What do you do if you forget the name of someone you've been introduced to?
By sreekumarn86
@sreekumarn86 (777)
India
September 17, 2007 3:27am CST
How oftem hoave you been introduced to someone and you have forgotten that person's name?
Well, to me this has happenend several times.
But i never forget the location of a reastaurent if someone tells me that. ;)
I can't understand the reason why I frequently forget the name of someone whom I am just introduced to. I think its becuase i dont pay attention to the person's name the moment he tells me. Or maybe we are introduced to more than one person, my a common friend, and we are not much interested in them.
So what do we when we forget someone's name?
There are various options like
1. The "I know your name, but I'm blocked"
I want to keep calling you Mr. X, but i know its wrong. ;)
2. The "Ofcourse i know you, -- infact i want all your inforamtion"
"I'd love to get your card."
3. The "Tip of the tounge" dodge.
I know that i know your name, but i'm balnk now.
4. The "You're brilliant" remark.
"Wow, you have a brilliant memory. I cant believe you remembr my name from that meeting some months ago. I cant remember the names of persons whomi met yesterday."
5. The "Sure, I remember you".
"Remind me of your last name please".
there is ever chance that the person tells his whole name :)
6. OR an "I am sorry i have forgotten your name"
Be truthful enough to say it.
Which of these do you prefer?
What do you do when you have forgotten someone's name?? Do you have any other alternate questions to add to this??
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22 responses
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
18 Sep 07
i just say i'm sorry i forgot your name i have a bad memory which i do!
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@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
18 Sep 07
That's being real honest. Only problem being that you have to make sure that the person does not feel hurt.
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@vashstampede992000 (2560)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
Hi there, what's been up to lately buddy?
Well, i prefer the number 6 and just be truthful that you have forgotten their names already, so by that there's no lies include.
There's nothing wrong if you tell them that you have forgotten their names because you had so much thingking these days.
And also tell them that you do recognized their faces but you're not also sure if you have gotten their names in your last meeting.
Have a nice day ahead and happy posting and earning here in mylot.
Godspeed,
Kiko
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@daveisdavid (878)
• Singapore
18 Sep 07
I would choose 6. "I am sorry i have forgotten your name". I have the same problem remembering people's name also. But once I know their name for the second time, I would remember them.
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@pqm1987 (8)
• China
18 Sep 07
my memeroy was very bad, forget the name of someone have been introduced is frequently to me. Usually i will not ask his name to the man that been introduced. i will ask my friend that introduced the new people.As i think ask the man of been introduced was shy.
@alisonlee (7)
• China
18 Sep 07
yes ,it is ture that we ususlly forget someone because there are many people in our life and it is not practial to menorize everyone you had met ,so some time you could tell she or he the reason or you can lie to them in order make youself into trouble or embarrassment.
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@wangyunjie929 (14)
• China
18 Sep 07
i also sometimes forget person's name.when it happened,i always avoid call him or her,i just say,hi,what what...i think i'll have a chance to see his or her name again.so i don't ask him or her,just call her after i know his or her name again.
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@Stiletto (4579)
•
17 Sep 07
I'll usually just be honest and say I've forgotten their name. I have a really bad memory so it happens quite often anyway! The worst is when people start speaking to me as if they know me and I haven't a clue who they are. I've had that happen a few times and it usually turns out to be someone I worked with years ago or something like that.
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@babydolphin (536)
• Australia
18 Sep 07
Actually this happens to me quite a lot of time. usually it happens when i am introduced to a heaps groups of people, or when im introduced to someone and never talk or meet up with that person again for a long time :)
just a few weeks ago me and a friend was having dinner, and a guy came up to us and start chatting (my friend knows him).. and I know ive seen him around in church and stuff.. but dont really remember his name :P and because he seems to know my name.. i just truthfully told him "uhmm yeah I know we've been introduced before.. but uhmm sorry i forgot your name" eheheh and it works :) or I can also use this tactic where I pretend that I actually know him/her and carry the conversation as normal.. and smile haha and then after they go away, I will ask my friend or someone about their name :) hehehe
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Oh I always forget peoples names.
Usually I just play it off if it's just a random encounter and I'm more than likely never going to see this person again. If I am going to see them I just am honest and say I'm sorry I forgot your name.
I'm horrible with names.
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@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
17 Sep 07
man I am so bad with names it takes me ages to remember names. I dont use any of the lines given I usually wait for someone to say the name untill then I am avoiding using names. I know I am bad but what can I do.
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
17 Sep 07
Thats not a bad tactic too. If you can avoid using the name, then it should be fine.
