how to deal with mothers death

Please accept my sincere condolences, I to have recently lost my mother, it was several weeks before I could sit down and actually have a good cry,I feel my mother beside me I hear her call my name and I stop to listen to the voice. So many times a day I want to pick up the phone and call her so I just do what I can I talk to her right from here.Sometimes it helps to write about it sometimes it helps to talk about it, I have to be the rock for my children and grandchildren now but I know thats how my mamma would want it to be.God bless

I just read your post...and let me extend my sincere condolences for the loss of your mother. My Mom passed away two and a half years ago and I still miss my special connection to her. So I do understand you loss and empathize with what you are going through. The fact that you are able to draw comfort from the fact that your mother is no longer suffering is admirable. However, it does not remove the pain of your loss...and it is hard to accept. When we have a bond with our Mom's nothing will ever take its place because I truly believe no one loves us quite the way Mom's do. In regard to not being able to cry...it may be hard now...but eventually you will begin to access your deeper feelings and the tears will come. Maybe they would come if you sat down and wrote a goodbye note to your mother. I did that and it helped the tears come. I poured my heart and soul on to the paper...telling her how much I appreciated her, the love and companionship we shared, the talks we had and how much I was going to miss all of it. I told her about how much I enjoyed the special food she cooked...and how I will regret never eating a meal with her. We used to have special gal-pal days on the Mall..I wrote about my sadness that those days were gone forever...I wrote and wrote and wrote. And yes, I cried and cried and cried. I still do...on special occasions...her birthday, my birthday, mothers day. But that is ok. The tears are cleansing..and create a release within the body. I do life coaching for a living...and always encourage clients to be present with their emotions and work through them. So cry whenever you need to...be alone if you want to reflect on things...allow others to be there and give you a hug if you need it. Do whatever you can to work through your grief and stay in touch with your emotions. Burying them is unhealthy...so my thoughts and wishes are with you tonight. I notice you are a new Mylotter...welcome. You will quickly find many friends to assist you in your healing journey. People reach out and offer their care, love, compassion and concern here. I hope you will allow yourself to embrace it and let our love and prayers fill the void that losing your mother has left. Wishing you light filled blessings dear one...and big spiritual hugs coming your way. Raia

honestly i didn't know how to make some advise because even me if i will be on your situation right now, i wouldn't know how to deal with it.. but always remember that someday the two of you will be together again.. and she's always in your heart,..

i am praying for you