How should I do next?Does Love like this?I can't stand....
By wangxiaozhi
@wangxiaozhi (116)
China
September 7, 2007 7:36am CST
We have quarreled just now,I love her but she often hurts me.Why? Love gave me too much hurts.I am very sorrow that she said to me that we couldn't being together for the reason that my parents disagreed us.I told to her we shouldn't give up,we must go together and love forever.But she often says that we can't be together.I know I can't marry her now,because I am reading for master's degree now,we can marry only 3 three years after.She must wait for me.I think she is worried about that she couldn't wait for so long.How should I do next?? who can tell me?Love mearns hurting,isn't it?
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8 responses
@missweety (626)
• Latvia
7 Sep 07
Dear, frien, sometimes girls want to feel needed - it is not only about saying how much you love her every day, you have to be with her, ok, you cannot afford to marry her - but you can start to live together, i know you don't have a lot of time to spend with her of your stadies - she feels it, but does she really understands you???
- I think the best would be to offer her to start to live together if you still don't...
- i had a similar experience with one guy, I really loved him, we were together 7 month, he never had time for me, always worked, had to get out of debts... and my friend kept telling me - he's got a wife and children don't believe him - not because it was true, but because I had never been at his home, never seen his sister he was telling to live together, so one day I broke, I couldn't do any father... I just needed someone to be with me to help me... the another reason why i wanted someone so badly - i was far away in another country without my parents and good friends....so I left him, now I am happy back to my country living together with a gut that i love... :)
try to understand her as well - good luck!!!!!!!!!
@wangxiaozhi (116)
• China
8 Sep 07
We are 1000 kilometres apart.And we can see each other only 4 times one year.I can't help her,she often stay alone and no one can help her.I am very sorry to her.I often apologize to her:"Dear,I am very sorry,don't angry,don't leave me,don't be sad,I love you,love you until time cease."Maybe you are right,I don't understand her as well,last night,I appolized to her,I said:"I am wrong,dear,I shouldn't be angry with you.I am sorry,please forgive me,I will love you more and more,without you,I can't live longer.please give me another chance,I will not quareel with you again.Please punish me as you like."But now,after one night,she decide to apart,and tell to me:I think I should give up,and we should apart now".How Should I do?Agree her or not?I know she want to apart for the reason that I can't marry her and my parents disagree us.But I said to her again and again,I will persist in and don't give up.Now...How should I do next,next...
@r_yuen (332)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 07
Believe in one most important thing. Quarrel doesn't mean the end of your relationship. It's the process that will take you both to the higher stage of understanding, caring, and loving. Why thinking that it hurts you? Do you ever think that she's hurt too? I'm sure it's not easy for her either as it is for you. She is in the middle of the guy he love (that's you!) and the guy he respected (that's her father). Give her more time. Don't be pushy. You must understand her position better. The more you push her, the more likely she will give up and follow her father's request. Meanwhile, try to win her father's heart. Be a gentleman. Show that you are the guy that his daughter can rely on. You are the guy that your father in law will be proud of and trust that his daughter is in good hand.
Good luck!
@wangxiaozhi (116)
• China
8 Sep 07
I know quarrel is inevitable between lovers.But it will hurts each other.I love her and don't want to hurt her again,but just like this ,I will hurt her carelessly.
My parents disagree us,because her family has some trouble,but I think I can persude my parents to agree.Now she wants to apart.She wants to give up.
@r_yuen (332)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 07
Hi wang.. The thing that we can do the best when our parents disagree us is to show our parents that we can make that relation work. The problem is her parents or family problems right? It's not her problem, so don't blame on her for it is her fault. I'm totally agree with you that as a man, we have to take responsibility for our love ones. It's not the time to talk about who disagree who, but it's about who will be happy at the end. Hopefully you can convince both your parents and your gf. As for your gf, I think she just needs time. Good luck...
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
8 Sep 07
You are heading for trouble as far as I can see-if the girl does not want you , forget her. Why don't you understand that there is no relationship without reciprocity. If you seek the opinion of young girls, they will advise you in one way and on the other hand you choose to listen to an old man he may advise you differently. you are young, likely to be immature and your age is such that you a will give a lot of importance to the relationship between a man and a woman. If she cannot agree with her parents and and is unwilling to disagree with them then forget her, ; what sort of love are you still hoping and pining for? Get on with your life and prove your mettle. Concentrate on your studies and career, and something better is in store for you. Love does not happen overnight and this is true in the practical world. If you don't want to become a nervous wreck[no one will sympsthise with you , let me tell you] ,forget her. She does not care for you.
@wangxiaozhi (116)
• China
8 Sep 07
I think I should concentrate on my study now,if she really love me,she will not leave me,I am sure that.
@comeonmolly (828)
• China
8 Sep 07
Hello,friend,
I know your feelings,In my opinion if love exist everying exist,if you really love her you should try your best to make her believe that you two are bound to together,Why she often says that"We can't be together"in my view that's all because of she don't have so much cofidence,she is not sure you two can togther or not under your parents disapprove,Where should this confidence gain I think you should try, you should try to make her know that "nothing is impossible under love"All I want to say is that "nothing is really over unyil the moment you stop trying"
Wish you good luck!
Best wishes for you!
@wangxiaozhi (116)
• China
8 Sep 07
Thank you,I believe we can be togther,no mater whatever will occur,I will not give up.I will try my best to be toghter with her,I love her.whether we will be toghter or not in future,I should try my best.I think she will believe me and love me forever.At last,best wishs for you,too,thanks.
@scarlet_035 (53)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
i also loved someone so much before, wr quarrel a lot. but i loved him. we break up and make up again and again and again. but it never separated us. until one time the sister called me, without fighting me. but i knoe it was in defense of his brother. that's it. i made up my mind. no more quarrels..... end of relationship. i hate other people getting themselves involve in our relationship. be matured
@wangxiaozhi (116)
• China
8 Sep 07
I think she really love me,but it's true that there are some trouble with her family,but I don't care about it.I know her family will give me too much burden,and it may be that we will live very hard.But I love her,noconditional,I would like to live a hard life with her,my true lover.I don't want to separate with her.But now,she wants to leave me,so sad I was now...
@scarlet_035 (53)
• Philippines
11 Sep 07
it is good you felt that way for her and that you feel she loved you. do you know the song "sometimes love just aint enough" by patti smith.. smite.. smith.. oh whatever. . i wish you happiness. people like you deserves to be hapi.
@scarlet_035 (53)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
who is this stupid girl???? joke. she doesnt really love you guy. coz if she does, she'l take chances. only if you prove her wrong that she should give up. Another thing, if you are alreafy on legal age. please do not let your parents, brother, sister decide for you. good if they approve, but if they dont they cause a lot of trouble unless there is really sometihng terrible about your girl that you do not know and they found out. even then, ask for evidence. trust your instinct.
@khazeemee (288)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
do you think she really really does love you the way you loved her? maybe not exactly what you feel but if she really loves you, she'll be patient and strong to whatever the hindrances that will come to your relationship.. if the two of you were going through a lot of trials and so it be, for in the near future if you're really for each other then she might be the right one for you..
@wangxiaozhi (116)
• China
8 Sep 07
Thank you,I think maybe she really doesn't like my way to love her.I must appolize to her and I want our love will go on.