What can I do to help him?

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Canada
September 2, 2007 9:34pm CST
My husband stopped drinking almost three years ago cold turkey. Today he really wanted a drink and I didn't know what to say to him...I had given him the ultimatum that if he didn't stop drinking I would leave him and he stopped. So how can I help him when he says he is ready to have a drink?
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Amber
@AmbiePam (92865)
• United States
3 Sep 07
Talk, talk, talk to him. Or don't talk to him. Take a walk in silence. Anything until the urge passes. I guess he never went to AA and got a support thing going?
taylorblue
@taylorblue (1286)
• Canada
3 Sep 07
He was going to go to rehab...but thought he didn't need it. After today I wonder if that was a really good idea? We did end up going to a park and he walked with me holding my hand and then threw rocks with our son in the water. He was just being quiet.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (92865)
• United States
3 Sep 07
I hope he decides to get professional help. You have done all you can. Your understanding is a lot, but I hope he knows it isn't so bad to lean on a different kind of support. I know it saved my uncle's life.
raychill
@raychill (6525)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Maybe like... Smoking. Have him pick up another habit to do instead of drinking. or, even better. My dad tried to quit cussing once. So he'd put a dime in a bottle every time he said a bad word. Have your hubby do that. Even a penny could work. and you'd get some money!
mummymo
@mummymo (23706)
•
3 Sep 07
Oh wow Taylor that is a difficult one! I do think he has done really well not having a drink in 3 years but I think if he has a problem with drink (alchoholism is not the only problem) you have to be loving but firm with him! One slip is so easy to make but then it leads to another and another! I do wish you luck sweety and i will be thinking of you xxx
Malyck
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
I would imagine this meant that your husband used to be a big drinker? If he's gone this long, and knows the cost of getting back into it, and you're okay with the occasional drink, then I'd say yes. Definitely talk with him and make sure that he understands that it would be *occasional* drinking, if you are okay with it - that if it gets out of hand then the ultimatum is still in place.
daisymao
@daisymao (46)
• China
3 Sep 07
Some small drink is helpful,if your husband wanted to drink you can give him small and say "please"to him.He will not know what haved happen?So he don't drink sufficient.You can do it to your husband.
foshou
@foshou (17)
• China
3 Sep 07
You can say drinking is bad for heath ,I want to live a happy life with you . I believe you can conquer your appetite. I think distract his attention is very important. Doing sports , traveling , having a walk is great .
Calais
@Calais (10893)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
Wow, thats deep.......I would not know what to say...It sounds like a really difficult situation to be in....I just hope that all is good.