Long Distance Parenting
By jackxav
@jackxav (660)
Philippines
September 4, 2007 11:08pm CST
Parenting is about being involved,being loving and being available.'im from phils,i have to lovely daughters.I dont have good work here,and im just single mom.Just my lover supports me as well as my daughters. But i want to help my lover to support my daughters.Since my aunt is in canada,she wants me to get here and have a good work there.She told me i can just stay my daughters with my parents.But im worried about my daughters and my love. ..what should i do? I know if ever ill be far away with them it will not be easier for my daughters. Do i have to go there or just stay for the seek of my daughters and my love?what are some tips of maintaining healthy relationships while being far away? Do u have any love ones whos far away from u?
4 responses
@danica_rose5253 (9)
• Philippines
8 Sep 07
Long distance parenting
Children feel they are not loved by a parent who doesn't see them regularly.Children interpret lack of contacts as lack of love.So that children feel loved,it is very important for parents to work together to encourage a healthy relationships between children and their far away parent.
Regualar contact by telephone and by mail can go a long way to show love to children who live far away.It lets them know parents think about them often and still love them.The key is SHOW and TELL.
Hope this will help you jackxav.If ever u really want to go.Here are some of my tips to be always in contact with love ones.
good luck to your life and be happy alwys!
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
7 Sep 07
If you were going to go to Canada, why would you not take the kids with you. If your aunt wants you there, she should be willing to allow the kids to come too. Your lover could come live there after you got settled in a place of your own. I would talk to my kids and my lover and see what they wanted me to do, however; you must follow your heart and do what is best for you and your kids!
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
8 Sep 07
Yes,you have the point thre.But as what my aunt say,i can't bring kids cos i will work there and no one will take care of them there.As you said,i have to follow whats in my heart...thank you so much Carolscash,u have a nice respond and great adviced.take care ya! god bless...
@Philxav (733)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 07
Dear Jackxav, your intentions to support or i rather say to ease your lovers burden is really great. Your lover should be really gifted to have you. You live in Philippines and you said you wanted to go with your aunt in Canada.. well jacxav its not near and you also must remember when you go abroad to work you are tied with some labor laws where you cant go back to your home anytime you like.. moreover that cost of traveling.. surely very high. Leaving your kids to your parents..well fine.. but can you assure that your kids will have the same love and care that you gave them? For sure if you go abroad u have to be there for at least a year so anything happen to your kids.. you cant do anything. To raise your kids to be a better person.. is all in your hands not other.. because you know better what you kids needs then any other person.
@love2love552 (73)
• Philippines
11 Sep 07
Hi girl!hmm..u know what ?im single mom too..i have 2 kids but not live with me,tooooooo hard for me to live everyday with out them ,even i know they both in good hands but being there mother the worry is always there, i check them from time to time but is always defferent if u take care the kids personaly..jack?can i know what is ur lover told u about this?is he allow u to do that?..ur so smart girl,just do what u think best in ur kids and lover....Good luck!!!
