do you hate your uncle or your aunt or one of your cousin? WHY?
By smileonstar
@smileonstar (4007)
United States
September 16, 2007 6:51pm CST
Well, my dad has many brothers... but most of them don't like my family; I mean my dad, my mom and my brothers. At first, I thought that was just a short period of time but it is not just in the past, it keeps going on and going on. Even I married and have kids... they still hate us. I dont know why? All I know that they are so jealous what we have and they want the same thing. I dont understand why do they have to do that... if they want whatever we have now, so why dont they keep on trying or working hard on it. Being jealous with us is not fair and they now make me feel so bad and I just feel hating them and dont want to see them at all. Am I too selfish? I dont think so cuz they do the same thing to us tho. I never think that they are bad but they think we are. Even a holiday comes, we invite them to come over... guess what? they never want to come. So my question is, do you hate your own family? uncle, aunt or cousin? and why? do we have to do the same thing back to them? what should I do? Please people help me out .
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8 responses
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
17 Sep 07
No i dont think your being selfish. I cant honestly say i hate my family, but i hate some of the attitudes they have. I have this one uncle everytime he sees me out in public he acts like he doesnt know me. And this makes me so mad. And i know he only does it because hes remarried and hes with his new wife. No we dont have to do the same thing back to them. I always just try to kill them with kindness. Sometimes that doesnt work. And when it doesnt i ask them if theres a problem. Sometimes that will get them to change their attitude. Maybe something happenned in the past with your family that you dont know about? I know thats the case with my family. And it was something that someone else did that has nothing to do with me. I know its not right but we shouldnt act like that just because we do.
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
17 Sep 07
That last sentence is a mistake, sorry! Its supposed to say we shouldnt act like that just because they do.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I agree with you... my aunt used to pretend that she doesn't know me at all when she sees me in the public. I was so mad too but what can I do. It is so weird, cuz I was eating and sitting right next to her and I said, "hi" and she nothing back and turned to talk to her friends normally. I dont care now, i just focus on my family is better. Whatever they have in the past, I really dont know but it has been for a long time now and it should be over by now and I am not the one that they should not blame on right?. I appreciate your idea so much cuz it seem just like my story
@laurika (4532)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I understand you pretty much while in my family it's very similar relationship.And I have to tell you , you are not selfish, you are very right.being jealous of thing like what other have and I don't is for me the silliest thing.If I have the same thing, I am trying to do my best and work ard, but not being just jealous of somebody.It doesn't change anything.
But I want to tell you some other thing too.Stop hating them, while it would take only energy from you and you don't need that.Just ignore them and life your life.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
21 Sep 07
I dont Hate them, I just want to know what should I do? but I dont care cuz they dont live with me and I dont need them either... if they think we are their families then they should forget and forgive those already. any way, it is such a long pain story that I have experience with so i dont want to bring this up.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
17 Sep 07
well, i love my family most especially in my father's side coz we're very close except for one uncle. he's very irresponsible and is bringing disrespect to the good name my grand dad has earned. i just hope and pray that someday, he will have something as an eye opener.
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 07
i hate my aunt because she keeps talking ignoring what other people have to say, she is ALWAYS right, she mocks what everyone have to say, she thinks she is the smartest women in this part of the universe, she drives my uncle to the poor house because she buys dresses the wears ONLY once, she thinks her idiot children are angels where the oldest one is in his 30s and have never worked in his whole life, she keeps talking so no one can talk thus interrupting her, she looks like some one from the planet of the apes, ...
...shes the anti-christ.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I hate that kind of person. talk talk talk and never let anyone talk... hey, believe that kind of person has high temper and stupid mind. Nothing you can say and nothing you are right to you... it is not a good person to talk to. I am sorry to say that to your aunt but I have one the same thing too.
@zabawaus (1730)
• United States
17 Sep 07
Hi smileonstar,
Same story here in my father's family. I have 5 uncles, and their kids also 2 aunts from father side. They are really rich and the only thing they speak about money. And they all live in same city we live in another one. They don't call us they don't call even my father their own brother. Their kids never call us either. So we stopped calling them too. An i got married a year ago and none of them came to my wedding. So i don't care about them any more and i can easily say that i don't love them too. So You are not a lone person i can love a person on the street more than my uncles. It is not our decision about our families so nobody can push us to love them as well. have a great day!!!!
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
17 Sep 07
what? they didn't come to your wedding? what kind of people are they? man, I am so mad when i read your post. That's not right, well they came to my wedding but they didn't stay that long... it was good enough already. I have this aunt, who lives in San Diego and I live in Long Beach. Couple years ago, my mom gave me her number and I called to say Hello. She talked to me just 5 minutes and she said she had to run and she got my number. On Christmas day, I mailed her a card but she never return my call or card or anything at all. NEVER!!! ... and you know what, I came here alone and I shared the room with someone else... I think she afraid that I might go to stay with her or ask her for money or sth. what kind of aunt is that? I did try to call her again but she said she is busy and she will call me back... but i never heard from her again. After that, whenever they ask me about family in the us? I say, I dont have one.
@yourlifevideos (18)
• United States
17 Sep 07
Family problems can be so stressful. But we don't pick our family. And we don't have to even like them. You usually love them, but you may not like them. What I mean is, if you weren't required to communicate because you are related, you probably would never choose to talk to that person or make them a friend. So I totally understand why you wouldn't want to talk to them and bring more stress in your life. I have many family members I rarely talk to anymore because you don't need the extra drama.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
21 Sep 07
you are right, it is tough for me and my family. I am barely to contact and communicate with them so much... it is just can't get along. However, it is what they want to do too so I can't help it.
@ghazal2k5 (920)
• India
17 Sep 07
Well you are not too selfish my friend. I don't even know exactly how many brothers and sisters my father have. I think my father have 3 or 4 sisters but i never saw any of them. I am 26 years old and i don't know this. i never saw one of my father's brother also. But i guess its not our fault. But i don't hate any of them.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I am not saying that I hate them, I just said do I have to do the same thing back to them or what? you never how they act to us... last time when my mom was in the hospital, they came over my house and lived there... We were out like 2 months and when we came back, they said, " oh, we thought you have to stay at the hospital for a long period of time, and we thought no one want to live here so we moved here." Can you believe that? It took like 6 months to have them move out from my house. They told my dad to move to live in a small house cuz we have small family and keep this house for them... How dare?
@helenaqianqian (16)
• China
17 Sep 07
hrm...i dont hate any family member actually. but you know there is always some not very happy thing happen. and almost i like every uncle, unts and my cousion and i believe they do too...i feel so sorry for what field you are, i hope you could find a good way to solve this problem, good luck
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
17 Sep 07
Actually, I love to have all my uncles and my aunts to do the same thing like your family. And I never want to try again to solve this problem cuz it never work for them. you know money mind? all they think is money money... if we have money for them then they are good with us, if we dont then there is not good mood. So, I dont care now... whatever they are.
