we are rowing again.....
By ESKARENA1
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
September 9, 2007 5:00pm CST
my husband and i have to clear the air every now and again. Things can only build up so long and we both let rip. OK it takes a few days to get over it but we will. During this time we curse each othet and we always threaten divorce, but we both know its words, nothing more. But after almost 20 years together, must we still do this?
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@bestisyettocome (1531)
• United States
17 Sep 07
Being married 17 years, I can definately relate to this! We have ups and downs, but we truly love each other. He is stubborn and so am I and sometimes we just can't come to an agreement. It's too bad that all the divorce talk comes out in anger, and I do know it's only anger, because in the end, neither of us wants to bail on the other! Good luck, and hang in there!
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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18 Sep 07
yes, we both had a big bust up last night but we seem quiet again now, i just wish i could see whats behind it all
@sylvia13 (1850)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
10 Sep 07
When I first read the title of this entry I thought you were going rowing on a boat or kayak! But then I read further and understood there were problems between you and your husband and I am sorry and hope you can make up and live peacefully again!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Sep 07
As long as you are not rowing every Day or even every week yes then after 20 Years you should like you say it clears the Air I had that for 21 years near enough every Day and I was the one who backed down every time
But to have it once in a while is part of a strong Marriage as the air needs to be cleared if it doesn't then it will build up so much and you will drift apart and then your Marriage is over
I hope you are both ok now
Hugs to you
@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
9 Sep 07
Well if you have been doing this for 20 years I would think you would be quite good at it and I would think this is a time that you both can vent and let it all out, if you are going to change the currents you need to have a heart to heart and show that you want it done differently by your actions.
Be well, my friend!
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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9 Sep 07
blessed be, it will calm now we have both vented but ohhhhh i so wish it wouldnt happen
@cipher2004 (1183)
• United States
10 Sep 07
It is very hard for me to comprehend this.I have been with my hubby only 3 years.We have not had an argument yet.But I guess after 20 years we will be like you guys also.I guess it is good to vent as long as you make up afterwords.
@derek_a (10873)
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10 Sep 07
If there is conflict, I think it better out than in. Doesn't matter what each person says in a row. It's just anger speaking. 20-years and it still happens? I don't see this is right or wrong - it's just a way of venting. At the end of the day, it is just sharing feelings in a more "animated" way.. :-)
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@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
10 Sep 07
Maybe for you it's that spicy stuff that is missing and you try to find once a while. But be careful honey.... one day one of you and maybe you, you will mean exaclty what you say!
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I would say that if you are both so stressed perhaps going for counseling together would help relieve the tension. Have you tried this?
It could be that something else is stressing both you out so that you have no patience with one another. You have to find what is the repitive spark in all your arguments and adress this. The best way though is not to do this by yourself..seek a marriage counselor or some sort of counseling that both of you can attend?
