If you are a busy father with no time for your family...
By r_yuen
@r_yuen (332)
Indonesia
September 5, 2007 9:57am CST
I don't want to be a father who is too busy. With the excuse to make a living for my family is not a good excuse. That's the duty, but family still the most important. Company may fired you for not performing. When that happened you can turn to your family for consolations. Does work really the most important things beside family?
I used to think like that, but now it has changed. Lately I realized I don't want to get married if I have to leave my family, my wife and kids behind.
What do you think?
4 responses
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
18 Sep 07
It would be nice if you could stay working in the same city where your family work and live. But have you ever considered about the financial status about the city where you live? I mean, have you ever considered choosing to work in a better-off city to help improve the financial status of your own family to improve their life like having enough money to have a house of your own instead of renting one? Of course, east, west, home is the best. But if you cannot make everything satisfactory in your life, still there is one important thing for you to think about, ie, sacrifice yourself to make them live better. It is not easy to make both ends meet. If you make one choice, you will have to give up another. If you want to live decently, there is nothing you can do but leave for another city for making more money for your family.
Sometimes life is not what you think about. It could be harsh and you would have to make a choice. To live with your family with little money or to leave your family for more wealth depends on your own attitude. To be honest with you, I would choose the latter to make my family live a decent life rather than just enough to live on.
@r_yuen (332)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 07
That's right william. But it's not easy to look for that ideal situation, especially in a city like Jakarta where the traffic jams every day, work stress, and low payment (luckily I have enough). I imagine people who live at the north and west side, the residential area in Jakarta, they drove 2 hours from their house to reach their office and it's every day! I don't want it. It's wasting time. That's why I want to live in the apartment in the central side. It's easier for me to go to office, and it'll be easier if I have family later. I have been thinking of moving, but up until now, the chance is not there. Hehehehe... :) Well... I think I just enjoy what I have here. Too much stress already to think about it. Hahaha....
Hey, thanks for your response my friend.. :)
@vanidiana (7)
• Indonesia
5 Sep 07
I'm much happier when I have my husband stay on weekend. Five work days are enough for me and my baby. I want weekend only for the three of us. So glad that you have the same thought too, I hope you'll find the right person for you.
@r_yuen (332)
• Indonesia
5 Sep 07
Hi vanidiana. You are right. I'm totally agree with you. I have a boss who worked overseas, living his family behind. And it's kind of sad... It's been 3 years and he is just going back home once in 2 weeks. He has one daughter and twins (son). The sad thing is he didn't see how his sons grown up. From 0 years old, he left them. For me, I want my son to remember me. Remember how I drive him to school, go fishing with him, share experience with him. I want to be a good daddy. :)
@batulgirl (30)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
you got a good point their....but we should still understand that adam sandler planned to make his family's life bountyful
@iceblade007 (232)
• Philippines
30 Dec 07
yeah. life is not about the money or the material things that we people use to crave for or dying to have... it's the chance to live a happy and meaningful life with someone special to you... i realized this when my gf broke up with me...
