To what degree do emotions such as anger control your life?

I am not easily angered. I laugh at things even when it is tearing out my guts and when I go home I clean and rearrange the house to get rid of the anger or irritation. I hate quarrells so if one is going to develop I get very quiet and refuse to answer. I dont bear a grudge and I forgive easily. I have two mottos in life - Do unto others and you would have men do unto you and be swift to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. Yes these are from the Bible and yes I try to live a godly life so that I can be a blessing to others, NO matter how much I am hurt I forgive just as much. It takes too much energy to keep angry at people and I say that my face must be filled with laughing lines and nothing else. People must always love to be around me because I enjoy being with people even though I love my own space alot and my own company. Hope I made sense.

I don't get as angry as I used to. I used to have a scary temper and would fight at the drop of a hat. But I too have become much more spiritual as I've gotten older and I don't let things or people get to me as easily. I do however remember the wrongs done to me on purpose. If a friend hurts me by accident I can forgive and forget very easily but if they go out of their way to hurt me I never forget it and cannot forgive it. I can be civil to the person who hurt me but they will never again be a possibility of friendship because I could never trust that they wouldn't do it again. If the person who hurt me is just a person I don't know then it's easy for me to just ignore them.

i used to be easily angered because i did not know better. i got angered easily because i had no friends. now, i made friends and i am now happy. making a lot of true friends makes me happy. people that i call friends make me happy because they share a lot of things that i do in my life. i learned that it takes a lot of energy to be angry at someone. i asked myself, why would i even waste my time and energy to get angry? this is just not making sense so instead i just think of something that would make myself happy or just get rid of the bad emotion. getting angry is not a good thing to my life and my health. bad emotions affect my life because if i continue to think of bad emotions then some things in my life would be affected and i don't want to do this. just let the bad emotions go. it is just part of life. things just happen the way they do.

Well - like you, I am a very cool person, so anger doesn't rule me at all. I once said on here that I had never lost my temper in my life - and people didn't believe me! But it's true! I've got irritated and upset of course, been let down and depressed about the bad things that happen, - but screaming, uncontrolled anger just isn't me! I once read an interview with the actor Michael Caine, where he said he was told as a young man never to lose his temper in public, because it only made people "lose face" and appear ridiculous and out of control - and I guess I'm like that! I'm a cool - "don't get mad, get even!" sort of person! LOL! Which of course brings me to the next part of your question. And I have to admit that although I don't believe in lack of self-control or violence, I do not forgive or forget!I may appear to have, as I a always polite and controlled in public, but if someone has hurt me or one of my own (family, partner, friends, pets etc) I never forgive or forget. I don't let it fester inside me or eat me up with bitterness, but I could certainly never trust anyone who had done something bad to me or my close ones. Someone once called me "coolly cynical and typically English" (LOL!) - not sure if it was meant as a compliment or not - but it's probably very true!

I just cannot sustain my anger for a long period, when I get angry I do not feel like talking to anyone but after few hours, my anger vanishes, I feel it is not use prolonging our anger.

My temper is such that -- if left unmanaged -- I would be capable of murder. So I take Prozac and drink a lot of caffeine.

Yup I do get angry but very rarely... I once broke nose of my friend in my childhood and then I was never involved in aany kinda fights till date.... Coz it changed everything n I became a lot cool person after that... ANd now if I get angry on something I try to remember my girl frienz face coz it wipes off everything bad thing that evolved in mind.... Try doing that....I mean just remember the one you love the most when you are angry. Its hard but try it!!!

i seldom freak out to people outside my family. who cares? as long as your interest does not interfere with mine. who cares? i expect my family to be honest to me.... honesty to me is telling someone pointblank that he/she displeases me...etc. and i really get angry at people who tries to defend themselves on commiting mistakes rather than saying sorry. well, anger.. it is one letter short of danger. I cant kill out of it, but it will kill me sure if i wont let it out

I have a horrible temper lol, I keep it under wraps mostly but there are times when it just gets away from me. Thankfully i have never blown up in front of my kids because I walk away before it gets that far but I do worry that one day my temper might flare when they are around. As for grudges, it depends on who has done what to me or my family. If its just something trivial like someone forgot to pick my kid up from school when they promised, yeah i get angry about it and mutter a while but then I let it go. For other things (such as the beatings my dad used to give me and my brothers and my mum) I will never forgive him. As he's ended up as a mental patient i don't really have to worry though so haha! at him for being a useless waste of space. I can forgive but sometimes I cannot forget. again this depends on what was done to me or mine in the first place.