as a single mom how will you be able to stand having 3 kids...?
By alysya
@alysya (159)
Philippines
September 4, 2007 1:14am CST
If your a single mom... your husband died leaving you with 3 kids 7,2 and 1 year old kids... how will you be able to live and stand for them?
3 responses
@vinzen (1020)
• India
4 Sep 07
Of course it will be very tough, but time is a greater healer and it life teaches you to stand up and live life for your kids and yourself and you will be surprised to know that you are able to do things that you have never done before, when you are all by yourself. Somehow that inner courage and stamina comes, which was lying dormant in us all these years.
When we have our fathers or husbands there to care for us, generally, we also dont bother much to know much about the wordly affairs thinking they are there to take care and we are dependant on them, but after they are gone or if we loose them, we realise their loss and also we are able to feel that energy that God gives us from within, and are able to do everything ourselvs, effeciently.
The situation would all depend upon how educated you are, if your husband left you any assets or money, if you are working or a housewife. If you are already working and do have some assets and bank balance, then life will carry on and within little time you will be able to take the position of your husband and yourself. The problem arises if you were just a housewife and have not much of bank balance etc. Then for sometime you would have to be dependant on your family and learn to and start to work to earn form your kids and maintain them. Family suppport is a must, but yopu will be able to come out of it.
Remember, ' tough times dont last, tough people do'.
@alysya (159)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
I am working and having my own small business... through the help of my parents I started having my own recycling company, at first It was very hard but with prayers and a lot of hard work I feel like I now have a somewhat or close to having a stable source of money. to everyone who can read this having the same situation as I do, prayer is very important and also HARD WORK, being alone having a lot of burdens doesn't mean you have to feel depressed at all times, if you will feel depressed your children will also do and feel the same, being alone doesn't mean it's the end of the world, remember your children are all depending on you, and how you deal with your life is how they will become in the near future...
@vinzen (1020)
• India
5 Sep 07
I am glad to hear that you have learnt to live life, though it must be very tough at times, but you learn to fight and brave it up isnt it, yes, prayers and the support of parents is alwasy needed. And its nice to hear that you have your own small business too, that must be keeping you rather busy as well.
Yes, you have to be a role model for your kids now, with no moment of unhappiness, at least in front of them , lest they pick that up from us, always be cheerful and positive in front of the kids i feel. Hope God gives me more courage and bless you too. Have a nice day.
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
25 May 08
Before I married my hubby, I was a single mom to 3 boys ages 3, 18 months, and just born. It was not without its hardships, but I did manage to survive!
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
23 Oct 07
It would be a very hard time to go through but I believe that we can do anything with prayer and a lot of hard work. It is very possible to be a good mother and still work and it is possible to raise good kids being a single mom.
I feel for you that you lost your husband but just remember that those kids need you more now than ever before as I am sure that they miss dad just as much as you do and that they can't express it like you do. Try to keep his memory alive with them though and never stop them from talking about him!!
