What do you do when your spouse says annoying things to you?

I would suggest one thing that will instatly change the problem. Every time he says something annoying or points out flaws, respond with something positive or give him a compliment. Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative.

My wife and I have never been pointing out minor flaws in thing that we are doing. I am happy for that. We just appreciate each other for the things that each other does. We like to discuss about the things to be done first and we can always reach an agreement based on our understanding.

Flat out tell him- that he is being rude and you don’t appreciate it- Of course do it in a nice way- so there is no argument. I would offer to him the task of whatever he is finding fault with- Then maybe he will stop finding so much fault with what you are doing!

this is a difficult situation, as it's something that you just can't leave and hope will stop of it's own accord. as women, we tend to let these things pass as such, but they stick in our memories forever, and will build up in the long term leading to major anger issues over such little things. you should sit your parner down at a time that he isn't "nit-picking" or giving unwanted advice and tell him exactly how you feel about how he reacts to the way you do things. let him know that he makes you feel incompetant sometimes. tell him you are sick of the arguments over such small things. if he flat out refesus that he does this to you (men have that lovely ability to use selective memory), then tell him that whenever he does it you will do something specific to warn him he is doing it. you could make a noise like saying "bip, bip, bip", blow a wistle (if you have one) or snap your fingers. this way he would have a pre-warn that he is doing it (and hopefully stop it). if any of that fails, let him carry on doing what he is, but every time you feel demeaned by his behaviour, put what you are doing down, calmly tell him if you can't do it right, he can do it instead and walk away. he will soon get fed up of having to do everything himself. hope that helps :)

It's not my husband I have trouble with saying annoying things to me, its his friends fiance that pi$$es me off with her negative comments about my weight. I am so glad they have moved out or else I might have done more than just say something back to her. She is only a size smaller than me but thinks she is skinny than anyone I know. I don't know what she has to comment at all if she doesn't have anything nice to say. I think she got my vibes though and we haven't spoken since they moved to their new home!!!!! I am going to leave it at that as I don't need negative people in my life!!

Hi beauty, You say he does it occasionally then think over ,somebody who cares for u and wants u to improve would point out your mistake.Just say yes i will do it right the next time.When u do it right get an appreciation for it. Try this it would be really helpful.Don't think that he is picking up your flaws ,take it in your strude and think that u are being a morre perfect person. cheers

It is all part of the life. One should know how to carry on living happily without getting annoyed for every small thing. Usually when people are married, one will not like to be submissive and the egos and idiosyncracies of each have to come to the fore and only the matured person will be able to handle it tactfully and patience is very important. Sometimes, one of them talks very annoying and if you do not react, after sometimes, the other one come back and tells sorry for rash behaviour!! So When either one of them annoys the other, the best thing is to handle it patiently than to hit back. If you hit back or argue, then it is making moutain out of mole.

I tried all the non-hostile things I could say earlier. Tried to explain how it was hurting me...tried to ignore it...and a whole lot of other stuff. But nothing seems to work. I've reached the stage where I argue about everything and he doesn't understand that it's the way he speaks. I'm at the end of my tether. I'm sorry I can't help...but I'm sure going to check the responses.

i would do anything besides just ignore my spouse. when my spouse is done saying whatever my spouse is saying then this is the time that i would say something annoying back. it would be very boring if i don't retaliate. i would say a lot of things i don't like about my spouse. this is a great time express my emotions to my spouse. i might never get a great chance to do this again until we have an argument. this fights that happen in a marriage is helpful because it creates communication and a way to let out negative thoughts about each other. i as a person makes mistakes and so as spouse. i take back what i said earlier. instead of ignoring what my spouse says to me i would talk to her reasonably and ask my spouse why is my spouse acting so childish. everything should be done a civilize matter not childish matter.

in the ideal world... where I live most of my time:P... I think that I divorce her... I mean when she will start to say things that just annoy me and just that... I will seriously think to an divorce... it seems radical, right? but think about it you married her to be on your side... to show you where you make a mistake... now that fact that what she says to you annoys you it's, at least, worrying... but that is just me in may ideal world:) if, when I'll get married, she starts to say things to me... about my behavior... I'll start arguing with her, or even start a fight, to try to see her point of view... and work from there... cos in the end, a good fight between tow people that care about each other could be healthy... of course without resulting to violence... and in certain limits... but then again that is just an ideal thing;) good luck with your spouse:)