only starting our relationship. This things really makes me feel sad and confused. It's really hard to love the person the same way you've love him before when you cannot respect him anymore.
@here2learn (210)
• United States
1 Sep 07
I blame society for love "dying". If media didn't try to control what love is and how early and often you should get it i think the world would be better. Most people want to get a girl/boyfriend/husband/wife because that is what they are supposed to do. So most people end up marrying someone who is wrong for them because they were pressured. I think if people married who they were supposed to instead of who was there that would not happen.
There would still be different stages of love. Maybe one day you can wake up and not feel romantic or as se*ually attracted to the person but you time has given the two of you a diff kind of love. Well that is my theory anyway. I am not in a serious relationship right now and i don't know about yours but that is what i think in general.
