how do u smile in the morning?

India
September 10, 2007 11:34pm CST
well...u have had a bad night with your spouse who is in her mood swings. this time she said a lot of harsh things to u... now how do u respond in the morning to a smile, as if nothing ever happened?
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
16 Sep 07
I know it is very difficult to smile when you are deeply hurt inside. But the wise thing is to let go what happened and continue by just smiling back. Also if she smiled first , it means that she has realised her mistake and feels guilty about it and decided to makeup in the morning. We all are human beings and we all make mistakes.......but if you feels she is sorry for her mistake and wants to say sorry indirectly, you should coprate.....not coperating will only make things worse and life will become more diffiuclt and unpleasant, so just smile and let go.........have a nice day.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
18 Sep 07
Hello rivergod, nice to see you too. yes I agree those who preach they don't practice what they preach.....lol.......yes it is easy to say but very painful to really do it........by the way I don't see you much on mylot, is it because you are busy with work or because you are not much interested in mylot.....just asking...:)
• India
18 Sep 07
hey..good afternoon..how r u doing? i can only say..its so much easier said than done..and more so when some one is doing it only to tick off on the calender of events for the day.. :)
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• Australia
11 Sep 07
Well I guess you smile back at her because dispte everything said and done you still love her. This does not mean however you don't speak about what has happened. So tell her you love her and tell her you feel badly for what has happened. Suggest to her how you would like to be spoken to, tell her how her moods affect you and then reinforce to her how much you love her. Make sure that she knows that you have been hurt by her harsh words and that she needs to explain to you if she still believes them to be true. If she does not then you two need to talk about why she said them and try to figure out a way unique to both of you that you can deal with her mood swings. If she does believe the things she said about you the night before to be true then you both need to work out how you can still continue on with your relationship even though these things are between you. Communication is the key, make sure you both use your words to your best advantage and not as weapons.
• India
11 Sep 07
hey...thx for writing back... u sure r some one who appears to be very level headed... i wud request u to read my other discussions on marriage and comment...if thats possible...
• Australia
12 Sep 07
I am running about today like crazy, but later when I have more time to think deeply I will read and comment on your other discussion on marriage. I am glad you appreciated my words, good luck :)