Do you feel sepparation, or divorce is the best thing to do?

I would divorce.If you both are not happy and you can't see eye to eye, you should divorce because if you separate hoping that one of you will change, you will be waisting time.You can't make anyone change. They have to want to. And if it isn't their idea, they will change for a time but they may soon resent the changes they had to do.It is better to divorce, go your separate ways.

as far as I am concerned, I'd say that it is the best thing and for the better of things. I never had it better, I have regained my peace and a claim for happiness as against the frustration and desperation when I was inside the marriage. Although, if for my children, I would say that it is something that I am not very proud about. I am actually sad that they had to go through a very painful experience being witnesses and victims of a broken family. It certainly is not the best of situation that you have to present to them growing up. I was torn myself looking at them as they were exposed to a cruel society that highlights on extreme sacrifice and frowns on divorce. We were ridiculed as being shallow & immature solving the problem through separation. We had to endure with that for a long time & even up to now facing up to narrow-minded people. Yet, I have learned to live with it, and helped my kids live with it too, and thankfully, they were on my side in this including my family. I would say that there will be times when your relationship will be subject to extreme tests, and it is up to you both to work hard around it. But there will be times too, when all of your efforts are not having good results, so that in these times, you just have to let go and say goodbye to things that don't work at all. that's what happened to me, i said enough, and i decided with strong coviction, hoping that time will heal our wounds, and we're doing alright, me and my children. i have learned to forgive myself, and i am not regretting one bit of such a decision.

I think it depends on how much you value the relationship. I think that if a person separate it will lead to a divorce eventually because when a person is separated I can't see how they can communicate and work it out. So I think the divorce is the best thing to do if a person have tried everything to make it work and are still unhappy. I don't promote divorce but I think it's better to get a divorce than live miserably day after day.

i don't think so..here in our country, separation is not the answer and divorce is not legal here..couples here really tried to save their relationships eventhough it's hard to try but still their trying..maybe, you can have separation if you both really have that decision that you need to grow alone..it's hard to say but it's up to the both of you..

i believe that all relationships can work if the people in them make it work...i think if they didnt want to make it work then dont get married..if theyre already committed (married) then i believe that they should go to counseling..nobody said that a relationship was going to be easy..dont take the easy way out..fight for your marriage the other person doesnt want it? then leave and divorce already not worth it if someone doesnt want to make things work

We don't believe in divorce or separation. Life is to live together with love and compassion for each other. Adjustment to each other's feelings is a necessary part of life. There is no difference which can not be sorted out. What is needed is a will.

I would have to say that it all depends on the problems that the couple is having, all based on personal feelings as well. I think that in a lot of cases, separation is the route to go for te first little bit to see if you really want to be apart. Sometimes spending time away from each other can open up eyes and make room for necessary changes.

My view over this topic sepparation is not the only solution..!! And yes if you are saying that the problem is unrecouncilable then the last option is just give some more time to your relationship. One should try his best to save his/her relationship because getting divorced or separted from each other is next to "running" from a problem and "running" from a problem is not at all a solution to any problem. One should "face it" and "solve it". At LAST if things just can't be solved any more and they are still not working out then getting divorced is the only option and its also better to get sepparated rather than ruining all of your life sacrificing for some other irresponsible person..!!

I think it depends on the couple and if they are willing to make changes to make the differences better. I also think that too many times people stay in bad marraiges because it is the right thing to do in their minds, like if they have children, but this does not always work. If you try seperation and it feels like you are better off then maybe divorce is the answer. I also feel that a lot of people rush into marraige even when they feel that it won't work out because getting a divorce is always an option. I believe that marraige is forever, we just have to find the right life partner. If you are unsure, then stay away from marraige.

Just read what people wrote to this discussion. I totally agree with what snow said. Couples nowadays are rushing into getting married. They must get to know each other more. Marriage is not only for fun. Its a name of life time commitment and partnership.

I think that if you take a break and after a while realize things are not working out then you should get a divorce. I dont think its fair for one to say they dont want a divorce when they know things arent working out. I think separating for a while might help you to decide what you want to do.