How far back?
By candy111
@candy111 (240)
Philippines
August 31, 2007 7:22pm CST
Lets say you post a new discussion and were not able to come online for a week, do you go back and runs through all the discussions that you have started and read/respond to postings even if it was a week ago?
When you post a discussion, you are given a list of similar postings, do you check when it was posted and the last response? If it was a month ago or more do you still add a comment because you do have an opinion on the topic even if it has been a while that it had any response?
When you start a new discussion do you make sure to read through all the comments and reply to those that responded whether it is just to thank them for their response?
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5 responses
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Sep 07
I always read and rate, but I don't always reply to every single response... and there are several reasons why. Sometimes I just don't really have anything to say other than "Thanks for responding" which mylot rules specifically say not to do.
Also, sometimes if I start a discussion about something really negative and then when I come back I'm in a better mood, I won't reply to responses to that discussion in order to not get back into the negative mood. While some people might get upset with me for this, it's a matter of protecting my own sanity. *shrugs*
Other times I'll just have discussions that get so many responses it's overwhelming, and I'll read and respond to them a few responses at a time, in order to avoid being overwhelmed. Sometimes then even if I get to them all, it will be over a course of a few days.
Honestly I enjoy responding to other people's discussions more than starting discussions most of the time, so I don't start that many unless I just happen to have a lot in my head at the moment. That's been the case for me recently, but since I'm also in ill health my participation is kind of spotty. I figure my friends will understand. =)
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@candy111 (240)
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
Well, based on several of your responses to my discussions, you definitely do post well thought of answers and definitely give very good advice to newbies like me.
I like playing devil's advocate, so sometimes I post something thats so absurd as I want people to think and respond and start some intellectual discussion going.
My problem is, my mood swings so fast, that there are times I post something and just a minute later I have to ask myself, where the heck did that come from? hahaha.
Plus, because of those swings, sometimes, I can just keep posting and have so much insights and opinions I want to share about any topic that catches my eye, then the next day, i dont even have the energy or the inclination to check mylot. It makes me feel a bit guilty starting something and not even bothering to look back at the answers til a few days later. By then, sometimes, not even worth the effort to respond. Thats why I wanted to find out whether other people here share the same feeling as I do.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Sep 07
Thanks for your kind words. =)
Sometimes I'll also abandon discussions just because there's too much fighting going on there. I really don't generally intend to be controversial, but I'm just naturally not mainstream, so I guess I make people mad just by being myself a lot of the time. If I'm in the mood for it, I'll keep going on a discussion even if people are fighting there, but sometimes I just get to where I'm not in the mood for it or it's become the same fight the same people have been having for months, and it's just not worth it anymore. =P
I do try though, at least to respond to a few so that people know that I'm reading, and recently I even made a separate discussion just to explain that I had abandoned a discussion in order to avoid going back to the negativity I had been in when I started it. That was pretty well-received, so I think overall mylot people are willing to be understanding. In the almost nine months now that I've been here, I've met far more nice people than mean ones, so I guess I feel comfortable being myself and just doing what I feel like instead of worrying too much about it.
@candy111 (240)
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
Sounds like a plan! hehehe did I just say that earlier? Now I can see why it is good to have people on your friends list as well, especially people that through various postings you know think the way you do about things, not necessarily agree about the same things.
Debates are fun, when its not a fight but a sharing of opinions. I started a controversial discussion last week and I actually got very strong replies, and it was fun to reply to what they said. Sadly, the last response I got on the topic was something like, "you're just crazy", that was such a turn off for me, not because of what was said, but for me, if you are going to call someone that, at least explain why you think so (hahaha I couldnt help myself, I actually asked him why he thought I was crazy, not that I deny not being one)
But it does seem like you do participate a lot here, not just because of the number following your nick, but ive been here for roughly 2 weeks, and I get almost a least 5 responses from you within 2-3 days? :)
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
1 Sep 07
I do, I do all of this.. I hate that fact that some people just reaqd through, and dont respond, or the people that don't even read it...
I had a response today that said you probably won't read this, but I do... I read all of them. I try to respond to all of them even if it is just to thank them for posting or thanking them for taking the time to read my discussion.
I do put my opinion on some discussions even if it has been a while since anyone responded, so I hope other people go back farther and read through their old discussions too.
thank you for the interesting topic.
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@candy111 (240)
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
Sounds very reasonable, and I'm right I suppose that you are in this not just for the money definitely, if you actually take that time to read through the responses to your discussions or comments. That takes a lot of discipline and I applaud you for such :) It is really a thrill for me to read through peoples discussions, sometimes I laugh, wondering, hey wow, how did he come up with that interesting topic?
Hopefully I will get the hang of this and be able to accomplish what you are doing. Right now for me it seems like some days I just start discussions some days I catch up on all the previous discussions that I have started.
Its only now that I am starting to also try and rate the discussions and comments, and even marking best response, I do not know how important this really is (hahaha I should go back to a previous discussion I started on this)
I was offline for a day and now its like, HELP! How do I catch up on everything. :)
@jennawinseverytime (377)
• United States
1 Sep 07
Ill always respond in hopes that they will read that post again.
@sunshinecup (7871)
•
1 Sep 07
Yeah I will go through them reading and rating, as well as trying to reply to them as much as possible. I like showing those that took the time to reply that I do take the time to read and think about what they had to say.
@candy111 (240)
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
I will learn from the pros like you :) I've had quite a few questions posted as a newbie and you have definitely shared your experiences quite well and have given pretty good advice.
Yes, it is nice to see when people reply to your postings or comments, makes staying here a worthwhile learning adventure.
@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
1 Sep 07
Hi there. When browsing through any discussions, no matter how old or new they are, if it interests me, or if Ive had similar experiences, or if I can relate to it, I will definetly respond... I reply and positive rate to every response given to my discussions...
