Growing up

I never wanted to act like a child when growing up. In other words, my parents friends would come up to me and say oh how cute she is and such and I hated the attention because I was so so shy. I did clown around in my 20's but when it was time to be serious I played the part. It's the very reason my first husband and I didn't make it because he was so immature.

My growing up has been all kinds of weird and backwards. When my mom was pregnant with my youngest sister, I was 9 years old, and I had to pick up a lot of responsibility, as my mom had a difficult pregnancy and was told that she couldn't even go up and down stairs. So I started doing a lot of the household chores for her, and after my sister was born, I helped to take care of her quite a bit. So I grew up quickly then. Later on, when I was in college, I took one year where I basically had a whole bunch of fun. After that, I thought I was ready to settle down and be an adult, but a few years later, I went back to my "having fun" days for a while. Now, I've basically settled down, but I still enjoy having fun. I just make sure to have more responsible fun now, since I know I'm not young anymore. I don't want to settle down entirely, but enough to be able to have a stable life is good.

I've always been pretty 'mature' for my age. I was the oldest grandchild on my mom's side and hung around adults a lot. I never had that point in my life...but then again I always say I don't want to grow up LOL. I mean we are responsible and we own our own home ect but the idea of "growing up" sounds no fun :D

that's is a very good intention, coffeeshot but patience is also part of being mature. It dawned on me wheni was in my teens but not the thought of being an adult but conquering my shortcomings and those little pesky things made me mature easier.learning , accepting and understanding who you are and what life and love really is.You will learn how o manage rather than control and you will learn to develop in love rather than fall in love, you will learn to smile more than worrying and you will learn to live life rather than surviving. Once you acquired these wisdoms thenthat is the time you will start to learn more and be truly happy.

well it happen about 4 and a half years ago. when my son was born its not so much as a realisation but a feeling that I got that made me realise I was a grown woman I had to be a grown person since I had a little baby in my arm that I just gave birth to.

lol Hey Coffeeshot! Erm Im just a little shocked that nearing 23 you feel like your old! Im 35 and dont feel that Im old....not sure when I will feel Im "old". Im thinking my spirit will never mature. Im a responsible person, I pay my bills, I conduct myself with maturity when needed, but Im an all out kid at heart! I dont think its that Im "avoiding" maturity, Im not really sure what you mean by that. What do you consider to be immature? Better yet, WHY are you feeling old at 22?? xx

I'm nearly 56 and I'm growing old disgracefully. I have been called immature, childish, silly and a few others, but I still believe that maturity is more a state of mind than an age. I didn't actually feel ready to settle down until my early 30's, when I married and had my son. I was a mature and responsible adult for a good few years but after 2000 I reverted back to being single and regressed swiftly. Enjoy yourself hun, there is plenty of time to become *more mature* :-)

Well, on the one hand, you are only as old as you want to be. I am still a kid at heart. But by the time I was 12, I realized I wanted nothing MORE than to move OUT on my own and be away from my family. That's when I started growing up, thinking of the future and realizing I would have to be responsible and be able to take care of myself. I can still laugh with kids and play and be silly, but I am also financially responsible and consider the consequences of most of my actions.

I know some people who are definitely trying to avoid maturity and they're in their 30's. But I digress, when I turned 25 I had an unexpected pregnancy which came at a really bad time in my life. After it was all over, I realized it was time to grow up. It was like a wake up call to me since before then I had been partying way too much and hanging out with the wrong crowd. I got rid of the people that weren't good in my life and started looking more towards the future. It was not an easy experience but it certainly was for the better.

I freaked out about turning 25. Becuase I always thought at 25 you should have your crap together. You know? I've been 25 since May and I still haven't handled it well. But to me..."Growing up" is just being responsible. Can you take care of yourself? Pay your bills on your own...on time? You know. That sort of stuff. By 23 you shouldn't be partying anymore like crazy. By 25 you should just have your crap together. I'm sorta there. But I think you can still have "Fun" just be responsible.

Yes, I too had such times in my life. I think everybody has such kind of thoughts at some point. I once felt that I should think mature when I was a teenager. Sometimes I felt that soem things that happend could have been done in a proper way with more mature thought. I never avoid maturity. It is a good thing right?

I have had this feeling for the past five or six years. I have a strange habit. I behave very maturedly like a grownup when i am among my relatives and friends and not so when i am in my house with my parents. Don't know why. Have i grown up yet? Others should tell.

Perhaps growing up is one affair for an instant,I was 23 years old already,and have already arrived to the age of looking for work,and the time of undertake a responsibility. I think i have already grown up!

yeah! actually at my age now,(i'm 16) i want to be matured already for the reason that i am struggling answers for all questions in life.. on the other side, being matured will help you to be more responsible i all things you do..

well, when i was 23 i was married for 5 years and had 2 kids already. times have changed, and i think back then, we were more mature for our age. my daughter is 23 and she is out partying and having so much fun...living with her boyfriend,, not really saving any money or worrying about life and expenses. she needs to be more concerned that her future is in good shape, and that she has money and the smarts to figure things out. we didn't have so much choices as they do now, and with all the responsibilities at such a young age, i feel i am in a better place by having to be responsible back then.

I think I realized it was time to grow up officially when I was about 22. I had just been diagnosed with an illness, and I was looking to everyone for help, but myself. I just wanted help that I wasn't getting. And then I thought, who is going to take better care of you, than yourself? That opened my eyes to not just my health issues, but how I saw other people's places in my life.

I'm 23 amd I think I realized I had to grow up after I got out of college and got married. I see my friends now, whether married or not, and they are struggling to get by and trying to party and not hold down jobs. You can have fun, but if you want to have a stable life, you have to grow up. It sucks to be young and say that, but it's true. I realized early on that I would rather have a career and a family then a party every weekend life. Partying and stuff is fine for many people, but it's not my thing. I'm also not saying you can't have fun anymore, but you have to start making different types of decisions.:)

hello there. hmm.. i just turned 24 recently. Sadly speaking, I still do not feel that I am an adult. I started working 2 years ago after graduation from university. I feel that I am still in the transition phase - learning to fulfill my responsibility towards my parents, learning to be independent and etc. To be frank, I am in denial of being an adult. I miss my school days and wish I can go back to those stress-free days of freedom. But well, that's impossible and I just have to face to the reality that i'm an adult and be more mature. =D