I am back!!!

Hi marie, and welcome back. I'm glad you had a great holiday - you certainly deserved it after all you've been through recently. As for turning your feelings off - well I don't think anyone can really - sometimes we are so hurt by another person that the feelings of love eventually turn to hate, but they are still feelings. If you are a thinking/feeling/emotional person who can feel love, then those feelings are going to be there. The hard part is dealing with them as you know. You know y feelingson your ex - I think he is treating you selfishly and badly by calling you all the time like this. If he wanted to end the relationship, then that is fair enough - at least he had the courage to tell you to your face, but now it sems he "wants his cake, and eat it too" as we say here in England. He says he doesn't want you, and yet he still hangs around, and keeps in contact regardless of the fact that he is hurting you by doing so. I think it gives him some kind of a feeling of power and that is bad. If I were you, I would tell him not to call for at least 6 months, and get my phone number changed, if he did not comply. If he still wants to ater that - well hopefully you will have mived on by then anyway, - and if not and he still wants you - well maybe give things another try - but at the moment he is stopping you from moving on with your life alone but also refusing you the chance to have a life with him, and that does not seem fair on you. Hope you don't mind me saying this.

Welcome back, so good to see you again. Marie, you just have to realize when you have a love that deep and that strong it is going to take time to get over it, perhaps a couple of years. I know I had a great love in my life and all he did was dump on me, I took it for 3 long years and he broke up with me is the funny thing, I would have continued to allow him to cheat on me and put me down. I did not date after him for a good year, everytime I tried before it just didn't feel right, or I would end up calling him (which I hated), but honestly it took me 5 years after him to have another love relationship, I dated many, and had relationships with some, but I never felt the love for any of them, it was just biding time until I was able to finally let go and be with someone else. Don't worry about your feelings for him, they will go away in time, just enjoy the fact that you have a wonderful life ahead of you and you have family and friends that love you and are around you for support. In time you will find that love again! Be well, my friend.

Marie, it can take quite a while to get over someone. The end of a relationship is a grieving process. A friend of mine is a counselor and he stated that it can take up to a year or more. Grief is grief. Just breathe and take each day as it comes. Big huggers to you.

It's so nice to travel; it feels like an escape from day to day concerns. One thing I find though, is that when I come back, sometimes the shock of all of the day to day stuff coming back can make it seem even harder than before. Everything will settle down though, and life will get easier or at the least, more routine.

Well it is always good to have a vacation at times to somehow relieve us from our worries and problems, also to appreciate what beautiful things this world can offer!;) It's gonna take time for you to forget him, don't be too hasty because it'll come. Just try to focus your attention on those more productive things, as everyone experiences what you are into right now. Hope you'll forget him sooner, cheer up and don't let the past affect your life in the present and in the coming future!;)

Welcome back home. I am really glad that you and your mum enjoyed such an excellent holiday in Turkey. Was the weather nice and sunny? Where did you visit whilst you were there? I went to Turkey once, seeing Istanbul, an interesting inland region with white terraces and a quiet out of season beach resort. It is superb that you didn't think of your ex boyfriend whilst you were away. It is is such a shame that he called you. Whilst you were on holiday the geographical distance separated you. But now you you are home again it might be challenging for you to get over him. I hope that you manage to do this. You can't turn your feelings off but time help you can heal. Good luck.

lol i started the same topic last week, congrats on getting back!

Hello Marie!(",) What a nice experience to spend your holiday with your mom. So what are the important landmarks you've seen in turkey? Hope you'll share with us about your vacation. I haven't been in other country but I'm looking forward to working abroad someday. Well, about your ex, I know it's hard because you loved the person. As they say, when you are ready to love, you must also be ready to be hurt. It will take time, so let time heal your broken heart. I'm happy your back! A warm welcome to you!(",) God bless and take care!(",)