If you could stay at home with your kids would you??

When I had my first I switched to part-time. Now that I have my second I am a full time stay at home mom because where I live to put both kids in daycare would leave me earning next to nothing so instead of making less than minimum wage and having other people raise my kids I decided to stay home! I don't regret it one minute , yes money is tight and by the end of the day I am a little burnt out and need to get out of the house but there are so many things that if I were at work I would miss out on. My kids are only going to be babies once and as they grow up I won't get to see every little thing they do which is so amazing at this age I wouldn't trade it for the highest paying job:)

I too am a stay at home mom, but I will say that children that see their parents working every day learns alot from them. Yes I love being with my children, but you also need an income to live on, and I've got to say that the pay for stay at home mom's really stinks, and you don't get any paid sick days, or paid vacation's, and you work 24/7. When your child starts kindergarten, and they are with you all the time have a real hard time letting go, as well you have an even harder time letting go ! If I was to do it all over again I would be a working mother, and enjoy being with my children at night, weekends, and holidays !

I am very thankful that I was able to stay at home with my daughter, when she was young. As a (widowed) single mom, I felt that this was very important, and what my late husband would've wanted. I wouldn't trade these years at home I had with her. I started working as a daycare provider, when she was a bit older, and was able to include her as well. Later on, I started doing this from my home. I know some families, like the ones I work for, who prefer to be out working, and have someone look after their children, aside from the fact that they need the income.

i agree with your friend. i'm a working mom and i don't think my kids take it against me that i work outside of the home. i used to be guilty about it, but not anymore i've stopped feeling so bad about it. this i learned when my eldest son was about 11 and he helped me explain to his two younger sisters why i had to go back to work after staying home for 7 years. He said that they should be proud of having a mom who works - that's pride on paper filling up blanks on occupation. Most of their classmates in schools don't have working mothers. and he just felt proud that i was. maybe it gave him the added confidence or the pride for whatever reason. but i just felt good after that i didn't have to be hard on myself anymore feeling guilty and sad to be away most time of the day. yeah, there are mothers who stay home, and there are those who works. either way, they care for the best interest of their children and that's the most important thing to keep in mind.

I have stayed home with my daughter for the whole 5 years of her life now that shes in school I will be going back to work part time ( i have been working at home for the past 2 years) but i loved it but there were times that I wished I had a place to go like work! Dont get me wrong I love my daughter and everything but staying at home full time is a very stressful job. So your frined might be right in what she said for her maybe staying at home would be A STRESS CASE and that in turn would make her not so grat of a parent! It may sound dumb but I know people that I really wantto tell them to go back to work because as stressed as they are they end up taking it out on the kids not on purpous but thats who gets the bad end of it. So its a tuff thing to do staying at home but if you can deal with the stress its good and you will make lots of memorys with your kids but if all the memorys are gonna be of mommy or daddy screaming and going nuts then better not to be home with them 24 7

I am pregnant for the fist time right now. I am very excited to be able to be a stay at home mom. Now, that doesn't mean that I won't work at all. I think it is very true that some women are just not interested in staying home, but that does not mean that they are better than those women who do stay home; or that the women who stay home are better than those who work. I'm sure we all know women who were stay at home moms and others who were full time working moms. As long as the mom is doing what she sees as what is in the best interest of the child and the family as a whole, that makes her the best mom she can be.

I've been a working mom and I am a stay at home mom, so I've been on both sides of the track. There are good points and bad points about both. Working boosts your self moral and gives you some independence. It also gives you a break from your kids. Staying at home has great rewards and you get to see all the 1sts. It also gets stressful when the children go through those "rough phases". I don't think either way makes you a better parent. It's not whether or not you have a job, but how you're handling being a good parent.

I would stay at home with my kids if I could. But I think it's different for every family, and each person has to do what's best for themselves and their family.

I am a stay at home mom now, but I worked when my son was an infant. My husband and I worked opposite shifts for the first six months of my son's life, so it wasn't so bad then. Then for the next two months, I worked 2 days a week, and my son had to go to a babysitter. That was rough for us. I hated leaving him there, even though I really trusted her. I went to just working Saturdays for a while so my husband could be home with him again, and then decided to just stay home with him and work from home in April. I love it. I think I am a better mom when I stay home with my son. I have more time to play with him, and cook him more nutritious food. I get to see everything he does. I know he is well adjusted, and I know what is going on with him. If one of us isn't feeling well, I can rearrange our schedules to make things work for us in a way that a daycare wouldn't be able to.

Being a stay at home mom is a lot of work. More work than I thought it would be when my husband and I decided I would stay home. I love doing it but I can see both sides. I know when I am getting out once in a while am a better mom to my kids because I have not been listening to them scream at me all day. I wouldnt trade bing a SAHM for anything but sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if I had made some different choices.

