How do u know when u've stopped loving that person?
By karmene777
@karmene777 (46)
Australia
September 17, 2007 10:21am CST
My ex bf and i had been on and off for awhile, though one night we had an argument, he picked out on all my false and made me feel so small and so wrong. Though he said he still loves me, when he said that, i didn't feel anything back. I didn't feel that i do. Or is it because i was hurt by what he said. Or have i really stopped loving him? I just want to know how do u know that you stopped loving that person. I dont think bout him much and when i do, it all turns to anger even thinking about the good times makes me so angry. I haven't cried either not one tear. So am i over him? How do u know?
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4 responses
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
17 Sep 07
Hello there. I've been hurt too before. The initial stage was painful to go through. I cried every day for months. After a while, i stopped crying. I stopped feeling hurt too. My heart hardens and i realised he is not worth it and I moved on with my life. I know that he is no longer important in my life when I stop thinking about him and when he tries to contact me, I ignore him.
@karmene777 (46)
• Australia
17 Sep 07
Sorry to hear that, though im glad to know that there is a survivor out there. Im slowly learning bit by bit on how i feel now. Hope u find good love next time.
@Wasgilykitten (161)
• United States
17 Sep 07
My husband of 7 years also did that. It hurts like hell, and they say they love us. If they loved us they would hurt us like they do.
Normally when my husband hurts me, I hurt him back just as badly to let him get a taste of what I feel. But when he named all things thing he didn't like about me. I couldn't say anything but if you don't like me you know where the door is, and he comment was I still love you.
If you ever find out the answer to you question please find me and let me know the answer.
GOOD LUCK!
@karmene777 (46)
• Australia
17 Sep 07
Yeah i was like u, i hurt him back so he knows how it feels, though it never worked he just hurt me even more, dont know why i kept doing it even though i know it wont work. And yeah i didn't say anything when he told me what was wrong with me, infact i asked him what else is there that's wrong wit me. After that i just left, i didn't turn back since then. I feel as though i dont love him, i dont wait for his calls or expect for him to call me. I just dont want to hear and see him anymore. Thanks for sharing. I will let u know soon maybe in 2 weeks i would know the answer.
@karmene777 (46)
• Australia
17 Sep 07
I think that might just happen to me as well. Though i dont mind not seeing or hearing from him again, infact it would make me really happy not to hear from him and most of all not see him. I would need to move away if i want that, its a small town u see. But yeah i guess u might be right, i probably dont love him anymore. I dont miss him, nor have the urge to call or to know where or what he's doing like i used to. I find myself, wanting to have other plans for my life. Thanks again.
@karmene777 (46)
• Australia
17 Sep 07
Yeah ur right, i dont feel the warmness anymore when i he's with me, i dont have the urge to call him or find out what he's doing. I just dont want to hear and see him again, though its going to be hard we both live in the same town, not to mention its a small town. Thanks for sharing ur thoughts....it helped me a bit more.
