why do we stop saying "please"?
@silver_shaddow (1204)
September 9, 2007 3:17am CST
why do we stop saying "please", "kindly", "miss", "mister" and all those polite little words with our close friends when we become well aquainted??
I think once the ice melts and u beign to let that person into your little energy circle, every little barrier disolves and our relaxed, sometimes "rude" side show, that friend will start calling u names, like idiot or even worse. how dou feel about that? how do u deal with it? what do u do if u dont like it? dont u wish sometimes this barrier should have never disolved? i think it's really nice if we kept "some" respect or a little of those barriers up, dont u think? do u do that with ur friends? or would they not be called "close" friends if that barrier still would be up?
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@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
10 Sep 07
It depends on how close and how old this friend of yours is. U won't probably say it to a guy whose age is close 2 urs but with a guy who is let's say 15 years older, it might be different, even if he was a close friend.
Generally speaking, these words is a nice way of showing respect and appreciation(in my personal point-of-view), u just can't call a person who is older than you by his name, i guess it is more apporpriate if u said sir or something. When you ask someone 2 do a favour for you, I think you must say please. It is not just a word but it is an exercise for u, me and others to practice showing respect and appreciation for others or let's say to make it a part of our character.
Not showing the proper respect and appreciation 4 otheres has become a part of the new trend. The interest in showing these mmmm let me say emotions in this manner is almost diminishing in nowadays-life. why ??? because simply ethics have somehow changed. Maybe a lot of people don't see it important, but honestly I do.
Thank you very much for your interesting post
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@silver_shaddow (1204)
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11 Sep 07
hi there,
nice to see you around again. i really appreciate your input on this. the reason i started was just to understand the human nature in an analytic way sort to speak. this is that i have realized how much those little words has almost disappeared from our daily vocab. and its not just that. the mutual respect is fading away too. once u get to know someone u tend to get "rude". I do mind sometimes when some of my friends call me degrading nick names or simple words such as idiot or dumb@$$. you allow this once, you are allowing more things to happen. its kinda cold to do that in a friendship or a relationship. YET when i try to do that less and less. but what really buggers me is that when i ask them NOT to utter such words, they get offended.
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@silver_shaddow (1204)
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11 Sep 07
thank you for your response. that was really nice and short.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
16 Sep 07
Hello Mister silver_shaddow.....how are you.
Nice discussion.....Yes it did happen to me many times.....and I consider all this as my fault because in order to make the opposite person feel at home and more comfortable, we give them more than they deserve and they take us granted and cross their limits. I try to tolerate this situation as far as I can, but once I have lost my patience....then I give such a hard cold stare to that person or a very rude hard reply...the impact of my changed behaviour is so strong that the person understands, that it is time to come back to his or her limitation. Yes you are right we should always keep some barriers because then you can also keep your respect. The more freedom you show, the less respect you get...so we learn with experiences.....your discussion will teach many people how to develop their personality. I have also learnt some lessons.....Mr. silver_shaddow.......:)
@missladycc (154)
• United States
17 Sep 07
well silver shadow.....those words are not needed anymore once we get to know each other personally. Maybe because we are natural rude, mean or careless at times. To hide our flaws we like to use the cute thank you's, yes misss, to make ourselves look like exceptionl people. For myself, I find it offensive for my friends to say thank you. If O complement there hair or something....just say something like " well girl I got it at Ross" .....thank you is for strangers not best buddies.
