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Does your spouse bf/gf ever buy you the wrong thing - repeatedly?
By Amy
@artemis432 (7474)
Abernathy, Texas
September 2, 2007 12:57pm CST
I'd like to preface this with saying that my spouse is well meaning but maybe doesn't listen.
Yesterday he went grocery shopping at Walmart. He usually does, I dislike shopping and he doesn't mind at all - depending on the time of day. The last is the topic for another discussion - about Walmart.
I asked him to get me Johnson's and Johnsons no tangle conditioner (I know baby stuff but great). We already have a few shampoos, I'd said, but you could get the shampoo as well if you want - especially if there is a package deal. But be sure NOT to get me a shampoo and conditioner combo - like a conditioning shampoo - this NEVER NEVER works on my hair and I've several times with several shampoos. He made his own semblance of assent.
I also told him that I need a cheap piece of posterboard because I'm making an affirmation - inspiration - visualization board - it actually helps tremendously. I've seen similiar ones done on the show, "Starting Over". I didn't add all that extra detail but I did say it was a challenge finding things to cut out for it from the magazines we have on hand, things like Time Magazine and Parents Magazine. Better to get things like Cosmo - juicier word pool and pictures.
So he comes home and he's gotten me Johnson's and Johnsons brand bottle - and its for curly hair - bonus! But guess what - its a combo!
I look on the desk and he's gotten me a very nice - sketch pad and markers. The great thing about this is of course that he thought he was being extra nice - an entire sketch pad and markers. But not good in the context I needed it.
However, not wanting to be negative or wasteful - I rip off the cardboard in the back - and actually it pretty perfect. I can use the paper to draw clipart for my cards - to scan into the computer and the markers - we can save for my baby for when he's older or give to a neighbor with an older child.
As an added note, he also got me straws - which I hadn't asked for but love. Especialy as, although I don't drink a lot of soda, I do drink it with a migraine and well - sometimes when I don't have one since marrying my husband - who loves sodas. Straws make sugary drinks marginally better for your teeth.
So, has this ever happened to you? Have you ever sent a spouse or bf/gf - or maybe your mom or your kids out and repeatedly get the wrong thing when they get back?
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6 responses
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 07
In my case not for getting wrong thing to have but always she said she forgot to buy it. Normally when she wanted to go to the shop I always add on a small stupid stuff, let say for a cheap disposable type of shaver. And never put on paper as an additional list. And that is my bad habit and always happened that way. So when she came back, always said these words to me, "oh honey, I forgot about it and I'm sorry". So what to do, I cannot reprimand her for that case, you know why? Because of that bad and stupid attitude for "always". Both of us are sharing an equal for "always". I always for 'add on' and she on always 'forgot'. So what to do, thats life.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
2 Sep 07
This is true. It takes 21 days to change a habit though! Maybe you can keep a list on the refrigerator. That way, when things like - disposable razors run out - you add it to the list - and she in turn, uses this list as well and adds to it before she goes to the store...does that make sense?
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
2 Sep 07
This totally made me giggle. Like my husband - he tried - he was truly trying to do the right thing. What stumps me is that - like when my husband isn't sure what I want or can't find it - we both of cell phones!
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@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
2 Sep 07
That is so funny!! My husband does that same type of things sometimes, especially trying to be nice and getting you something better than you asked for-poster board. And he always buts extra stuff at the store, I decided yesterday that I am not going to ask him to go get me anything at the store. He went to get milk because we were almost out and a load of french bread for dinner (spaghetti). He comes back with $60 worth of groceries!!! It was all stuff we could use, not that we needed. But now we are strapped for cash because he went on a spending spree for no reason!
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
2 Sep 07
Yep! And if I put stuff on the list and we only have so much money - instead of getting things for himself and for me - he gets mostly my stuff - or when he doesn't want to get too much - because of long lines - he just gets what I want.
We are both such easy going people, I have to remember how giving he is and of course know if he's in a hurry or we're on a budget!
@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
4 Sep 07
My fiance is the one who dislikes shopping, so he rarely will go to the store for me. When he does, he usually calls me from the store, while he's standing in front of a shelf, to double check what I wanted him to buy. :) So he's actually pretty good about getting me what I wanted.
I suspect that some day in the future, when I'm not able to answer his questions while he shops, he will probably buy the wrong stuff for me, and then I'll have this question to bring up. :)
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
4 Sep 07
I think he's smart, if you're not sure or don't know call. I had a boyfriend in Alaska who would call me from the store while he was debating about buying different kinds of one item or different brands and he would read me all the labels and stand and debate the merits of one over the other - pretty much to himself - with me on the phone....
From all of your other posts, it seems like you guys are good for each other, working out systems. And he is aware enough of himself to know his challenges and ask you for help.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
oh it happened to me..
i was in the house with my kid and my husband was in work... i didnt notice that hes running out of milk... it was 12pm and my husband come home on 6 pm... so i called him to buy a can of milk and diapers too... i told him the milk "s26 progress gold" and text that to him repeatedly... he said yes my dear so i was expecting that he could get me the right one...
he came home happily with the 2 cans of milk and the nappy but when i saw it, its different from what i said! its s26 but not the progress gold... lol so i told him that uh what is this? he said thats the milk then i said no!!! hhahahahahaha and then he read his messages and say oh no!!!!!! sorry! better change it tomorrow
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
3 Sep 07
Yes! Even if its written down, he'll get close but not what I wanted.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
4 Sep 07
lol.. I can;t complain about other's memory though. My migraines are worsening and the after effects seem seem to be impaired cognitive ability - and well, it seems the next day too the pain had burned through my memory. Today, at my son's 9 month well baby appoinment, my husband waited with my son in the waiting room while I used the restroom. He'd already been called when I cam out. So I went to the inner office and told them what happened. A nice woman asked the name of the doctor and I I drew a complete blank for several long moments before remembering. Okay, so you say that's not too bad - but it gets worse - she asks the name of the patient - my son - and I draw another blank! Even though in additon to sweetie, snoogs, snoogin, and bubba I say his name several times a day! Okay, it may not only be migraines from the wknd today though, I found out yesterday my mom is in intensive care - she's 73 -. Geez this was a lengthy ramble.
@Michelle662 (52)
• China
3 Sep 07
My habitual thought tell me that usually male dislike shopping while female tend to be fond of shopping.
And my bf is among the usual ones.
But he will accompany me to shop for most of the cases.
That is not easy for him.
So if he does get something wrong, well, he is supposed to be forgiven.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
4 Sep 07
I always forgive him this. I hate shopping. And although I dislike all the unhealthy stuff he puts on the list next to my healthy choices - its a guilty pleasure knowing he will go and buy all my favourite things I keep off my list in favour of healthy choices.
