Is there something you love to complain about - something you bring up a lot?
By Amy
@artemis432 (7474)
Abernathy, Texas
September 6, 2007 6:18pm CST
This is all part of my positve day plan. Think of something you complain about a lot - and then see if you can change your perspective on it somehow - thinking of a situation that's worse, or from another angle, or what you can learn from it - anything.
This whole Law of Attraction thing, talks about being grateful for what we already have and in doing so we leave room for the things we want to be bring into our life.
Its hard - I'm hard pressed to feel grateful right now about my mom being in the hospital - but I'm grateful she's getting stronger and that its bringing us siblings closer together.
I complained recently that my husband doesn't complement. If I say, don't I look beautiful? He'll say - of course - you always look beautiful.
So I made a love notes, requests and reminders box - inviting him to leave complements and affirmations within and that I'll do the same. He left something funny in there. I laughed then got irritated. Yet in the days that followed he reminded me silently of how he shows he cares. My mom is in the hospital and although he listens he doesn't necessarily say I'm glad she's getting better or I'm sorry you're going through this but he did say that if I want or need to I can go now, even though we'll have to rearrange finances and the plan was to visit my mom then his parents on Thanksgiving. He also continued to do all the little things he always does. Like he asked why I hadn't used the cones yet - which he had gotten this weekend because he knows I like them. I said too much work - nor normally but with mom - this morning I woke up and he'd made up a bunch of them for me. I also always say in restaraunts that I wish I had straws at home and he bought me some.
I've been offered a caretaking jobs for weekends and he looked in the course catalog for the university and found they offer a certification for nurses aide - for nursing homes and he went through the courses and saw that many of the Massage Therapy courses I took would transfer - Anatomy and Physiolgy courses and nutrition and the like. They actually pay for certification - but he was thinking about me.
He brings me water at night when he comes home from work, knowing I get thirsty and forget this. He makes me meals when I'm nursing the baby and can't move - or he's fallen asleep on my lap. In countless way he shows his affection and love. He's not one to compliment. That's just him. He feels I should know these things. So I can either nag him - not my personality - or accept the countless ways he tells me he cares and not try to change him.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Well since you and I are both on the Law Of Attraction principles and way of life then you know that we should never concentrate on what we don't have, as that is only attracting more of it in our lives...Also to be grateful for what you do have, and by making a list of what you're grateful for it opens up the doors to bring more good into your life. I'm not really a "complainer" per se...oh, sure I realize that my apartment isn't the Ritz, that I could have better furniture, that I could live in a better place..but I'm just ever so grateful for what I DO have rather than whine about what I don't have. I'm grateful that now I have my own computer...I only got one a few months ago, and yes, there are times I'm shouting at my computer, usually for some dumb mistakes I'm doing, but then I reflect..like wow..instead of relying on the library computers and only getting an hour's usage, I can just pop over to mine even if it's four in the morning. I'm thankful and grateful for my mind, that I can think up articles or stories to write,grateful for my eyesight that I can see the TV, the computer screen, to read, to see The Secret DVD over and over again...I could go on and on with my examples, but I think you get the idea...Just about everything we can think of that is in our lives, we can be thankful and grateful for...so no....I really don't complain that much anymore.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Isn't it good that our computers can't talk back at us? LOL
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
7 Sep 07
This is just what I'm trying to get across in my positve theme tonight. We need to be grateful for what we have to make room - to open up doors as you say. I make mental lists before I go to sleep and I'm going to make an affirmations boards - all the things in my life that are going well, that are good and how I visualize the future.
I like how you put your irritation at the computer in perspective. For me if I get irritated its at the computer or the blinds! My sister used to make jokes or make fun of me which confused me - because all of this laughter would be bubbling up beside the irritation - but it works! My husband if I got irritated would likely make me an ice cream cone or something. He stays really quiet usually if I blow off steam at the computer. I'm sure he finds it amusing!
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
7 Sep 07
What I complain a lot are those boring meetings I hate. In our school we often have meetings. We often have long meetings sitting there for more than one hour. It is so tiring. I am not the only person who complains about the tiring meetings though. I just hope that the leaders will just let us the key things only without making the meetings so long as to bore all of us.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
7 Sep 07
Wait wait - you're not done - the idea is to think of something you complain about and think of something positive about it! Its positive day I've decided. :)
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I love to complain about the school that I'm going too. They just don't take the time to really work with students, so I love to complain about how we're all getting screwed over, how messed up the system is and how stupid all of them are for really not doing their jobs and how us college students are just following them blindly since we're paying so much to be here.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
7 Sep 07
When I complain about something, I have a perfectly good reason. I can find nothing positive about not being able to have born my own children since I was married. I know all the stories people have told me about children being a bother and the pain of childbirth and I know the reason that they told me that ---because they, like many, felt that God does not allow women to bear children because they will harm the their children or their children will grow up to be serial killers.
There are things you should not complain about, like your financial situation, and if you do not work, you cannot complain that you are not as successful as you should be. And there is the fact of being content in the situation you find yourself, but does not mean to just let things slide and not try. That is my take on complaints.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
7 Sep 07
I'm sorry about your inability to bear children. I hope this means, since you love children so much that you help youth groups and maybe have looked into foster care and adoption for those children who cry every night and wish so fervently for a forever home.
I don't know what this sentence means: the reason that they told me that ---because they, like many, felt that God does not allow women to bear children because they will harm the their children or their children will grow up to be serial killers.
I'm confused, God does not allow women to bear children - then how did you and I get here?
I wish you all the best. RT
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
7 Sep 07
Hi Artemis, and Iknow exactly what you mean with your story. My partner is not a comliment giver either. But he does show every day his love for me in countless ways, such as cooking whatever I love to eat, buying stuff I would like to have, bringing often flowers for me. And I told him so many times that a simple "I love you" would suffice qand more than that, but I have accepted already that I cannot change his ways... As to what I am complainin often - the weather here dear friend. I simply hate the gray days, and the rain, and lots of wind combined with the gray and the rain - which is very usual for The Netherlands, and the weather is like this for at least 6 to 7 months a year, and I hate it. So there is no way to stop me from complaining about it, unless i change residence and will finally be in a country (or the island of Tenerife where at least 9 monts of the year there is sun shine and blue skyes). And sure, i am a devoted user of the LOA, and say my "gratitude" list daily when i wake up, and write it in my gratitue note book too, it doesnt stop me from complaining about the weather however :)
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
7 Sep 07
I'm going to start keeping a notebook, usually I play the gratitude game as I'm falling asleep - thinking of things I'm grateful for in different contexts.