@tempiko (27)
• Bulgaria
17 Sep 07
Hi, I see your problem and in fact this is a very common problem :))) There are few things you can do do overwhelm it, but I'm not sure they will suit you :)
1. When you are introduced and told the name of somebody - repeat it in voice, let him repeat it too. Thus you will have heard it 3 times - you'll probably be able to remember it :)
2. What I do - when I talk long with somebody and don;t remeber his name - I ask him to give me his telephone number, and then I ask him for his first and family name - how does he want to be saved in my phonebook :))
I can't think of anything else...aaaa, a friend of mine has a wife that remembers the names instead of him :) but this is little harder to accomplish :)
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
17 Sep 07
oh cool method, the last one. But tough one too. !st gotto get married :) thanks for the response dude.
@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
• United States
21 Sep 07
This is my fiance's answer to this question. (please dont judge me by his answer)
First if you dont remember someones name they are obviously not worth remembering. if they are not worth remembering, then you most likely had a negative opinion of them. so, why would you want to be nice to them by playing off the fact that you dont remember their name. tell them how you feel.i thought you were an idiot, and your existence does not matter one rap to me, as it still does not now, and i still do not want to know your name. goodbye. Sometimes the truth hurts.
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
21 Sep 07
Hey i think its not always true that we forget names of only those whom we consider unimportant. it has happened to me like some other people whom i have met at businees and those names i had forgotten. Cannot afford to be really rude at them and shout at them. Gotto be polite and say some excuse. (My personal opinion though)
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@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
• United States
21 Sep 07
agreed my fiance might not but i agree I know that he prob forgot some ppls names that he knew and liked he just likes putting out that hes a butthole so people think that he is. LOL thats a man thing i guess for some anyways.
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
18 Sep 07
That's a good way to try and figure out from the conversation unless you are supposed to introduced that person to someone else ;) Then its gonna be trouble. :)
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
I ask for it in a very polite manner. I have a short memory, I admit. lol So if the person is not really that familiar to me and see again, I could not easily remember the name. I am not good at names and places, should I say.
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
21 Sep 07
We both have are very similar.Thanks for the response. Have a great day.
@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
17 Sep 07
Hi there. I have had this happen to me in the past, I know Ive met them before, but Ive genuinely forgotten there names... When that happened to me, I just simply asked them straight out and say, hey I know Ive met you before, but ive forgotten your name, and they have a little giggle and tell me there name...
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I have to deal with alot of people on a daily basis and if I meet two or more of them at a time, I have a hard time remembering their names. I apologize and just say, I'm sorry I cant remember your name, I keep mixing the two of you up .....or.....you remind me of someone named (name the name you accidently use) and I know that's not your name, could you tell me again?
It's easier that way and alot of them just remind me of their name.
Trying to remember alot of names and faces is part of my job and to try to remember them all, I pick out something about them that reminds me of someone else with the same name.
say you meet someone named jerrod...I think of the jerrod on the subway commercials.
or someone named mary....mary might have on something white so I think of mary had a lil lamb, fleece as white as snow.
there's always something you can correlate with someone and their name. helps me. hope it works for you!
@mermaid911 (798)
• Philippines
17 Sep 07
Oh, that's funny but it does happen to lots of people lots of times. For me, I just pretend to remember and talk about a common friend or a common topic that brought us together. I avoid mentioning names instead of saying "Hi,(name)", I just say "Hey, so how's ...?" I feel like it will offend the other person if I say outright that I don't remember his/her name. When I meet a common friend, I'll ask the friend the name of the other person. If I can avoid it, I do but when I get the chance to say "What's your name again?, I didn't quite get it the first time", then I do. Funny how we forget other people but I guess this is forgivable. have fun!
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
17 Sep 07
Thanks for the response :)
True that one might feel offended if we say that you dont remember his/her name. And yeah its not deliberately that we forget someone's name. It happens so. :)
@zabawaus (1730)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I have a awful memory. So i forget almost everything even the breakfast i ahd this morning. So about the names yes i always forget them. But i found a solution for this when ever i am introduced to someone instead of saying glad to meet you i repeat his/her name like glad to meet you Kate. So it helps a lot . But biggest problem is if i need to introduce this person ( which i a don't remember the name ) to another person. Then i can only do that Hey! guys why don't you get acquainted with each other. And leave the area :)
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
17 Sep 07
Oh. Thats really awful memory, is the least one should say about that i suppose. Good idea to leave the place by asking them to introduce each other. :)
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@libertarianfreedom21 (3198)
• United States
18 Sep 07
i just dodge haveing to say there name and hope someone else will say it sooner or later. lol, I fell so bad b/c my name is an easy name but if people forget it i just let them know its ok b/c i dotn really care. But if I had to get there name from them I would problay tell them I had a memory block and cant remember you name and then hopefully i remember it that time sometimes I dotn though and then I fell even worse I wont ask a second time Ill just ask someone that knows them or something.
@nidhi_bansal (106)
• India
17 Sep 07
This situation happens often 2 me,nd i always respond by sayin,oops i forgot your name!!!!
@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
17 Sep 07
yeah thats a gr8 way. Takes lot of courage for that. but you hust might hurt that person.
