Do you prefer your spouse to be at home or at work?

Well- I love having my sig. other home! Even when we are both home- he works outside a lot—and I work outside too- So we both clean the house- I would take the clutter and just pick up when we go to bed—rather than having him working all the time. My house is not spotless all the time- It’s lived in a lot- but it’s clean- just cluttered from time to time- I love having him home spending time together-

I go either way, it would depend on the day! Sometimes when my husband is home too much it is impossible for me to get anything done because he seems to be in the way. He has never worked more than a 60 hour work week, so we have always had some time together during each day. When I was working nights, I worked 5 on and 5 off. The five days on seemed to drag by and we never got to spend quality time together. But, now our work schedules and our lives are coinciding more and we have enough time to be together, yet not too much time together.

lol...same thing with me. When we had our first child,my husband was working all the time and I would crib about him not helping out. When our son was around 5 and he started spending more time with him, I realized he was undoing all the hard work that I had done...lol. Now when we have our second child and he is home...I realize it's a lot more work for me. All my husband helps me with is holding the baby. I agree that I can get a lot more work done with no baby clinging to me and I appreciate my husband helping out on that front. But I also end up cleaning after my husband all the time. It's like having 3 kids at home...and my older son who was pretty neat and organized has started following his dad's example. Now I wish he'd be at work all the time. But when he's late...I want him to get back and hold the baby so that I get a little time to myself. I know exactly how you feel. Want him when he's not there and don't want him when he's there. When he's not around I forget how he manages to get on my nerves by behaving like a kid. I wish he would be able to work...come back home...be a dad, husband and an individual according to the situation. My husband's not very good at switching mode. When he's in daddy mode..he remains that way for the whole day:P I wish he'd realize that some days I need him alone for myself. Some days I need him to help around the house. Some days I have my hands full and I need him to understand that without being told. I could go on and on about what I want...lol

I would prefer my spouse to remain at home. Working lady can't run a house as it should be. (Don't forget money is also an important factor in a relationship). A man should be well equipped to earn more than sufficient before taking this decision.

I think right now I'm pretty happy with the way it is. He works 4 days a week for about 10-12 hours each day and is home on the weekends. By Sunday I actually start looking forward to Monday night when he goes back to work. Mostly its becasue he constantly has to be doing something and isn't really content with just hanging around the house. I on the other hand am the complete oppisite. I spend most of the week in the house so I've found ways to keep amused and so siting at home all day doesn't really bother me now. I know that starting next month I will hate his work schedule because he'll never be home. His company hits their holiday rush from Oct till Feb so he'll more than likely work anywhere from 12-14 hours a day. Last year there were days where he'd go into work at 5pm and not get home till 10am the next day. It really sucked.

In the old days, wife stays at home and husband go to work.In the modern day, it could be either or both but whatever the case maybe someone has to go to work to support the family, unless you are really rich and have lots of savings, it will not be a problem it you just both stays at home.

I wish she were home more because she hates retail. She could stay home and do her crafts if we could make enough to survive on.We're working towards that goal.

at worl, logic, but when i'm marroage i work and he work, now i'm devorced............myry

I like it when my husband is home. When he has long weekends, I get to sleep in a day, and he gets to sleep in a day. The other one gets up with our son and plays with him. My husband really enjoys his morning time with our son, maybe even a little bit more than he likes extra sleep! :) My husband is also good about helping out with things around the house when he's home. Sometimes he has a project going on outside that he has to do (this week he is putting another storage building in our back yard), but if he doesn't, he will help around the house. It's also nice to just be able to hang out with him. Whether it's watching TV, playing together with our son, or just sitting side by side both working on our computers, it's nice to be together.

Hey!!! How come there's no male response here... In my case, my wife and i work at home. Now, isn't that a wonderful setting. Why work for others where you can earn a living in your own home. Better yet, if you have established a stable biz then let them work for you then you and your spouse will be at home with your kids all the time. 24 X 7 :)

I'm not married but twice I've dated seriously men who's had really busy work schedules that suddenly changed and therefore spend all of their new found time at my house. All of a sudden I became a cook, a housemaid, entertainer and felt like I didn't have any time left for "me" things. Those relationships did not last long after all the extra time. I think we need out alone time more than men do especially since as women we have a lot more grooming and fixing to do then men do. I mean it's not like we wake up and magically are eyebrows are in perfect shape, are legs are smooth, are skin is perfect, fat is gone, our hair is silky and our home is clean, the laundry done and everything is dust free not to mention that every meal is magically prepared as well. And that's not to mention that we need time to relax as well. I almost married a man who ran his businesses out of his home though he did travel every now and then for it. In the end I felt that it would've driven me crazy to have him in the house 24/7. I don't think they realize all that it takes to run a house and how much they really can stand in the way of that.

Hi beautyqueen26, to tell you the truth I rather have hm at home all of time, as we have our spaces, and stay as much separarted as together :) he has his own working space and for me goes the same. When he is at home I love to bring him a cup of coffee and give him a hug, and than i go back to what i have been doing. he does the same for me :) While he is working and away from home I miss him ast the times that i am going downstairs to get myself a cup of coffee, so yeah, I'd rather have him here all of the time :)

I definitely wish my husband were home more. We have fun together when we are all home at the same time. He is gone for months at a time so I would love to enjoy a time where he didn't have to leave so often.

I will wish she can stay home more! I always think what women chase is not the improvement in work but the home and children they own and happy life. If she want to work hard i will support. I will be to esteem she's choice. The situation that we have a good life is what we cherish.

Hello beautyqueen26, I am lucky that my husband loves to stay at home if he has nothing to do. He even stops me from going out too often. Whenever he is at work, he doesn't like me to disturb like calling him every now and then. He feels like I am checking on him if I do so but he doesn't mind if I chat with him online while he is busy working! No matter how busy he is, he will make it a routine to spend some time with me and our baby son after he reaches home, before he heads to his computer room. Most of the time, while at home I can only find him in the computer room, right in front of his computer. I don't have problem with him spending more time at home. He knows how to behave himself *laughs* Sometimes when he feels tension with his work, he will come out and join me to watch a movie and again, he will make a point to spend some more time with our baby before his son goes to sleep. I really get used to it that when I have to live further apart from him for the last eight months, it makes my life upside down *laughs* I think I am happy with the way it is. He does spend those qualities time with his family and I don't mind if he gets busy sometimes and decides to spend more time at work *smiles*