would it be healthy if?
@angel_of_charm (4134)
Philippines
4 responses
@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
Well a relationship is supposed to be only 2 couples any involvement of another being ruins everything. We turn to others when we need help but its juts until that point and nothin more we just get advices and we do it on our own. Once your in a relationship both of you should handle it by yourself thats a healthy argument.
But any involvement of another family member ruins everything. It makes you either dominate of be domaniated by the whole thing.
A couple should learn how to face everything, having arguments and problems are normal. The world is bad enough to have a problem less kind of life.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
absolutely, it loses the respect you once build because the family would think your messing up with their family member..on which i think things should remain discreet if you know it should be confidential and if you know it will just ruin the respect and would come out the worst part of it..i had learn not to tell issues about my relationship with other family member just to keep their trust on him..so things will not be complicated.
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@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
is the one having problems like this you're friend?! or is it you?!
some people are really so narrow minded sometimes and they think they know whats best for their son or daughter. They even sometimes count how many mistakes youve made during the whole time bein in the relationship. Its just best not to open up this kind of topic to narrowminded people :) but if you know youre mom and dad very well then its ok
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
it was my friend actually..while she was cheated once with this bf and she kept it from friends and family..only one friend whom she trusted will not spill the beans out she talked about it..but after that the story got closed and no words ever spoken about the cheating..so the guy was saved from losing her family's respect right? and now it seems so unfair for her because the mom suddenly loses respect to her just coz this bf is spilling everything..
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
Hi angle_of_charm! I guess, it depends if his mother is very open minded and know her limitations or her boundaries are. If she is the type who can give advice objectively, why not but if she is the type who is meddlesome, I think that is trouble. I think fights or arguments with your bf or your husband should be very well kept between the two of you. I really believed that only the two of you should sort things out together and not bringing his mom or anybody to be in the middle of things. Besides confiding with his mom may or may not work for the relationship. She might jeopardize it or she may turn out to be your ally. Take care and have a nice day.
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@rxdsx2 (5)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
uhmmmmmmm. sharing relationship problem to parents is sometimes a good thing.depending how parents react on it. but mostly if parents are involved in the relationship, sometimes they are the one who fix the problems... and i don't think it will lose each other respect.. it's depends on how both of you have patience...
