what should I do to make my brother understand?

I ever told him I was busy so he didn't asked me again but only last for one day. is it become habits for him?. ooh and the worst he has son already.

I'm scared if I tell my sister in law she will be offended.

maybe he trusts you and depends on you more on you because he knows that his sister will never say no, you should become good friends with his wife and silently but smartly make her slowly understand that it is good to take care of husband so that he is always with her. always here, your little friend apple. may GOD BLESS your family always

yeah that's what I thought. but I can not tell his wife either. because she seemed jealous with me because my mother servant pay attention more to me than my sister in law ( we always met at my parents house )

Well thats better, these relations are very dear and cant be spooiled on such small matters, i know u just posted as u r tensed coz of ur husband. Just solve it amicably and i am sure u can manage it. As far as ur sis in law is concerned, ask her gently that her husband needed him, when she will go and ur brother will ask matter to her so both will understand slowly. Take care and keep ur head cool

well, I hope I can keep my head cool just like you said. and by the way my husband also watching when my brother did that. and I have to comfort him also because he said your brother must know how to treat his wife. and he almost wants to talk to my brother too. but I told him not to do that. better be me but I don't know how to explain to my brother about that.

then i think u should go ahead and stay seperately..

to talk to his wife, I'm scared that she will be offended. because she ever jealous with me because of small things, also she never offer any help to me when my brother ask me. but I already talked with my mom I hope I will see some changing.

ohh i have a friend who came from a usual family and she married a quite rich man who has servants in the house and she acted as if she ws raised with servants too. from that day on she always let the servants cleans her mess and it began a fued between her husband and her mother in law. the husband doesnt want to hurt the feeling of his wife so husband talk to us. i being the older friend was the one who talked to her. at first she was so ashamed to admit that she was acting like that in their house and slowly i explained to her that the reason this man loved her because she was simple now the simple girl she once knew was no where to be found. now she came to reality..... well that was a different story lets get back to your story.... i think you really need to talk to your mom about it. she is the one who has the right to tell your brother about it and she is the one who has the right also to talk about the wife of your brother. hope things get smooth

thanks for the advice. this morning I talked with my mother about that. she said she wants to talked with my brother but the problem their wrong behave no just that. my mother told me that her head servant already told her couple months ago about their behave, but that's become clear in my mother eyes this week. so she said I will tell when I got change but while that you better try to avoid your presence while they both get together. so he has no time to ask you something.

no . we don't live at the same house but almost everyday we met because when I worked I take my children to my mom's house. my mother head servant also thought like you because she said when my brother's wife made a cup of tea. she never offered my brother and she seldom brought the dirty plate to the kitchen. and my head servant compare me with her if you the one who act like that I can understand because since young you always get served by other servant but her. she came from usual family. who didn't have servant. and acts like a queen. I'm quite surprise because of that. but I want to stay in peace not make any trouble with my sister in law but I don't want to get depress because these things

I think I should tell my brother for second time again. but if I tell him that my husband doesn't like the way he always asked me, is it gonna make relation ship between my husband and my brother not good? what do you think?

be precise, you wanna your husband hurts because of your brother? You must have your decision making criteria. If not at last you will be sandwiched by both.

I never told my brother that was not my job anymore. I just told my parents what I felt this morning. I hope things will work fine.

I don't mind to do the things that he asked me ( of course say please and he seldom say that, and made me think like I'm their second servant )if his wife could not do that but if his wife can, why he still asked me?. that's ridiculous. but the problem he asked too much and I think they should learn to do it by themselves. if my brother go to the market and I asked him to get something for me. he would get that but if his at home and I asked him to go to get the things. he often refused.

wow I really want to say that. but I'm scare that my relationship with my brother won't be good anymore.