I am sad...
By gr8life
@gr8life (6251)
Malaysia
September 12, 2007 1:12pm CST
My close friend who is also my office colleague told me this morning that she is going to leave. She got a better offer some where. We used to go out together during lunch and whenever we have time, we will go shopping together. I get to know her when she joined the company two years ago. She is five years younger than me and she treats me like her elder sister. She is a mother of two, an easy going person and very down to earth. I like her attitudes so much and very happy to know her. Whenever we have office problem, we will sit and share the story. Sometimes, we do gossip too *smiles*
She told me that the future company provides better benefits and she feels more secured there. She has a problem with her colleagues in the same department. She feels that they are being racist to her. I sensed something was wrong when we went out for lunch yesterday. She asked me with whom I used to go out lunch with before she joined the company. She also asked me what I used to do when I go out alone and do I like my office colleagues or not.
Two months ago, another girl who used to be close to me, left the company too. She has the same reason for leaving the company. She couldn't handle the office gossip and the working environment isn't really encouraging her to stay. She has no problem with the japanese but the local staff really mean to her.
I have been with the company longer than them. I do find my colleagues have their own clique. I know some people who are good in front of you and bad mouthed you at the back and sometimes back stab you too. But due to the flexible working hours, I decide to stay on.
But now, I do feel a bit lonely without the two of them. Yes, I have many other colleagues but I just don't get too close with them. I am much aware of their attitudes and always be careful whenever I talk to them.Even if I know that they talk bad behind me, I don't care much. I only go to office to work and the rest I don't really bother. Friends may come and go but losing these two girls really leave an impact to me. Now, I have been thinking seriously to look for another job too!
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
13 Sep 07
Well, you guys are still friends even when she leaves, right? I understand your loneliness. I think if you think might feel better to have a change of environment, then you should pursue for your own sake. I have been staying with my company for more than 5 years, and I think it's time for change, so I quit. But I also know that most of the time, it's just one hell to another hell. Wish you good luck on the job hunting then!
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello wondericequeen,
I was eager to update my resume after knowing that my friend is going to tender her resignation. I hold on this long cause of flexi working hours and few good friends I have here. After giving birth, I think this is a good place to work as I can concentrate more on my baby. My working hours are not too long and I have less responsibilities (all being taken by the japanese) I just couldn't take it anymore. How I wish my hubby will come back faster and we can sit and discuss what we need to do next for the sake of the family!
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
14 Sep 07
Right, discussing with your husband and plan the whole thing out would be a really nice idea! Maybe you could update the resume first and look around if there is good opportunities out there. I am not sure if it works differently there, we tend to have more job vacancies at the start of the year.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 07
Hello wondericequeen,
I think that is the best solution. Anyway, he will back this Oct. He also needs to start all over again since he has been there for more than half a year. His previous employment offer has been cancelled, I guess. Not too sure as he needs to check with them later. But right now, I do feel like leaving the company and just go for any companies that willing to take me in. I keep everything to myself for too long...well those related to my job. I don't think I can stay here any longer. It just makes me feel bored, looking at those irritating people. Later, I will decide again what I want to do in a long term. I do have plans with my hubby too. See how it works first.
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@rupak111 (9)
•
13 Sep 07
hi dear
we born alone and will die alone ..nothing is permanent in this life..your friend is leaving you so that you are being sad..don't worry time is a great doctor ..starting date you will fill more bore and after some times you will be normal . if she is really your good friend leave her with your beautiful smile and pray with god for her nice future... if you are good you will get another good friend ..just believe everything happens for good and be positive...
rupak
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello rupak111,
Thanks so much for you advice and I appreciate it. My friend is going to work in a company just a walking distance from my present company. Yes, it is not that far. We still can keep in touch and go out having lunch together sometimes. But through my experience, office colleagues are different. Once you step out, you seldom come back and say hi to your ex-colleague. I just feel a bit lonely without her as we used to spend time together, going out for lunch or just window shopping. She is a good listener too. With the 'unhealthy working environment' and now, I am losing her as a friend, I do feel lost!
@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
hi freind, I now exactly how you feel, I have this friend from my formet job which I've grown so close and when it's time for her to leave and go back to the province, I cried and loneliness engulfed me, what I did? I also reasigned from that job and tried new environment and new life.
I know it is hard to find such good job now a days and you don;t have to leave..I just pray that you can move on and hope you'll have more friends to come. :)
Cheer up! wherever those 2 girls go,they will always be a part of you. :)
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello cefaz_21,
My working environment right now is really discouraging me to stay. I don't have problem with the bosses but the co-workers are too much sometimes. I stay on because of flexi working hours. I have a baby son and living alone without my hubby at the moment, is just a bit difficult whenever I need to decide on a major change in my life. Been thinking so many times to resign but keep postponing my intention. I just need my hubby to come back first so that we could sit and discuss further about our next plan.
