How easily can you Forgive?

It dosn't take me long to forgive anyone.. I am a very soft hearted person.. If the person says something wrong or does smthng wrong by mistake and is ready to apologise, I am the 1st one to forgive him for his deeds.. But if he/she does it with a purpose, I never forgive that person, I just try to forget him/her after giving a good verbal thrashing which he/she wudn't forget in his/her entire life...

I was impressed by one statement in Tamil[I shall translate it for your benefit]-it was in a very old film. Don't nurture anger and hatred for a long time because the smouldering embers of hatred within will soon be the cause of a volcano, which , one day ,will burn you. It was more accurate in our regional language where it picturised anger and hatred as burning coal. Detachment from people and situations is the best solution. However, it is the most difficult task to cultivate this detachment- .

Now that you recognize it you can try to change it. Asfor me... If someone betray my trust I can forgive him after some time. But you know that sentence : "Forgive but not forget". it's exactly what I do. Nobody can expect me to act the same after he did something like that.

For me, it depends on how intense the offense he/he made. If it's just a very simple thing or an unintentional mistake, of course, I will not mind it. But if it caused much pain on me, I know I will forigve him/her but it may takes some time.

Hi Dinx.. ! Btw I want to ask something if I may.. since 2 months ago you just created this discussion, have you been changed ? Do you still struggle with this problem.. if you don't, then no answer nor response will satisfy you up.. Forgive me for this, I should answer your question first.. If you ask about forgive someone else, yes I'm able to do that.. you know why, because if we not forgive the person who have fault on us, we just keep hurting ourselves.. not that person.. As long as you sure you're right, then don't get bothered what other said.. Here is a simple and funny example : someone said to you 'Bad dog !!' , now see the fact, are tail grow up in your bottom ? what has change to you ? nothing ! so why you angry ?! You have 2 option at least... 1st.. Forgive and act like you just hear wind's whisper.. 2nd.. Pay attention, remember the person, hate him maybe, avoid him, etc.. For the 1st one, you really can manage yourself, you can smile and you can focus your energy to do something else that more important.. forgive and heal yourself quickly.. then nobody will hurt because of this.. For the 2nd one..,you hate him so much (is that you mean by 'deep hate' ? ) so you can fell the pain, you avoid him so it's waste your energy and attention.. you think that your action can reduce the pain, can make him suffer too, but what happen.. does he think about your suffer at all ? does he feel the same pain because of your action ? he suffer nothing and you take the full suffer !! Here just my opinion.. feel free to continue our discussion.. ;)