Is it ok for your spouce or significant other to talk to YOUR friends...?

I really would be ticked if my husband talked to my friends of family about our issues. I know now and then he talks to my sister's husband because they are friends and then it goes to my sister who tells me and things turn out pretty nasty. I don't talk much about issues with anyone, let alone his friends. He would keel over and die if I did because he likes to present this macho, no problems persona to the world. So, I say you have every right to be ticked about this. And venting is good. It really helps to get things off your chest. Prayer closet? Allrighty then. lol. I don't think that (whatever it is) is the answer to this situation. Maybe if things get better, you can talk to your husband about how upset he makes you when he talks to your friends and ask him NOT to in the future. If he keeps it upp, it seems like he is trying to be manipulative and make your friends take his side. I HATE THAT! Don't get me started about when my husband does that. It's really ugly. Good luck!

A prayer closet?I'm sorry I just had to ask. Back to the discussion. It would be okay if your and your hubby made the same friend at the same time.But if he is trying to talk to your girlfriends, the ones that know about your problems because you have told them before he got to talk to them isn't right and it is dumb.Does he think that he will get sympathy from this crowd?Is he crazy?I don't get it.

I would not likr it either but I can understand that he moght need someone to talk to, but like u said - he can talk to his own friends about it. i do belive that the most important person to talk about it to shoudl be you though!

Yes i do find it very offensive. Probably because it makes me so mad. My husband used to do this all the time! I told him not everyone needs to hear about our problems. We need to work them out ourself. Did you try talking to your husband about it? He probably wouldnt like it much if you talked to his friends like that. Maybe you should point that out to him.

I'm sure my situation is way different than yours. When my very best friend was experiencing some serious problems with her husband , he came knocking on my door one nite alone. They were on the verge of splitting up. As I fixed him a coffee and asked him" what's up" , I did feel a twinge of guilt in talking to him at all about their problems. i was HER friend after all. He started out by stating that he just needed to talk and wanted someone who could maybe give him some insight as he loved her deeply and didn't know what to do anymore. He knew I loved her also and knew her far longer than he had. He sincerely wanted to work things out with her.It wasn't about her being a b or anything like that. The fact that he was so concerned about their relationship, prompted me to encourage her to stick with him through this tough time. they did and have been married for several years now and happily! I do agree with you that talk to outsiders should be selective...very much so and it should be in an attempt to improve and understand not just gripe and whine about things. Also communicating with you should be #1. It sounds as if your husband is trying to enlist everyone to his side. There should be no "sides". It should be about resolving.

Everyone needs a good venting sometimes. I keep everything bottled up about my problems because I feel like no one wants to hear my problems. I feel like there's no one who'll actually listen to me and care about what I have to say in a nice sense(because there are too many people in my world who will use the oppotunity to hurt me, but what can you expect from the most hated girl in school?). I ended up getting upset with my boyfriend and he didn't do anything wrong, I felt so terrible about it. So it's always good to have someone to vent to. We just gotta keep on truckin to see what life has in store for us. You've Just Been Flushed ~The Toilet Turtle~