Do you always give advice?
By Mirita
@Mirita (2668)
United States
September 6, 2007 11:35am CST
Sometimes, I see some of my family members making bad decisions ,and is hard for me not to give my point of view. I know that most people take advice for granted ,but is hard for me not to warn my love ones of some of the dangers that they might encounter due to their bad choices in life. I hate to say I told you so ,but this happens most of the times. Do you guys feel obligated to protect your love ones even if they get mad at you sometimes? Maybe is better for people to learn from bad experiences since it takes several mistakes for some people to wake up.
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16 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
7 Sep 07
I don't mind taking advice if it is genuine and not forced.
I do give my opinion when close family members make bad choices. But it's totally upto them if they want to follow it or not. Sometimes they have to learn from their experiences. It helps them grow.
But I never say 'I told you so'. If they have learnt from their mistake, I help them come out of it and then forget about it.
It has happened a couple of times with me.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
7 Sep 07
That is the only thing I hate to do.I hate getting advices to.An adviser should be an example of what he is preaching.
When you need help there will be a lot of people to advice and when you need advise there will be plenty of people to help on that.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
I worry about my loved ones most of the time, that sometimes they think I am being over-protective. What I mean is, they think of me as a cold-hearted, good for nothing relative. Because most of the times, I try to hide it and not to utter such words. I just like to express it on other things, like including them on my prayers and giving them the best I could in providing them a better life.
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@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
I do give advice if a person seek or ask me for it. People has their own minds and own ways about certain things, it's always their own decisions that they will make and follow but if things didn't work out I will be here to help them. I will always be here for the people I love and care for.
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@walkinthecloudz (233)
• Pakistan
7 Sep 07
i believe in this thing that we must learn from others experiences. and i feel advices are very important because they are given on experiences usually. and they have the weightage. in my home i do have lots of experience of a lot many things and i do consult my friends when ever i feel to get a good advice some times but usually i take my decision for my family.:)
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@pismeof (855)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I feel it is always better to offer advise,Whether it is excepted or not becomes the responsibility of the other party.
You can give a brief summation of your opinion and why you feel a particular way.Use examples or particular instances to back the argument.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
7 Sep 07
I don't always give advice but I always always listen - actively and try to guide them towards decisions for themselves. My family - my siblings have a pretty good handle on everything though.
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@besoftandsweet (53)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I also have a tendency to say whats on my mind my oldest daughter and I have had alot of hurt feelings over it she doesn't like it when I tell her what I think. However, all was said with her best interest in mind. She has been very immature and irresponsible in her life and as her mother I always want to do what I could to help even though sometimes it hurt her feelings. Nonetheless if honesty and helping your children are a crime I'm guilty. There is no such thing as bad advice. Advice is something you give it doesn't mean it has to be taken. Take care.
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@jhanna (334)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
My answer would be, "it depends".
If my advice is called for, I would not hesitate to give them especially to my family or my friends or anybody that would need my friendly advice. Even in paid forums like this, I would give some pieces of advice.
It's such a nice feeling to be able to help other people and knowing the fact that they have followed my advice and they would say to me "You know what? You're right". :)
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@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
I always doing some advice when im with my family before.For my youger bro. and younger sister.I advice them to study hard and be a good example.I told them also that they must respect our mom and dad and all people arround.
@yudistirausman (5)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 07
It's human being basic parts that people usually deny on any suggest or critics. however, it's good to say the truth but we have to be wiser to tell that something on someone are nice or worst.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
6 Sep 07
i speak my mind about stuff alot and it gets me into trouble. my husbands brother has an anger problem that is affecting his whole family. everyone else just kind of ignores it but complains about it when he isn't around. i said something and now i'm the bad daughter in law lol. oh well, i feel better that i atleast try to help even if they end up mad at me.
@MrPahn (173)
• Philippines
9 Sep 07
Haha, Well in my way, I give advice to my family member by making them feel mad about me.. I am not sure how it started, but I am the most experience person in our family. I was the one who is well educated so I know better even with my folks. Now, when I try to give an advise to them, it is always followed by a quarrel, I guess it started because I always sound like I am being boastful.. But what the heck, that is how we share thoughts to one another,, by fighting and giving bad comments ^_^
