Forget and move on
By pagibig
@pagibig (297)
Philippines
September 11, 2007 10:31pm CST
A few months ago, i was an active member of mylot. posting and responding. However a personal crisis happened that made me quit a lot of my current activities that time.
I had my heart broken. MyLot was my outlet to let the world know how much i love him.
I thought he was THE ONE. I was wrong. My heart was broken along with several other girls. I thought i knew him, and i did. I knew that part of him he wanted me to know.
What happened was like a scene straight out of a movie.. John Tucker Must Die.. But it happened in real life... it happened to me.
The guy i loved is a player, he played with 5 girls all at the same time. Ouch. I was traumatized. I don't ever want to love again
But now i'm back. I've moved on. And although i haven't forgotten what he did, the pain isn't there anymore.
Once again, i was wrong. I thought i could never love again, but time proved me wrong. I can love again. Only this time, I love myself.
I think that was the problem. I love too much yet love myself too little. These last few months, the weeks of crying thought me that i do deserve better. But i can't have something better unless i learn to love myself first.
Truly love myself first.
I've moved on and someday i'll forget.
It's me time now and I love it. It's good to be back.
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13 responses
@briarose (124)
• United States
12 Sep 07
That is so awesome that you realize this because it is about loving yourself and realizing you don't have to settle for a player! That happened to me once I had no idea he was cheating on me, thought he may be the one and I was crushed and then I was totally guarded. Next relationship I got in was for a little over a year, he talked about marriage, I thought this is it well he broke up with me and was married 4 months later - I was devestated. However I started concentrating on me and what I truly wanted in a relationship and was totally honest with myself. Well one night I was out and met an absolutely wonderful guy I knew the night I met him that he was right for me but I took my time and was true to myself and here I am happy with two baby girls and with someone who really gets me and who I am. It is a wonderful thing to take care of yourself because good things start happening. Oh and by the way I look back at my past relationships and think "What" was I thinking they were completely the wrong guys for me! Welcome back:) Rose
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Same thing also happened to me, I took some time off here and with my friends. I silently weep thinking of all those times wasted, but I have forgotten her because I accepted my faith and reality.
I loved and given my all, but I realized that doing this also turns me into a loser. I lost self-respect, I did things that I don't normally do and some of it made me look like a fool. I am thankful that I have recovered, for I am now a "new" person.
I have learned from my experience and so are you, I think that is what's important. To move on, forget about the past and live a positive life!;)
@recycledgoth (9894)
•
12 Sep 07
Good for you hun, I'm glad to see you back and full of positive thoughts. It's never easy to get over a heart break but time is a great healer.
@aninspiration (346)
• United States
12 Sep 07
it is hard to love someone and find out it isnt given back the same way I do that also love to much make them my world then end up getting hurt not knowing how to go on
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@MisterPlus (1915)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Congratulations!! and welcome to the world of happiness. Your true love will come don't worry. I believe there is someone for someone.
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@monicazhang (802)
• China
12 Sep 07
Hi pagibig!I am happy to hear that you have chosen to forget and move on.Its really a hard moment for a woman who loves then being hurt badly.Last year,I broken up with my ex-boyfriend although I still loved him at that time.He just didnt know how to choose between me and another girl who also loves him deeply.For a period of time,I thought I couldnt survive but finally I made it.Half a year later,I met my current bf and we have a stable relationship now.He is a sweet guy and we are planning to live together in the near future.So what I want to say is,love and cherish yourself first,then you are ready to love someone else.Forget about these sad things,its just like 'growing pains'.You would grow up and become stronger after overcoming these difficulties.I wish you happy everyday!
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@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
12 Sep 07
Welcome back!
Im just glad that you have decided to stop being played by that certain guy. H must be a good player coz he was able to play with five girls and how innocent these girls amy seem that they have allowed this guy to do such stupidity and Im just glad you are out of that pit.
Its time to focus on things that are worthy of your time and effort and wasting your time, your tears and even your heart was a big mistake I hope you will learn to forget in time.
Happy mylotting and have a nice day!
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@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
12 Sep 07
Sorry to hear that you went through this. I know that its very painful to go through that. I have been through it before. Although it wasnt 5 other girls. The good thing is that you found out the truth before things went further then they did. I think a lot of people have problems with loving theirself. I dont think you can truely love someone else if you dont love yourself first. Your right, you do deserve much better. Its good that you are making it me time after such a bad relationship. Thats important to do. I did the same thing after a horrible breakup. I stayed single for a little over a year. Didnt go out on one date. I spent lots of time with friends and family. And let me tell you, it did me a lot of good! Good luck with everything. =)
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
13 Sep 07
I could feel your pain. Mine wasn't nearly as bad as yours but after 5 years I was dumped because he "needed more space"...I know so well the crying and horrible feelings. I'm still going through it once in awhile but I'm trying to move on. It's not easy but I know it has to be done.
@khazeemee (288)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
that's very nice to know.. and i definitely agree with you, it's the first step that you have to take when your in a process of mending your broken heart: "learn to love yourself and embrace who you are" because when you do this you wouldn't feel less important, instead you will realize how worthy and deserving you are for someone better,and in a run you will also discover your capacity to love again and be loved by the right person.. God loves you, you will always important with him..
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@pagibig (297)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
Just to update you guys.. not that any of you would be interested.
My ex is back. He's been calling me, not saying if he wants to get back together or not.
However, his other girls are calling me also. For some reason they've been telling me that he wants to get back together with them.
Tonight I talked to him and told him i've moved on. I don't appreciate it that he and his girls are trying to involve me in whatever is going on with them.
Basically it's a nice way of saying 'leave me alone'.
It now seems so pathetic. The way those girls were fawning over him. The way they are trying to pull me down. Well, amusing really. I wish those girls would stop and realize what i realized.
Maybe they will someday. Right now, i feel free.
Thank you all for your comments. It's nice to know that people understand what you went through.
@khazeemee (288)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
im proud of you girl, well just keep it up and always be strong.. :)
@rhema88 (6)
• Singapore
12 Sep 07
I truly salute your decision and positive thinking, it is his loss to lose you but your gain to one day find a soulmate who truly loves you and totally forget about this jerk who dont deserve your attention at all. Love yourself and treasure your loved ones and one day, your true love will find you.
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