is it love at 17?

On his part, it probably is true love; on the part of the girl, however, it's obviously not Your son could perhaps be really in love with his current girlfriend, especially if we consider his statement that "all he can think about is her even if he tries to date someone else," as a true effective barometer or gauge of true love. Perhaps we could also consider your son's ability to endure the constant pain inflicted on him by his girlfriend, whenever the latter cheats on him, as a probable manifestation of his true love for the girl. Apart from such, we could probably take into account the fact that your son is an intelligent student (shown by his straight As), and perhaps a popular one at that, especially since he's part of the varsity basketball team, who still opts to continue loving a girl who obviously cannot reciprocate the kind of love your son has given her and continuously hurts him, even if he could perhaps easily date other girls in his school, given his stature or reputation, as another display of his true love for the girl. However, it could very well be likely that your son is not truly in love with the girl, and he just wants to stick it out with her because his ego feels perplexed that an intelligent and probably popular student like him could easily be hurt by the girl. In a way, the fact that the girl could simply hurt him perhaps makes him think that he must prove himself to her, and make her realize that a guy like him is not worthy of such treatment. Considering that your son is an achiever, given what you've stated, it could really be possible that he only considers his relationship with the girl as a challenge that he could eventually overcome and, thus, he still continues to stay with her, despite everything. I sincerely hope that my views could truly help out in broadening this highly relevant discussion, pudgles.

there is a good possiblitly that it may be. i met my now husband when i was 16 going on 17 he was 19 and i too was a senior in highschool. i remeber everyone used to tell me how it was never going to last and that he was just a phase us teenage girls go through..etc.etc. however our relatisohip was healthy there was no cheating or pain , surew weve had our issues but eveery couple has those, but in highschool when your dating and you "love" someone most of the time its is just a "phase" take into account how old this girl is... if she is just as young or younger then for her he may very well be "just a phase" were he is older and more mature and being a senior you start looking at your future. if this girl doesnt stop her ways your son may never be able to move on. talk with him, find out where exactly this girl stands in his life. i hope that your son finds a girl that will treat him better and have a happy heatly long term relationship.. best wishes and god bless

Well I think it is possible. But if she is hurting him as much as you say she is it is not a healthy relationship. I think you should probably try to get him away from this girl. Let him see that true love comes in many forms and that love does not have to hurt. I wish you and your son great luck in life.

Why wouldnt love be possible at this age? I am sixteen and i feel the same about my partner. I find it frustrating when people say that i can't feel anything for im because of my age.

Hi Pudgles.... as markboy said let him to do mistakes...but not mistake that you know he is doing the same mistake again... Its not good for his relation ship and for ur son...

give your trust to your son. give a chance to "learning by doing" on his love life. how bout you when you were 17? and what was your mom do to you when you start dating?

take it easy, mom. when i was 17, i had some boyfriends. frankly, i didn't love them at all, but i really liked them. for me, i don't know what love is at 17 years old. frankly, i will thanks to those my boyfriends. they let me know more about love. now i find my Mr.Right. and we love each other very much. there are some mistakes in the youth for everyone, but they are not all bad.

Well, I can't see this as being true love. The boy is only 17, but apparently, very sensitive. Most likely, he will get hurt a lot, in love situations. But it's very possible that his sensitivity will couple up with common sense, as he grows older. After you're kicked a bunch of time, you usually start to see the light. If I were you, I would just let this go, because it's not going to last, anyway. Of course, you know your own son, better than anyone. If you think talking will help, then talk to him. If he doesn't want to talk about it, then just let it go. Everything passes, and this will, too. I know it must hurt you, as a mother, to see him hurting, but you just have to let him grow up in his own way. Through a broken heart is how some of us learn best.

well if you won't let him make his own mistakes he would never learn.