Are you LOUD in every day's life?
By thefortunes
@thefortunes (2367)
Netherlands
September 6, 2007 5:52pm CST
You know, different people have different voices, but some of us have really loud voices, and when they get angry, or are upset they tend to speak even louder, so much so, that this could provoke a headache by some of the people around. Do you tend to increase your voice when angered by something? Or when something made you upset? And do you hate it, or doesn't it matter for you?
My voice could become quit loud, and I am always trying to not increase the volume, especially since I read somewhere that while speaking calmly and slowly people tend to listen more to you :) Isn't it funny, and actually proving the old saying: With honey you catch more flies than one would with vinegar? :)
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@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
7 Sep 07
Hi Balasri, thanks for jumping in this discussion and sharing your thoughts :) Authority means the oposite of loudness, actually, I was impressed to see leading guys and women in high positions speaking very calmly, even slowly with a normal tone of voice. And people were really listening and following each and every word they were saying. When one is at a leading position, and is loud, people tend to be frightened more, than respecting the person really.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 07
Whatever works for you and you feel at ease with is OK :)
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I have always tried to talk with a level tone. Sometimes it is not an easy thing to do. But, yes, people tend to listen more to a calm person than to one that is screaming.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 07
Thanks for your responce ElusiveButterfly :), and I know how difficult it could be at times, so, again an other saying will be in place here: Count to 10 before you say a word :)
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Sometimes it is better to walk away and say nothing at all.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 07
Definitely Elusive, the thing is though that it is alwasy someone else walking away, not me :)
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Whenever Im with my family Ive noticed my voice gets loud. We have a large family so everyone is trying to over talk someone else.LOL Normally I dont talk loud. I find that people with loud voices tend to get on my nerves.LOL That saying about catching more flies with honey is so so true. And always keep you enemie close.LOL
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 07
LOL TerryZ, and thanks for your responce :) Yeah, about keeping enemies close - cannot agree more with you ;) And about loud families, yeah, I know it as I have such a loud family but I am seeing less and less of them as they live in an other country and the few times that I go there every few years I choose not to even see the majority...LOL
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
There are times I do shout, to atleast let out the feelings I have. I need to express, before it bursts out and for the fear it would turn into rage!LoL
But there are times I don't, I only stay quite and let the though of it fade. Because somtimes, such things can be taken off with good attitude and positive thinking!;)
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 07
Hi Raijin, thanks for your responce, and I agree with the 2nd part of your answer fully. We should strive to get to there more easily and without even trying - as it will have become like a 2nd nature :)
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
8 Sep 07
I think the honey quote is apt in most situations - and also that those who speak calmly and softly are listened to more. Some people when faced with someone yelling will lower their voice.
I'm a typical girl and as a child, when my brother angered me, I would get very high pitched - at times still do - my brother would remain calm and quiet and repeat his thing over and over and over. LOL.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 07
Hi Artemis432, and thank you for jumping in this discussion ;) You are blessed with a soft voice, while mine is not really soft, just normal. And i do understand how some people do get quit when someone else is screaming - this happens between me and my partner, as I am the tempered one, and my temper gets even worse when he remains calm and quit. I haven't screamed to him in what seems ages now, and this is making me proud ;) Control of your temper and angered emotions is a big victory for people like me I think, and you don't even need it, so good for you ;)
@murkywaters (123)
• India
7 Sep 07
although i try to remain calm while speaking to anybody,it is impossible to remain so through out your discussion.and it is unwise to remain so.when you think you ought to make a point you have to make it loud and clear otherwise your small whimpers wont be heard by anybody.i know that it will be irritating for the listener to listen still if you want to get your job done you have to raise your voice not always but occasionally to say your point of view or your protest.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 07
Hi Murkywaters, thanks for your responce in the discussion :)
I agree that ocasionally there is a need to be and get heard. The easiest way to achieve it is when you have all the info needed, (usually after having heard all views and suggestions of the rest) get the word and make your point. Even if you speak with a normal voice - peopl etend to listen to the one who can make the closing speach and present a plan of action.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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7 Sep 07
No - not at all! In fact most people tell me to speak up because they can't hear me!! As I discussed with you in another topic, I don't lose my temper and get angry anyway, but even when I'm upset or crying I tend to just go quieter and quieter. I can't stand shrieking women - ugh! So I guess I'm glad I'm not one! LOL!
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
7 Sep 07
Hi Rosie, and thank you for contributing in this discussion my friend :) I envy your being so composed and easy going really ;) but am doing better, way better than I was before, so there is good hope for me :)
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I am not loud. I'm actually pretty shy and quiet. I get nervous around really loud people. When I am mad or upset I usually just get quieter. It drives my husband crazy.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
7 Sep 07
Hi LightningMD, thank you for contributing in this discussion :) Andyou are so lucky actually, even though it drives your husband mad at times...I'd rather be as you :)
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 07
Yeah...I agree with you 1000% because I've had learned it when I was 40 years old. Previously yes, I will be out loud seem almost to drop the nice sky when I'm angry. And voice out loudly with what ever words that could be.
After I learned a bit about psychology, it worthless to do that way as it is wasting our powerful energy. Better keep deeply inside our body and talk calmly, we can feel that energy accumulating firmly in our inner body, well controlled and we will be more wiser and wisdom to handle anything at that particular moment.
And now I am 46 years old, make me really better as I've been practicing for 6 years of how to accumulate that energy in my inner body and when it will be the appropriate time to storm it out with full blast.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
7 Sep 07
Hi Micheal, and thank you for your responce my friend :) And good for you to have been able to change your ways of doing, and being and handling over the course of the last 6 years. When we stop progressing and changing we are no longer winning, or alive :)
