Do you ever feel people say things they don't mean?
By wisconsin26
@wisconsin26 (3859)
United States
September 11, 2007 4:26pm CST
Do you ever feel people say things they don't mean? I ask because I have a friend that I talk to alot online and I sometimes feel he doesn't mean the things he says.. Is that a way of getting me to feel sorry for him or getting me to do things for him sense I am a nice person.. I mean one day he's super nice to me and the next it's like I don't exist to him.. Why are people like this? Not to mention I get this with alot of friends online... Why?
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12 responses
@edigital (2709)
• United States
12 Sep 07
Yes I think you are correct. It happen when one guy want to show his/her other part that he/she is over smart and all-known person. At this stage some garbage talk can take place whose meaning the talker do not know, just focused radymade idea withiut knowing its meaning. Some time false or lie talking do match with true things then the lier cannot find meaning what he/she said before. Online chatting should end online as online readymade talking has far difference with off line talk as off line talk is real. Who is simple and do not want to tell exaggerated talking never talk online like this way. So do not blame the online talker as he/she do it to make other side happy or pleased with sich talking.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Sep 07
"So do not blame the online talker as he/she do it to make other side happy or pleased with sich talking." As you say... But the truth of the matter is rather it's online or offline talking this person said something and i seen it, it's wrong.. plain and simple.. You don't tell someone one thing and go do another rather online or offline.. It's called being taking advantage of.. This person and i have spent alot of time on and offline talking.. So i will blame whom i want for this and it's him.. When you tell a person you care for them and so on and see him saying things to others in the open i know that person don't mean it and make them or should make them feel like a fool for ever speaking to that person again.. Though it don't bother people why? Like someone said they are here and you are there...
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 07
i know people who say things they don't mean. i figure that their "words" bypassed their filters thus they do no have time to see if they mean it or not.
if "words" are not properly filtered before they exits the mouth, then i wonder what else does not get filtered.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Sep 07
I sometimes even have to go back and correct myself by saying that isn't what i meant.. Everyone does it but yet at the same time when seeing and hearing it, it does effect a person..
@CyanShadow (123)
• Netherlands Antilles
12 Sep 07
I think it happens to you when your chatting online because when people chat online they are not themselfs completely. They feel that when they are chatting you can not do anything to them. Its like you have this beg gap between the two of you and as a result of that people often say things that they would neven say to you online. So i think its just because people feel "safe" behind there pc and thus they tend to go over the limit.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Sep 07
Very good answer and your right, cause when someone says your a rude ---- there is no way of me climbing threw that screen and smacking them upside the head for that comment.. lmao i simply ignore it and know why they said it.. I can't do anything about it being here and they are there...
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
There are people who are pathological liars. They don't care about the effect their words have on other people. They don't care about the truth. They just say a bunch of crap in order to have things their way.
But in your case you said you are puzzled because one day he's super nice to you, the next day you don't exist to him. Perhaps you said something that offended him? That might explain his sudden change in attitude towards you. You might want to ask him so you can talk about it. That could be his way of telling you that you hurt him.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Sep 07
I don't ever recall doing or saying anything to him that would offend him or I'd know about it.. This person seems to have his own issues I'm guessing just like everyone else..
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
12 Sep 07
I read your discussion and then some responses and so many things went through my head. For one thing... once we hit that "send" button after we have typed something there's no way we can take back what we said. Sometimes we write what we think at that moment and don't think about it first. Other times it's like another responder said and it's ....open mouth...insert foot! lol....
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Sep 07
What are you trying to say? I was seeking help on something that has been disturbing me and i have gotten that.. What i feel is my problem no one else and what i say is what i think i am not going to sit and wait for a real answer from whom did this to me, if i can get an oppion i most certainly will...
@MurphyDog (62)
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12 Sep 07
I think online especially it's really easy for comments to be misinterpreted as there's no inflection. Smilies can help, for example there's a world of difference between
MurphyDog is an idiot! :-) :-) (said in a jokey manner)
and
MurphyDog is an idion :-(( :-(( (said in an aggressive manner)
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Sep 07
Very true... It wasn't what was said it was something that i read and the thing is he doesn't even know i know, maybe that's could be what's disturbing me too.. However when i said something the last time he did this he replied in a rude way.. So I'm just not so sure...
@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
12 Sep 07
Your posting seems that you have certain kind of moodwaves or you have really some thing intuitive sense! Two contradictions I am mentioning here to know and find out real thing!
Would you please find out from within that is this a real sensitive thing for you coming from within or just a mental thing coming up with a doubt related thing?
If you have doubt element in your day to day life then there is a possibility that your doubt element is reacting this way!
If you have no doubt element in your day to day life as well then it is related with intuition!
And one has to listen and follow the intuition! Because it is indicating to some thing to be aware!
So accept that acordinglly!
@recycledgoth (9894)
•
12 Sep 07
I have learnt the hard way when chatting online, it is far too easy when you are only a line of text on a page to say what you think the other person wants to hear. I got to chatting with someone who I regarded as a friend, and we chatted online for months before suddenly the conversations stopped completely. I was confused and upset about it as I wondered if it was my fault they stopped talking to me. I found out a little while later that the person concerned was a married man, and was little more than a con artist. Sorry to sound so negative hun, but it is far too easy for people to say things they don't mean online.
@applecartronnie (1984)
• India
13 Sep 07
many times peopel dont even know what they are sying, believe me, and most times they think that talking makes a person look smart.
wow. what can i say. some times listning to the headphones is better and most times praying.
smiles, it's ok. let them feel they look smart when they talk, you can always go to your garden when you are bored.lol
apple.
@dhedows118 (891)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Yes sometimes I felt that some people are not honest or are not being true to themselves. They sometimes think that we are not serious being friends with them as there is no personal inter-action, communication was only made by the use of internet alone. They are not sensitive enought to feel that they already hurt our feelings.
But I also believe, that there are persons who are true to what they say and always mean what they say.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Sep 07
There are but only a few at least that's what I've seen sense I've been online and talking to other people... Some people just make it to where you are just friend with no emotional connection, but i guess when one talks to another for a long time and gets personal with them there is that type of connection at least for me there is...
@Rose7179 (217)
• United States
11 Sep 07
I had this same thing happen to me. I met this guy(friend) at a friends wedding and we got to talking and then after he went pack home I never heard from him unless I started the conversation. So I dont even bother anymore . i jst figure its not worth my time. Some people are just stupid like that.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Sep 07
His friendship means alot to me maybe that's why i feel like this.. I guess when you get close to someone online it's hard to let go if you know what i mean... I have been threw this before many times but they are all different friends.. Some close some kinda..