Today is my last day in my job because I have to take care of my 3 kids ages 1-3. There are so many things I've missed while my children are growing up and I don't want to miss it forever so I quit my job and just stay with them. There also so many things that happened like accidents that could have prevented had I stayed home with them. One of the moments that made me decide to stay home was when my 3-year said to me one day"You know mom I'm happy because you're here, can you just stay home and watch me? just let daddy work" You just can't imagine how that words from an angel hit me hard

I have been a stay at home Mom for 8 months because my 1 yr old had a few health problems she just had surgery. I will be going back to work soon because I cannot afford to be home anylonger. If I could afford to be a stay at home Mom forever I would. I feel that children need their Moms in their primary years and you do not get those years back. I have a 6 yr and I worked untiil this year while raising her and I missed so much and would get sad sometimes because I missed her first words, her first crawl because I was working trying to make a living.

We have our own opinion and I respect hers, but for me a good mother is the one who gave so much love, importance and care to their children, whether you're a working mother or a housewife, as long as you are always on your childrens side specially when they needed you most. A responsible mother that willing to give up everything just for her children is a very good mother.. A selfless woman just to give her children a happiness and raise her young ones to become a better person.

I had been a Certified Nurse in my local Hospital for three years before i became a stay-at-home-mom - just hated the daycares available here GROSS!! so I decided to open my OWN!! I took classes and got my certification to run it ligit! Ran it for 6 years, from the time my little one was 8 months old - then after 6 years MY OWN kids wanted and needed more of MY time... so i was online looking for work at home work and found data entry work and a businesses i love ... i have this business www.uvme.biz/322261PK i love being on-line working my data entry and my business as well as doing little fun money making things like here :) XX which gives me SO much more time with my girls than i ever had as a Nurse OR in my Daycare even! :) but having been home for 11 years now it DOES take a certain type of person to be ABLE to stay home ( most of the time) alone!! with no adult conversations - now i had my daycare during those *baby* years so i can see how it would be VERY LONELY with just kids all the time :( -- but with being home now with mine in thier pre teens and teen.. im only THANKFUL for them to leave for a few hours!! lol -- i work.. then they come home and by then i cant wait! :)XX i LOVE the house to myself music blaring singing alone and working..cleaning even lol lol xx

I really can't understand the meaning of your friends wording. Being mother is not an easy job. It should come as a natural process. It can't be trained.

No, i dont think so, though it may be different for other mothers who may think likewise, and each person to what they think is best for them. I feel that when your kids are samll, they need you at home, no matter whom so ever you may hvae at home to take care of them, no one can replace a mother and her love for her kids, no one can look after, feed etc, without any other motive but simple pure love for her kids, and there is no question about that. And i think those mothers who work when the kids are young, are not doing a good thing, as if you have borne kids, learn to look after and be there for them, always. Of course some people maybe having problems and compulsions maybe there, i am talking in general kind of situations. If the husbands working then mother should be home when your kids are small , till they are around 9-10 years, or when they are little older maybe, and even then, right through their teens they need love, guidance, attention so you should make sure that you are home from work ( even if you do pick up something ) as soon as your kids are home, so that you are able ot be with them and share their things with them, their day at school, what they did, their joys sorrows, serve them a hot piping meal, care and love them, thats what mothers are for too isnt it. And why feel bad or ashamed of all this? And when you are at work, you are not a 'mother' then, you are just a working person, and you are abset at home, so if you must work, make out a schedule when you must be home and stick to that, give time slots, so that you are there for your kids too.

I decided to stay home after I had my now 9 month old. I've stayed home after I've had both kids. I enjoy staying home, but I can understand where she is coming from. I do have a hard time not having much adult interaction and getting cabin fever. I actually have a part-time job at night now. I think it works out good for me. Gets me out of the house enough that I get a break from the kids and allows me to have some adult conversation but I get to see my kids grow up.

I don't like to stay at home since I can looking for a job to support my family. I am working to support my family. I am only stay at home, on sunady (my offday), during that time I spend alot of my time with my kids, talk to each other, draw something, and watch cartoon together and etc. For me a better mother they could balance the time, even though she is working but still have time to spend with her's family. There are alot of sacrifies that you do for your time if you want to be a better one.

Sometimes I think of going to work as a mini vacation...LOL I'm not a bad parent, I don't think. I'm in that stage of I'm not really sure if I'd be happier home with the kids or at work. Since 3 out of my 4 children are in school, I look forward to spending some time with them when we can. Some women aren't meant to be stay at home moms while others make it their career choice. I think your friend could've meant that some women like the little break from being a mommy by going to work where they're doing more adult things and having adult conversations. I know that having a conversation with my 2 year old is one of the best things in life but it kinda limits it to talking about Blues Clues or the Mickey Mouse club..LOL

i dont think that ,why a better mother shoud work??i don't know !!