How do you deal with a miscarriage?

I had a hard time when I miscarried. I got really depressed. It was difficult because I had no one to talk to about it. None of my friends had gone through it. My mom had, but she refused to talk about it. I finally ended up joining an online support group. Being able to talk about it with someone who had been through it and understood what I was feeling really helped.

You grieve. Between my two sons, I lost a baby very early in the pregnancy. Many people couldn't understand why I was so upset since "it wasn't real yet". To me, that was my baby. Maybe my daughter I always wanted. I was so happy when I found out and I had bled with my first so I wasn't too worried when I spotted with this one but it was over fast. My hormones were a mess. I was crying a lot and grieving the loss of a child I would never know. It took time. Ironically I had to have emergency gallbladder surgery a week or two later and I probably would have lost the baby anyway because, at the time, they had to go in and open people up, not just suction out the gallbladder. That didn't make me feel better but I always wondered if it was all as it was meant to be. I would never have had the surgery and a stone was blocking a duct and could have killed me. I guess we never know why things happen. I still think about the middle baby and what he or she may have looked like and how my life would be different but I have two wonderful sons and I am grateful. I bled with the last son too and BOY did I freak out but he was just fine. I guess you just have to grieve for your loss and eventually, it does get easier.

that is terrible to me ! i mustn't let my girlfriend face that!! so before my wedding,i mustn't let her impregnation,because i know miscarriage is a big harm to a woman.but what i worried is she has not menses this month !!BLESS!!my god !