Are you Self - Important?

hallo abi4285, welcome at mylot.

ups, this is a picture i suppose to upload in another discussion,... sorry

Hiya Rosie, and thanks for jumping in this one too :) And yes, the convo was about self-confidence and not the pompous and arrogant thing - but you knew that already ;) Why I brought the neighbors in this discussion is because, where I am living things are getting worse. Most of the houses around are purchased, however due to the economy many have sold their houses, and the corporations have placed these houses for rent. It is probably useless to say it, but the quality of the neighbors has dropped in the last year. Now at both sides of my home I have people living that are not of the same class, not qua profession, nor qua upbringing. And I don't really feel pitying myself but if it goes on like the way it goes, we will be forced to sell our home too and move. It's not really something that we are looking forward to doing, but I keep getting upset about the "music" that one of the neighbors is making daily... A thing he is calling music is producing the same beats 1000 of times each and every day, if you understand what I am talking about :(

Oh that is really sad and I feel sorry for you. So far, that has only happened on one occasion in my area. The owner of one of the houses in our neighbourhood moved on, but rather than selling his house, he decided to rent through the local Council, which meant they moved the most ghastly couple in. I don't mean to sound snobbish, but they were real "trailer trash" as our American friends would say. They were on the Social, didn't work, kept 3 poor dogs tied up in the garden that they never took out or exercised, endless poor cats that were not spayed or neutered and the neighbours used to feed, and constantly rowed with loud swearing and bad language all night! Luckily the rest of us complained bitterly to the Council, and also to the original owner, who tookm pity on us and rescinded the lease and sent these ghastly people packing. We also got together as a neighbourhood group, and called the RSPCA to rescue the dogs and cats, though one of the poor cats had become so attached to me that I kept him, which is how I got my Henry (in photo). It is a bad situation though, and I feel really sorry for you, and hope you can get something sorted out soon. And - yes - I do know what you mean about the music!

Hi Rosie, and I understand exactly what kind of people you got there as neighbors. In any case you were able to get these moved, and all is fine now. The question is however, where could such people be placed so that they do not bother others, while still having some kind of a home, and being able to live in a normal house? And do we have the right, and who are we after all to be willing to move these kind of people intosome kind of "ghetto"? I will not be able to have the once living next to me moved however, as they are not exactly trashy, or going against the laws. The only thing that really bothers me is his music making...He is a wannabe musicain of some kind, and there is the problem. All day he plays one and the same piece of music, 100's, no, even 1000 times a day, and during the warm months with the wondows open. This has taken my pleasure to go and sit in the garden, what I was doing daily before these people came. I complained several times but he doesn't want to listen, and the police is not doing anything either. We did file a complaint recently to the corporation and are expecting some kind of an answer shortly. So we will see. But all of us have the right to be living in our own home with pleasure, and enjoying our gardens, right?

You can find the people of your own style by the ones who volunteer to respond to your questions.Right?

Yes, most of the time that is. However, there are also plenty of people that give responces made of 1 line of 3 to 5 words, which is probably a way to increase the number of their posts on MyLot.

Hi Balasri, here you sound almost like myself, and I like this way, reallydo :)

that will be very helpful :) thank you thefortunes . happy posting :D

Hi Diansinta, thank you for your responce here :) You could maybe read some self-help cources that will help you boost your self-confidence, and especially whith job interviews?

Hi Brijlesh, thanks for your responce, and you will become better with your English if you keep working at it :)

Hi Maineiac55, and thank you for your responce :) I do agree with what you are saying, about women easily caring for everything and everyone, and being selfless, and not having enough time over for her own. These are genes, and upbringing together :) Good points. And it is better to be in a ruralarea and with no neighbors, than with the new neighbors of ours.

Hibalasri, thanks for responding here too :) And again 5 out of the 6 responces could have been given by me :)

Thank you Subha12 for responding in this discussion :) Keep up with being confident and you can't go or be wrong

Hi Bjgyjaui81, and thank you for responding tothis discussion. Your GF does lack self-confidence for sure, and Iunderstand your feelings. And maybe you should speak with her about it?

Hiya Apple, and thank you dear for your responce and contribution :)

Hi Thirteenth, and thank you for contributing in this discussion :) The thing is to not make others see you as arrogant,as this creates bad and negatieve feelings for all. You have already a high self-esteem which is great, and you will and should be able to convey every thought and wish with an ease coming from within, in a friendly and outspoken manner :)