My dad is a pushy christain and I cant stand to be around him is that wrong?

That is the main reason I am not a christain I totally agree with you I dont think God will make me burn in hell if I dance, wear shorts, speggeti strap shirts, bathing suits, etc. Our body is natural and he/she created it. I believe that some wiccans and pagans have a better understanding of God then most Christains. They wonder why their reliogion is falling instead of growing and it is b/c of the people out there like that or when you flip through the channels and you get a christain one with the preacher saying God is telling me to tell you to donate 1000 dollars today and you shall be BLESSED then he has like 100 people sending him that money a day. That preacher is rich and that is probally all he cares about. Or when you hear about these preachers melesting kids, i heard the other day of one chopping up a person in little pieces. Did God tell him to? There has only been one church that I have walked in and could fell the presence it still isnt for me but I do like that church a lot the preachers real good.

Thank you for your responce I hope so

i dont let it hinder my veiw on other christains i have met plenty of wonderful people that were christain (you seem to be one as well) and i know that God doesnt judge by looks or the occasinal mistake but by the heart.

I agree with Pose123. That is NOT christianity. This is what Christianity is about: You are a Christian if you accept Jesus Christ as your personal savior. By dying on the cross, Jesus took on our sins, and in exchange for taking our sins on his shoulders, we receive in return unearned grace. What is unearned grace? It means just that. We can't do enough good deeds to earn it. We don't get it for wearing the longest skirts, etc. We CAN'T earn it. It is a gift to us. When you get to a point in your life when you realize that you have God's smile (grace), so to speak, your life begins to change. It is the difference between a child who tries to win races, or acts out just in the hopes that they can get their parent to love or notice them versus a child that feels so loved, and are so secure that their parents are absolutely crazy about them, and there is no question, that they do things for others or achieve. Any traditions such as eating things on certain days or wearing certain things are signs of "membership" in a particular denomination and have nothing to do with going to heaven or not. They are "traditions" so to speak. There are people that have issues and complexes and they are going to fixate on whatever is available, and don't let your bad experience with your father taint your opinion of all christianity. I think that also fathers love their kids sometimes so much and no one gives out a parenting manual teaching people how to stand back, when to use tough love, and when to just let them fail and pick themselves up. Its easy to tell your kids "respect yourself, don't dress like a trollop, stay in school, and don't stay up after midnight" because they want so much for you, but its HARD to sit back and listen and even let kids make decisions that you wouldn't choose so they can learn for themselves even if they fail the first time and then come back to you for advice. I am glad that you love your dad. Sometimes people who love eachother can't live together, but i am glad you hhaven't shut him off forever.

Thank you for your responce and yes he has pushed many of people away from him, his only family now is my step mom and step sister. it is his own fault I have tried many of times to repair our relationship but been unsussecful.

Thanks for your responce

Hi yougot me wrong I did not mean to turn you away from Jesus becos that was never the issue you spoke about. I meant to discourage you from trying to build a realationship with your father. I dont have a good one with mine becos he disowned me and then when I should have gone to high school there was no support but now he seeks financial assistance. I too could do with the help. You had the opportunity to live with yours I did not so I am just encouraging you to look past his fanatic beliefs and see the real man - your father and try to rebuild a relationship.

oh sorry, I have tried ive called wrote him given him numbers told him that i dont want this to be are relationship and we need to make it better but so far that hasnt had any results just yet. I dotn wnat him to past away knowing i didnt have a relationship with him.

I appriciate your responce and I didnt let that turn me away from Jesus. I just dont agree. I will try to start a relationship with him I have wrote him an email showing my felling and my numbers and address and now it is up to him to do the rest. God bless you and have a great day.

I won't look down at you. There is nothing wrong of being a pagan. Just hope that someday your dad will love you as much as he love god himself.

He didnt I just wanted to say that b/c i would want him to love me no matter what. I also am a pagan and want to know that that wouldnt matter to him b4 he comes over. I know most the people that will respond to this will be christains and I want all yall to know I like that yall believe in something and keep strong in it. I hope none of yall will look down on me b/c I dont believe in God like yall do. But that is the whole reason for this disscussion to find out what people think about a family with diffrent religions

I agree with you too all yall made good points. Follow your Heart not what other people tell you to follow that is what I have always practiced. I study the bible, history and lots of things and take what is in my heart and grasp a hold of that and i know God will love me for that even if i dont follow christian beliefs. I will always welcome my dad with open arms but for now on when he starts to push his religion on me I'm going to fight fire with fire and Push mine back on him I dont know if you would agree with that but i need to try something else after all just being quit about it hasnt helped.

I agree with you most of all. that is the problem with some christains they take the christain values and use them for control instead of love and joy and all that good stuff. I have meet pleanty of really cool christain people that you can tell what they believe in runs through them. Those are the ones that will keep chritainaty alive. thank you for your responce

I know it is a touchy subject for most. I totally agree with you too. He has made his life less enjoyable to live and you can tell by his actions. We have talked maybe 5 or 6 times in the past 6 years and I have called him all but 2 of those times. I tell him we need to have a dinner together or something I also told him my fellings the last time I talked to him and he said it was b/c he loves me and i understand that but I was just letting him know that it pushes me away instead. I dont want him to come over till i know he will accept me b/c once he does he might see some celtic stuff around that he wont like and I dont want that to cause prob. I also have a pentegram and some knick knacks. So I dont want him to come over till I know that he will accept all of me.