my life as I knew it is OVER !

Oh sweetheart I am so so sorry! This is terrible news, but I admire your strength for throwing him out. You have some good friends here on Mylot as well as close family who will support you and give you every help and care to get you through this, you will get through this, but it will take time, which is a great healer, you will feel raw at the moment. Once trust is broken you can never bring it back and when the relationship has been based on a lie then you are better off without him. Not sure about a lawyer but a hitman might me better, hope that made you smile, here's a hug xxx

Oh you poor thing, it will take you awhile to get over the hurt but just think of it in another way that you are free to meet someone new, and remember the best way to get back at a cheater is to get on with your life, look extremely good, smile even if it is hard to do at the start and make him see what he has done and is now missing out on, stand tall you can do it...

I have sent you an email sweetheart xxxxx

Sweetie I have sent you an email I love you very much your Angel xxxxxxx

Mom I have already mailed you and I want to reiterate that I am here if you need me! You are a very strong woman and I pray that you continue to be strong and that we can limit the damage to your heart, and that we will get you to heal soon! I can't begin to imagine hoe devastated you are! xxx

Oh, sweets, I am so sorry to hear that you are hurting. Right now you need to just mourn and allow yourself the time you need to do it. Rely on your friends who care about you and can hold you up during this time when it feels hard to stand on your own. Blessings.

Hi raydene, I haven´t been on your friends list for long so you might not know who I am. Just wanted to let you know that I think you made the right decision to throw your husband out. I can only offer you my support as I´m no lawyer, I wish I could do more than that. I´m really sorry that this has happened to you. XXX Dana

Hi Raydene, I hate to be the one to talk legalities here, since all the other responses you received kind words and heartbreaking sentiments. Be a legal person I can't help myself ... I am not an attorney but I am a paralegal so I thought maybe I could provide some insight on what you need to be doing. First you need to make sure all the locks are changed and any banks accounts you had jointly are closed immediately and any funds in there I would take to help you with the monetary support you are going to need. Next, you need to be on the phone to your friends, any references for attorneys are helpful, it is better to be referred to an attorney than hitting the yellow pages. Next, if none of your friends are helpful call the American Bar Association of your town or the closest larger town and get referred to a family attorney, preferably a woman (since you will need the guidance a woman can offer). Next get your affairs in order, all the bills currently owing, any other matters that he left behind when you threw him out. Put the tears to rest you have time after the divorce to take care of that. Do you have any substantial evidence that he was cheating? If so, make copies, and keep them, you will need them. Also, do a budget, you are going to need to do one when you go to the attorney's office to file so might as well have it done beforehand so they know what you need in as far as support or help prior to the divorce. Unsure what state you are in, if you PM me I can help you further with certain laws of the state might be in. It is going to a hard ride, but you need to get a grip on what he has done to you, sure he cheated on you with another, but he also have to cover your butt and your children for the time without him. Be gone with him, he wasn't good enough for you to be with, let him go and live your life to the fullest. Lori

Hi, its very sad to know this. Keep strength all will be Ok. I know its easy than said. But you have got the lesson and from next time onward will atleast judge people more wisely. He will definitely get his punishment as he has cheated on you.

Oh sweetie I am so sorry to hear about this. I am just a pm away if you need to talk! I can understand how you feel that he has ruined your life and your childrens life and for that I am sorrier then words could ever say raydene.

Oh, Radene. How awful! I am so sorry! Just as things were going so much better for you! I wish there was something I could do. Just know I'll be thinking about you and praying for you to find some comfort somehow.

It is indeed painful to discover it only now, after more than a decade of marriage. Perhaps it is better now than later as plans can still be made as to how you want to live your future, if reconciliation is not in the picture. I guess you have the support of your family members and friends. Be strong, my friend. God bless!

hello raydene, sorry to hear this, u r cheated by u r own best friend , u r life partner. i can understand how painful for u to take such a bold decision. any way it is "better late than never".i only can say that pls have courage and self belief to come out of this situation. its only u who can help ur self. so pls keep u r confidence up. u definately come out from this pain and almighty god will definately help u.

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear that. I hope that everything goes well for you from here on out. That is so sad that he did that to you, please take care and once again I wish you the best.

WE will get hurt when our beliefs get broken.We will be hurt in such a big way that the heartburn cannot be explained.What you did is right.He should feel ashamed.All the best for your and your childrens future.

I thought about not replying because I can't really help. But I just wanted to let you know I'll be praying for you, and when I say I will pray, I truly do. I truly hope everything works out in a way that brings comfort and peace to your soul.

i am very sorry to hear that my friend, i know that i was too hard for you, i am not a lwayer so i can help you in legal aspect but i can pray for you.

I am so sorry to hear about your husband. That is so terrible that he took 13 years of your life. I am so sorry I have no respect at all for losers like him. My heart goes out to you. DO NOT LET HIM BACK IN. I know it is hard but once a cheater always a cheater. I know it will be hard to trust or love again but believe it or not all Men are not like that loser. Karma is very real he will reep what he sew. I am not a Lawyer but divorce him and get your allimony and take him to the cleaners I know money cannot pay for all the years he took from you but it helps. Good luck to you and stay strong. A better will come if you let him.

oh migosh everythings come to ane dnfor you dear with that moron.how could he do this to you?hugs very hard

i'm sorry to hear that. you must be completely devastated. your pain must be immeasurable but i hope that you think over your next move thoroughly because if you have children, a divorce will hurt them more than you're hurting right now. but fortunately for you, that is an option. in some countries like mine, divorce isn't an option so people in your situation have to live with it for the rest of their lives.