Fed Up With Life & Tried to Suicide...Please Help!
By indiavani
@indiavani (863)
India
September 4, 2007 11:04am CST
Hello! One of my friends tried to suicide three times, first by trying to hang herself to death, next consuming poison & recently took a blade & cut her nerves on hand. She felt she didn't succeed last two times, so she may not now too, so she has made cuts on her hand more than 10-15 times. But she is alive. She was admitted to hospital & now she is back home.
I went to meet her. She says she is fed up of her life as she thinks her life is always dark. She also says nothing can happen positive in her life. She is totally broken. When I aksed the reason, she says: Her dad is very strict, so she had to behave like grown up when she was a child & she missed most of the childhood activities. Then, when she came into teenage & made friends, her friends kept away from her as her dad was strict. Then, she made a boyfriend whom she loved a lot, but he left her after few months of relation for some other girl. And, so on...she has a long list of her unhappiness.
I am really feeling bad for her, but not understanding how to cheer her.
I told her to think about happy moments of her life, they may be few, but it is not possible that there's no such moment. Also, I told her to now try to concentrate on her studies, career & then she can live life her way when she becomes independent. What else should I say?
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12 responses
• United States
4 Sep 07
I think you need to be a supportive friend and not judge her. What she does need is some professional help, even if you go with her to make sure she gets it. I know there is alot of hotlines, or human help centers. Try calling some of these and see if its possible for them to help to. I think that while you can help, you also need some professionals, and by all means go with her for support. There is nothing wrong with getting help for depression, so hopefully with your help and a few others she can get some treatment.
@linoxy (283)
• Cyprus
4 Sep 07
I totally agree. You're right. she needs professional help and true friend, tru listener. I undestand that there are many ups and downs in life, I had them too. But it is up on how strong person is to overcome any of this. Some people are not strong enough to handle their everyday life. But with real support from you, I can see that you're real friend to her, and professional help, the problem can be solved in a desired direction. Send my best to your friend. Hope she gets better soon.
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@indiavani (863)
• India
5 Sep 07
I am not judging her. I am just trying to help her out. Then, about professional help, she is already on medications. Thanks for responding!
@MaryannaHope (96)
• United States
4 Sep 07
I am so sorry for what your friend is going through, and I am also very sorry for how frustrated and hopeless you feel in helping her. It is very difficult to actually help someone who is as depressed as your friend. The best thing to do is to listen and let her know that you care about her and are there for her. I know that I used to feel this way and someone told me that if I allowed my abusive past to continue to keep me down, I was only allowing my abuser to continue to abuse me. Before, I had no choice. But as an adult, I DO have a choice. Hearing those words empowered me and it made all the difference.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
5 Sep 07
Ask her to spare a thought for God! If she has tried thrice and still survived, God must be having some scheme for her LOL. but jokes apart, tell her to hang on for some more time. Her Hitler of a Dad won’t be alive for eternity neither will she always be a consenting teenager. If her friends left her coz of her dad, they were not her true friends, if the guy left her for another girl, she is better off without him. There is more to life than friends and boyfriend. I know that teenage time is the most difficult and we all yearn for peer acceptance and freedom but not are so lucky. Maybe her luck is waiting for her somewhere after a few years. And yes, tell her to be more serious about her studies and careers. Dads are always overprotective of their daughters but if he sees that she is concentrating hard on studies and career instead of just wasting time brooding, he may yet take her seriously and give her some freedom.
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@indiavani (863)
• India
5 Sep 07
I agree with you, but not the part you have written about her dad giving her freedom because he is really a hitler. He is mentally sick it seems as he discriminates people. So, I think she has to work hard by concentrate on studies & career to get freedom. But anyway, thanks for responding!
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
5 Sep 07
You are being a very good friend, but what she needs is professional help. She has many symptoms of serious depression. Make sure she goes and sees someone and talks about her issues.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
5 Sep 07
I think you have given your friend a very valuable suggestion which will onyl motivate her towards her future life.I think when she improvise in her career she can live a better life and offcourse get the happiness of whatever she has missed all these years.But surely the childhood days cannot be back but she can atleast enjoy the rest of life in a colour ful way.
moreover making some good friends and interaction will also help her.She should feel happy that she has got some friends like you who cares for her life.You can ask take her to counselling so that she will regain positive attitude towards living.
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@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
5 Sep 07
Try to convience her that life changes rapidly and at any given moment hers could change to..She has to make changes within her self to make things better..She may need medication as well. A anti depression.sometimes helps..but it sounds like its her sitiuation as well..her live will not always be this way..It will get better..things get bad sometimes real bad before they can get better..Does that make any sense..I hope so...If things were great all the time we wouldnt appreciate life as much....
@bonnielass (484)
• United States
5 Sep 07
you cannot cheer her up she need imediate psychiactric help...
if she doesnt get it im scared for her...
@cristobert (332)
• India
5 Sep 07
I'm very sorry for friend and glad that you want to help her out.
Would suggest that you show your friend a movie by name "It's a wonderful Life" starring James Stewart and directed by Frank Cappra. This movie will explain how one individual is able to change the lives of people in this society.
If you are a friend I'm sure you can give her good support,time and encouragement.
@kumar27 (129)
• India
5 Sep 07
only the thing i can advice u to tell her to make a friendship with her mind too in order to find those caused that vex her to find emptyness and making her fed up of life. i am sure she will win.tell her not to hang around outside world.
sher is greater than any kind of negetivity.
@prasad6blr (95)
• India
5 Sep 07
Advice your friend not to do that again, it only speaks that she is a coward in life and not ready to face the life as it comes.
You cannot end your life as and when you wish, but there is the other person (i.e., GOD) who is the sole authority for that. You will be alive and live a wholesome happy life.
Everyone's life is with ups and downs, there is no person with only downs or only ups as your friend is thinking.
Tell her that this is only a passing phase and there will be good days to come and cherish those days.
Tell her not to do that again and comfort her.
@engriakinro (18)
• Nigeria
5 Sep 07
You have adviced rightly. She's not destined to die young and there is nothing she can do about that. She should face her life, studies and every other thing she has to do as a teenager till when she has her freedom. If she wants to gain every thing back then, she will
