A mother who left her 5 small children. . . ..

Hi dorisday~ I have no idea what would ever posess a mother to leave her children. There is a friend of ours in my town who did the same thing. She left her husband and children for a boyfriend. We can't understand it. I can see leaving your husband, but I would never leave my children.

My partner and I have actually had a huge argument over this topic. I was upset and (foolishly) stated that WE (our son, my son, and myself) were leaving. He got highly upset! If it came down to it I would take my kids with me. Who's going to watch our son while he works? The only way I would even think about leaving him behind is if I had no way to pay for necessities. I know my partner is perfectly capable of taking care of him. Of course it would hurt me to no end to not have him with me though.

To me I wouldn't blame the woman. She must have a severe heartbroken that's why she left the house without giving a second thought on her children. Why didn't the husband blamed for not taking care of the children? I don't think the woman should be given more pressure by blaming all the things on her shoulder. Forgive me, but this is only my opinion. I don't agree if during a fight the wife is blamed for not taking care of the children. When the first fault of the fight is surely comes from the husband who is in most cases being irresponsible. I would very like to give the responsibility to the husband and blame him if he left the house with five kids. See how about that.

She is teaching her husband a lesson,thats why she did it...He probably was telling her she did not do enough or he was not appreciating her,so she took off and left the kids with him,to teach him how much she does around the house..I am sure she will be back,in fact he will probably be hunting her down wanting her to come back home...You can be sure he will be sorry for whatever he did,and he with learn a lesson about how he talks to her.It gives a man a good lesson to leave him the full responsibity of 5 children..She is letting him get a good taste of how it is to care for 5 small children...

We don't really know the whole story with this situation. Quite obviously she was so upset that she left him with the kids. It is not like she left the kids alone to fend for themselves. Maybe she wanted to give him an idea of how it is to be alone with 5 kids and no break. No one knows why she left for the night. Sometimes people come to a breaking point and need that few hours to clear their heads before they make a decision that will affect their family. I can't make a judgment on this woman, that is not my job to do, I just hope that her husband and she have made amends and are doing better.

For me there would never be a reason to leave children. but you did not mention if the father was a t home with them. If she left them alone, there is no excuse, but if dad was home she knew they were being taken care of. But if I left the bundles of joy would be right by my side. she probably needed some time to cool off!

There is NEVER a reason to leave 5 small children at home alone like that. I am a mom of 4 and the only of my 4 I would leave at home is my 12yr old and it would only be long enough to do a short pick up at the store. The max I would leave him home alone is 1hour and not a minute more. As far as for my younger kids NO WAY will I leave them home alone at all. Either I bringthem with me or I dont go out at all.

To me it kind of depends - I mean, obviously I couldn't imagine abandoning my children, but leaving them with my husband for one night would not be too big of a deal. Leaving them home alone would never happen. But I could envision leaving the kids with my husband for a night or at least a couple of hours. I don't think this is how I'd respond, though. If it was because he wasn't respecting my contributions to the household, I might. But otherwise, if it was over something else, I'd probably ask him to sleep on the couch or something. My husband doesn't think I'd even leave him with the kids, much less a babysitter or leaving the kids by themselves.

never! i would never leave my kids unless they were with someone who would take good care of them and i knew i could come back for them!

I think the mother did the right thing so that his husband could realize how much he is in need of her.But my doubt is how could she stay outside without seeing her own kids..

The lady must have had a really bad fight with her husband. If he hit her she did right to leave but she should have taken her children. A better way of doing things would have been to get him to go. I think that 8 year old must have been very sad. However he or she is at least old enough to walk and talk. A 5 month old baby is totally dependent on his parents. I guess that his dad is really finding it difficult to look after 5 children without his wife around. If something terrible happened to my house I think I would take my children and myself to move into my sister's house for a while. If was was being hit by my partner I would contact the police. I would not ever leave my children behind.

I don't think she did the right thing, HOWEVER, if she left the children in the care of the father, then it's not as bad as everyone on here makes it out to be. A break from the kids (especially that many) is ok - i think she probably just needed a little space & since he's the father, he should be more than capable of doing what she does. Someone said she was teaching him a lesson & i wonder - did it work? Honestly, it's not so bad, there was an adult there to take care of the kids, it's not like she left them alone, it's also not like she dumped them & ran - never to return, it was only 1 night. Hopefully he's learnt his lesson & has a little more respect for her & all the things she does for her family! Might make him think a little about how he treats his wife & kids. :) Good on her for having the guts to do it, i don't think i could ever do it myself!

what a shallow reason for a mother to leave her children. its really not right. And even if that would happen to me, despite what happen between me and my husband and what ever may happen, i will never ever leave my children behind. I will stay by their side.

It is really sad when mother leave the children and hard to figure it out why somebody would do that.But now on the news we can watch so many stories about mothers killing their child and hide them in the house.It s sad what all is society able to do.

Well, not knowing what the fight was about, who knows what posses these women to leave behind their children. I have a 5 year old and 9 month old and could never imagine leaving them.

I scrolled down to see if there was a reason why she left. Leaving her kids with anyone that has been drinking isn't a good choice even if that person is there father. I do hope her husband came to his senses though over this. Your friend done what a lot of wives only dream of doing for fear of what people would think of her not coming back home to her kids. Some men need that harsh wake up call and stop taking there wives for granted. Now what she should of done was locked the doors and fixed it so his sorry butt couldn't get in without waking the neighborhood. You can tell her was it worth it? Did her husband learn his lesson? If not those two need to sit down and really talk to each other, if not it will only get worse before it gets better. For your question, I have left my children behind only to stay with my parents for 2 weeks. Well only my oldest actually. The first time my youngest has been away from me is now that she's going to school. For 11 years this is the first time I been by myself and it stinks. Leaving my kids behind would be like leaving part of myself with them. Your friend must of really took so much and snapped. One night isn't anything that will scar the kids unless her husband was a jerk and said she left them and was never coming back. Then she needs to kick his butt so bad that they will need a doctor to remove her shoe.

Maybe because the father is there, someone who can look for their children for awhile. The mother is just trying to calm herself. If she doesn't come back, I think the mother is not on her right senses.

If I were the one, leaving would only be temporary--at least for a few days. If I'm going for good, I'd bring all my children because it's my instinct to care for my children come hell or high waters....this mother may have reasons...one, she could not support her own children alone...second, she may have left without giving it a serious thought...I'm sure she may have already regretted for acting drastically amidst anger and pain...third...it could be a way of 'punishing' the husband by making him be the one to care for the kids....there might be other reasons, but the bottomline is: mothers never forsake their children, unless she has gone crazy she does not know what she's doing....

Absolutely nothing would make me leave my kids behind for any reason. They are older now at 21 and 17 and I wouldn't even leave now. I want to be near them and be a part of their lives as they grow into adulthood. When they were little, there was nothing at all that would have made me leave them. The only thing I can think of is if I was depressed or something and might hurt them. That never happened to me but, if a mother is unstable, then she should get help and leave the kids somewhere safe. Otherwise, I honestly can't figure out how any mom could walk out on her kids. If my marriage went bad, the kids would be with me even if it was tough going. Maybe I am obsessive but those are my kids and they need me, even now.

Hi, i am a mother of 4 chirldren.My oldest is 14 my youngest is 5 years. the 5 year old i adoptedand my youngest bio child should been 10. She passed away 3 years ago. I been through alot and i dont see why peple would do stupid stuff like leave their children alon. I dont think there is a reason that any kids under like 13 or so need to be left alone. Kids are to improtan.