Can you learn patience?

jodenton Oh Boy what did you get yourself into??? Let me tell you I too was in the very spot you are in. When I met my husband 9 years ago he loved and played golf. Being a sporty person myself I thought I might like to take a swing at it. Now, I have found that men in general do not have a lot of patience, at least here in Michigan they don't. So I went through many of the problems you went through. We battled it out for a season, each time I would come home with dissapointment that I did not do very well, mad cause we were fighting and frustrated cause I was athletic and could not get the hang of it. My first advice would be to take 3 or 4 lessons from a reliable source, whether it is a trainer or another good friend that knows how to golf. Maybe a lady friend that is pretty decent. This way if you can get the technique down and master connecting with the ball then you will have a better time on the course. Learn about the game, read online, books, purchase the rule book (we got ours through the USGA website) and brush up on the game. I have learned that sometimes husbands and wives just don't work together in certain situations. Like him teaching you how to play. The main thing is to be honest, if he is becoming grufy with you simply say this is not staying positive just let me hit or move on and drop it right there. You both cannot let it eat at you the rest of the day or days. Since I started playing golf 9 years ago I have improved. Funny thing is that I did not take any classes. We struggled in the beginning. I ended up having a six year dormant period away from golf and just started it again this year. Miraculously my game is so much better. I went from the high 70's 9 years ago up and down in the 40's. Good luck.

This is one my downfalls. I am not a very patient person. I am learning day by day, but it is not easy. It is a learnable trait though and I am learning slowly but surely. I am much more patient than I used to be, so it must be working!

I have never played golf befre. But I have learned patience in many other things. I have Adult ADD and patience is a hard thing for me to have because of being frustrated most of the time. I am learning relaxation procedures. It's hard, but deep breathing exercises help alot of the times.