When I was a little girl my grandma said that I broke her heart....

Hello! It's sad that you had a not so good memories of your late grandmother. Wow, she lived a long life..93! Have you tried talking to her about your feelings? Why she said those words to you? I guess it would have helped if you did talk to her. I love my grandparents and they love us so much especially me because i'm the first grandchild of both sides. My grandmother (father's side) adores me very much for the reason that I look like her *yeekks* LOL! I can't understand why your late grandmother said those things to you. Sometimes adults say nasty things or make comments to kids that they thought doesn't matter at all..but they have no idea how powerful those words can be to a child. I'm glad that you took those words positively in a way that you're such a loving grandmother to your grandsons. My parents always tell me before that being a grandparent is the best role you can ever play in the world..why? 'coz your role is to spoil your grandchild..*wink* and my parents are doing pretty well in it! *sigh* *roll eyes* *hihihi* your grandsons are lucky to have such loving grandmother! cheers to that!! *yeey* ciao! =)

You say your gram didn't like you but I suspect that you are wrong...She loved you very very much. I don't know what you could possibly have done at such a young age for her to say such a thing but you do have to love someone very much in order for them to "break your heart". I said that to my daughter when she was a teen and getting into trouble. I did tell her she was breaking my heart...she was...i loved and love her so much. I don't know the context in what she said it but I'm thinking you misunderstood her meaning. She took over raising 4 small children when she thought her child rearing days were over. It was a choice....she could have let you all go into foster care. I think she must have loved you very much and maybe it was very hard on her but she did it. I'm sorry you lost your mom so young and missed out on having a gram.it all had to be hard on both of you!

Awwwww thats so sad my friend. How could an adult do that? Ive heard this happening before to people. I just dont understand it thou. Wow she lived a long life too. Im glad your okay and survived her. Your such a sweet person.

How sad. I can imagine how confused you must have been while you were growing up.

My grandmother used guilt. If I hurt myself she would say it was God's punishment because I had done something bad. Even now at the ripe old age of 65 if I get sick or hurt myself the first thing I think is 'what have I done'. I was fortunate that I didn't live with my grandmother but she did spend a lot of time with my family, certainly long enough to instill fuilt in me.

Well Feona,I don't get why your grandmother said such a thing...but it might relate to the relationships of your father or mother. I mean there shouldn't be any of your fault when you are just 7 or 8 years old.So,this thing might relate to your blood-relations...I guess.

That's sad, I know i could never do that either to my grand babies if i ever have any.. My son is to young however he does already talk about growing up and getting married and having kids as a matter of fact he said that to me today.. I looked at him and told him enjoy being a kid! I wish i would of.. I wish sometimes i still was actually.. Just so the hard times could be easier.. But NO i would never say that to my grandkids no matter if they did or didn't break my heart..

I don't see how you could of broken her heart. How aweful to have to grow up feeling intimidated by someone you should of been looking up to. I wish you would of been able to ask her why she said that so that you would have a bit of closure. Not that it would of solved your problems, but to go all those years not knowing why she would say that must of been very stressful for you. I would never say something like that to any child, nor would I show favoritism. I'm sorry you had to live like that.

Feona your story and the others here broke my heart just reading them. So many people have such heart breaking stories. I Sent some years living with my grand mother too. She didn't like girls but never that crule to me. but she did say hurtfull things sometimes. My grandfather and father molested me and my sister. She always blamed it on the girls as my aunts were also abused sexually. Grandma would say to her friends that I was like a daughter to her but then would then treat me like a stranger. But I now know that there is one who always loves us and we can tell him how we feel he can take all our hurts away if we let him. I'm adding you and the others here to my prayer list.

That sounds very horrible and sad....Maybe it was just a personality thing, but at 3, it makes you wonder what was going through her mind, she might have used it as a scare tactic.

I am sorry that she treated you in such a way. When an adult uses guilt and our emotions in such a way I find it very hard to believe that they care at all about anyone but themselves. It is not your or any kids fault, it is the parent, or carer. They are the older ones and as you said, she was there to protect and to also love unconditionally, not love with conditions, as so many people seem to do. I have gone through the feelings of guilt and emotional blackmail from my family and I do not wish it on anyone. I am glad it is as though a weight has been lifted, and you can now get on with loving and spoiling your grandsons, without someone around to make you feel the way she did. =)

That's not a nice thing to hear from someone who is supposed to be looking out for you, and bringing you up. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, and the least she could've done when making a stupid statement like that was to tell you the reason. I know I would've been devestated if one of my grandparents had said something like that to me. Although now that I think about it, one of the reasons my wife severed ties with her parents was to protect our son, as they can be quite toxic. I don't know, some people just don't think before they speak to kids, or don't care what they think! But hey, at least you turned out pretty good!

Bravo to you! You will never say that to a child because of how it made you feel. Some people would use it as an excuse to treat people badly. I am so glad that you are going to rise above it. Most people do not! I guess that expression is true, "people will forget the things you do, people will forget the things you say, but people will never forget the way you made them feel." The past is the past it's over and done with. You cant change it your better off to just learn from it! Best of luck

well that is so sad,but at least like you said it lifts off the shoulders now and you can talk about it,thats so cruel how she said that to you,i would never be able to say something like that to anyone,im too kind hearted,you are a terrific person and a awesome grandma and mother and wife,keep up the great job there my friend.only other thing i can say or do is send you a great big hug.did ya catch it?ok good.pattie

Yes- Because when U are little girl Your Grandma Get Feelings When you are no more a little girl Your Grand Ma do not Get Feelings. Instead You get feelings. Even if what your grandma has said is not true This saying is also is Grand Ma's Feelings. Now a days it is very difficult become Grand Ma and Get Feelings. We most often says, and write facts and fiction we do not feel any thing. But Grand Ma is Not Like Us. Grand Ma Always Gets Feelings when she was on our age. Means we all should feel the truth as well as false. Then only we will know why grand ma had said this once upon a time. Thanks

Yah.......No Grand Mother or father should be very cute.But....... What can i say really i also dont like that people will dominate each other in family.Any way you are not going to do that .So you are very cute.