I must be beyond gullible! Part 1

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Over the last few months, I have begun to question my ability to judge whether people are worth having as friends. This one friend of mine (for those of you who've known me for a while, it's the one that went to the comedy show with me...I'll call her Friend A) has been in my life for over six years. We met while we were both working at the convenience store where I was the assistant manager. We very quickly became inseparable. She has been like a sister to me, pretty much taking the place of my biological sister that has nothing to do with me. Or at least I thought she was like a sister to me. People had made comments to me in the past about this friend's ability to be loyal, and about her not being able to keep her mouth shut about personal things. But I had her back and defended her with all of my heart. Now, I have this other friend (Friend B) that I have known for almost as long as the first one. We also met at the convenience store. It took a bit longer for us to connect as friends, but after we did, we became very close...again, the sister type relationship. Ok....so a few months ago, I decided "what the heck....why not introduce them to each other, and we can all three be one big happy goofy family together." Boy! Was that the worst decision I ever made! It turned out that Friend A was so very very jealous of the friendship between me and Friend B, that she started bad mouthing me and stabbing me in the back to Friend B quite badly. Now I know some of you are thinking "how do you know it's not Friend B that caused the problems?" Believe me, if I hadn't known Friend B for so long or so well, I would have told HER to get outta town! But she is the most awesome and kindhearted person I have ever known. I won't go into all that was said, as it was quite a lot (when I wrote it all down to show to hubby, it covered three pages front and back!). But here's one of the things that was said...Friend A told Friend B that "she had received a phone call from my hubby a while back, and he told her in confidence (her words) that he was going to file for a divorce, and that he was going to let me stay in the house until I found a job because the house actually belongs to his mom and I would be screwed if we divorced now." But get this...hubby and I had major problems a few years ago, and I had told both of these friends that "I" wanted to get a divorce, and that I was going to have to get a job so that I could move out since the house belonged to his mom and I would be screwed if I filed right away. Sound familiar? After I managed to pull myself together from crying for three days, I got to thinking really hard about the past friendship with Friend A, and there were things that I guess I had overlooked, or just attributed to being a part of her (what I thought to be) ditzy nature. When I confronted Friend A about all the things that she had said to Friend B, she admitted to some of it, skirted around other parts of it, and attributed the rest of it to "forgetfulness". All of that whole fiasco totally destroyed my trust in Friend A. Every time I talk to her, I always wonder which way she'll stab me in the back again and to whom. Oh...and she also admitted to Friend B that she didn't think I had enough willpower and strength to go through gastric bypass surgery, and all of the "rules" for eating afterward. And this is supposed to be my support person!! Some support huh? Anyway, thank you all for letting me vent on that. I'm sorry it's so long winded, but it was too hard to try to sum it all up in a nutshell. Obviously, there's more, but that's on a different "alleged" friend. Hugs to all.