what should i do?

You are both playing a very dangerous and silly game. I don't know how old your friend is but she knows as well as anyone else with any common sense does that she would lose her job if caught with you. If you care about her then you shouldn't pressure her, she is totally in the wrong for having a relationship with you in the first place. She is supposed to be in a position of authority and trust and she is being very stupid by dating a student. If you carry on this way she will lose her job and sorry to say but it will serve her right. She knows the rules. I can't give you any sympathy I'm afraid and if you have any real feelings for her you won't let her continue to risk her career by continuing this foolish relationship. She will not only lose her job where she is now but she will find it impossible to find another job later. Do you really want that for her? Has she studied all these years to get this position to lose it with a fling with a student? If she loses her job will you be able to support her for the rest of your lives? Think about these things carefully and make your own decisions :)

Hi Fred From your profile..I guess you are a foreigner in China and your girlfriend must be a Chinese. If indeed she is Chinese, you must be very aware of the Chinese culture and the Chinese is very conservative when it comes to relationship. This is especially so if you are a foreigner and the older Chinese folks usually frown upon relationships of different races. I think you should try to make her feel comfortable when you go on dates. If she doesn't like public places especially so close to her neighbourhood which may make her feel shy or embarassed, bring her to some other places further. I think patience will win the day. You don't be to feel angry but put yourself in her shoes and understand her feelings. She will accept you eventually if you persevere I guess.

I think im gonna have to agree with pretty much everyone else. Move on with your life. Please tell me your at least 18? But this is completely wrong what your doing. She could and will lose her job if anyone finds out about it. You wouldnt want her to lose her job would you? You cant blame her for being afraid that she'll lose her job. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

hi fred game she sounds like she doesnt want to be with you at all if she is treating like you dont exist if a man proposed to me and i said yes i would want the world to know but she seems very distant from you what i would is ask her if she wants to really to be with you or if she is ashamed of you because she should not allow anyone or anything to get in the way of your relationship if she truelly loves you but if she dont dont you may have to move on it may hurt but times heals broken hearts i would ask were her stand is on this relationship and if she truelly has feelings for you if not its time to mvoe on!!!!

Do she really want to be your girlfriend? I think she is afraid of making public the relationship of your's.What's the reason?You should find it out and decide how to deal with your relationship.Maybe you should take a talk with her.

well im not sure if ur a student or not - i hope not!! some here have said already how wrong it is - and lets not be romantic here its her career ur messing with!! imsure shes worked hard to get where she is and with what ur both doing will make all that work come crashing down not to mention the legalities of it all!! u BOTH could go to jail or just her if ur a minor ( i dont know what state ur in - but all ahve rules about that sort of thing) u may THINK shes ur life and ur in love but IF she REALLY felt that she wouldnt pull away from u when others come by - she KNOWS its wrong!! u really should show here how much U DO care and LEAVE IT alone!! setting it free so to speak! if she comes back to u when ur older and KNOW better and NOT a student( 18+) then great! BUT now its not the right time :( Love sometimes is a test of just how true it is! show her urs is true and if she continues after that then Switch classes!! do anything to deny it u HAVE to for the both of u!! *just my two cents as well as whats legal and right* :) xx

are you a student fred? if you are then i understand why your girlfriend doesnt want to let other people know about your relationship especially those in the higher ups. a relationship between a student and a teacher is usually prohibited in a school since its like against morality. i think you should just understand her. wait until you graduate. after that, you can court her openly or pretend you are courting her since you're already going steady secretly and taking things slow is the best way so people wont be surprised and judge you both badly. you should understand that she has a reputation to take care of and a job that is important to her. be understanding and take things slow. you'd come out of it in the end. ^__^

I am a teacher and know what you mean about the school authorities. I never like to upset the head teacher. I can understand why your girlfriend is worried about being fired. I think she is wrong though. I guess the other teachers would only want to see you go out together outside school. If the students saw you two together they might make some comments but that is all. I know all about being busy and having exam papers to write. Good luck.

I think that your girlfriend is just very shy to be seen by people to be in love with someone. Usually Chinese girls are more cautious when they are at the first stage of love before she has decided to make it known to the public. But once it is known and the relationship between both is mature enough, she or they would be happy to let their love affairs known naturally. It is the same to many Chinese men as well, I think. I have no idea about foreign girls.

She sounds paranoid or something.I'd be careful.You proably need to seek out someone else.She sounds weird.

Ok if i understand this, you are having a relationship with a teacher in your school so im guessing you are a student yes? If thats the case then it is 100% wrong. I know you say you love her and all but she is in a position of authority among students and what you are doing together is considered a gross breach of trust between the school and parents who send their kids there. She obviously knows it is wrong as she keeps trying to keep you from being seen with each other outside of the school grounds. Im sure that its entirely against the law too which is even worse. If she loves you enough to accept your proposal, she should wait until you are finished with school. Besides that, you are risking her career with the risks you are taking here. I suggest you both walk away from each other now before it really does go too far and you are found out. I really dont think she would appreciate being in a jail cell because you two couldnt let each other alone. I know i sound harsh but this is a harsh situation to be in. Please please just let it go, or, if you cant let it go then wait until you have left school to act upon your feelings.

your love relationship has not long.she want avoid comment.you could respect her needing and keep distance in pulic place.after your relationship steay,she cares you more and more,she will have much more courage.

she's been your girlfriend. you shoud be bovine.