Can U be friends with the person who once was your girl/boy friend?

hello there Comeonmolly, I believe that one can be friends with someone who was once ur girl/boyfriend if and only if the seperation was in good terms. i mean, both of them decided that thy're relationship is not doing well and might as well depart. but of course, there are circumstances that it is very difficult for a person to befriend someone whom he/she had a relationship with. it may be because the other p[arty is still in love with the other one or the parting was not mutual and some things that were said that should not be said.

i think you can be but just make sure that his or her intentions are clear. smiles, apple.

I have tried, they're too insane and I don't want to be around them ever again,lol.

Of course you can..I have remained close friends with most of my ex's actually and i wouldnt have it any other way....There was a reason we were initally attracted to one another and just because intimately it didnt work out doesnt mean there isnt still a connection on some level ya know...

well, that is possible buy i agree on the degree of awkwardness at some point. but people have learned a lot already from past experiences and seem to have overcame the general phenomena, so some were also successful in maintaining a good friendly relationship. it is a lot better i think because there were previous attachment and things can be addressed easier - both knows each other in the first place.

Yes of course. But it depends on what's the reason of you being parted. Do u waste the moments you share for each other, the love, the care. Your relationship lost,but the moments and memories between you and your love one must not be easily forgotten.

It all depends on the reason that led to our departure-if it was not traumatic, then why not, we can still be friends.

why not? i think it's not too difficult to do that ,maybe when i fight contact to my friends after that i would not try to have relationship with her any more!!! but if there wasn't any real problem i would try it again...perhaps after some times both of us can feel better than before....

hi there Molly, only time can tell if you will be friends. You can give it a chance and see what happens as time goes by.. maybe? maybe not? if you treat him with kindness, please expect kindness in return. the love may fade, the friendship may begin, but also you have to share your emotions towards a new love soonner or later.I have tried always to stay friends with my past love. a good luck charm to you! -cliff

H[i]i molly, I do know if this is possible to all but I have in my past who are open-minded and we are still friends but I also have one whom I preferred no to talk with or communicate with for some reason![/i]

hey comeonmolly!I've only been friends with two of my ex-boyfriends.And that's only because we weren't physical while we were dating.I guess it's better being friends with the non-physical ones cos then we wouldn't decide to be physical again.don't u think?

Yes I think you can. I think if you started as friends first it's a lot easier to go back to being friends. I think the only way you can go back to being friends is that if both of you really don't have any more romantic feelings towards one another. If you still like the person as more than friends or the other person likes you as more than friends then you are kidding yourself. The person who wants to be more than friends with the other person but says they just wants to be friends will wind up getting hurt even more if the other person starts to date someone else.

No. I rather not. So far, I choose to keep a distance from my ex boyfriends. I do this not because I still like them. I do this because they no longer deserve my time and friendship. I think this way because they hurt me greatly. If it was an amicable breakup, I think we could still be friends.

Hi Comeonmolly, Well, I don't think it would be a trouble for me for this. I am now still being friend with a girl that I fell in love with, but she is married now. It happens that the friendship is somewhat different than before, and surely not that close than used to be:). And I couldn't imagine what the two guys would treat either other if they are not friends any more when departed:)

Yes, I think that it is very possible. I have a friend who I dated and cared a great deal about but we didn't stay together as a couple. However, we are good friends just as we were before we dated. I think that if you have a good friendship and you don't have a horrible relationship then it will work out that you stay friends.

It is not wrong in this case, if the two of them want to be friends with each other they can.Myself I think it is dificult because evry time you are not agreed in something you can get out in your defence something from the relationship you had together in front of other peole that doesn't know that fact.Not just this there are other reason for example friends spend their time fien with each other if you've not spend the time fine together when you were a couple how do you think to spend it as friends.