Being in love is something but telling your love about it is another thing....
By ashikkalam
@ashikkalam (187)
India
September 18, 2007 12:58am CST
Being in love is one thing but telling your love about it is another thing.Have you felt this way...not being able to tell your love that you love him/her because you fear what the reaction would be like,especially when your love happens to be a good friend.
Please help me and pool in your feelings and experiences about this.
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@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
Yup. You are definitely right about that. As for me, I happen to experience being in love and having the problem of telling the one I love about how I feel towards him. This happened about 5 years ago back in high school. I was a new student at that school and as far as I can remember, he was the only one, the only face that I can remember out of about 48 students in that room. Ever since then, I already have a crush on him. Months passed, we became closer. We have fun with each other's company, we joke around and we even became best friends. But I suddenly fell in love with him. He was my first love! :( The sad thing was that he was my best friend too. But I was still immature at that time that is why the day after I discovered that I have feelings towards him, I don't know what made me admit it to him the next day. It was exactly February 14, 2003 that I discovered that I love him. When he knew about what I feel, our friendship totally fell apart. We never talk to each other ever since. ;( I don't know if I regret it but I can't lie to what my heart is saying and that I love him.. even after all this time, I still really do.
My advice for you is that regardless of if that person you love is your friend, you just have to tell him/her the truth about what you feel. There may be consequences like your friendship falls apart like what happened to mine. Your friend can also ignore the fact that you have feelings for him/her and still continue on being friends with you. Or the possibility that , that person will never talk to you again.. But , there's still a chance that your friend will eventually love you in return. Who knows? You just really have to open up, speak up, fight for what you feel. And accept whatever he/she decides on what to do about it. You have nothing to lose. It's either now or never. Who knows what your confession might turn out. It can go either, negative, positive or neutral. But it will definitely help when you confess and tell that person what really is in your heart. It does hurt if you will be rejected, but that's what makes life unique. When after that person hurts us, breaks our hearts and make us cry. We can still recover, stand up and move on from the pain.. It may rain tens of thousands of times, but it will not rain forever.
Best of luck to you!
@ashikkalam (187)
• India
18 Sep 07
Thanks a lot for your response,
You had the strength to tell him that you loved him only to lose him.But the fear of losing a friend is a bit too much to be overcome.The prospect of being friends appears much better than confessing and losing a friend.But then as you said its now or never and it wont rain for ever.And yeah,without me telling how is she going to know about it??
But a friendship is at stake,whether I like it or not.I hope I can muster enough strength.
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
Yeah. Definitely your friendship is at stake. As far for me, my heart was too strong to overcome my mind. My mind was telling me that I shouldn't tell him that I love him in fear of losing him as a friend. But my heart says that go for it.. And so I followed my heart. He never became mine and the worst part is that our friendship fell apart because of how I feel. I still don't have any regret at all. I do love him and that's what I'm fighting for at that time.
About what you feel, it's just like your lying to yourself by holding yourself back in confessing how you feel. What if someone else will eventually like your friend and that person starts to court her and that your friend will eventually fall for that person and starts dating him.. Whose fault is that? You had the opportunity but you didn't took advantage of it. Anyway, it is still possible that your friend will not accept the fact that you love her. You can't really answer to that. But try to send your friend some signals that you like her more than a friend. Like make her more special to you.. like you accompany her when she goes out. Walk or drove her towards her home. Call her frequently .. Give some gifts. Give importance to what she likes.. etc.. Just make her happy. I hope she does fall for you.
@ashikkalam (187)
• India
18 Sep 07
Thanks again for your advice.I'll try to muster enough strength and get it out from my heart to my lips.Again it would be better to start with small indications than blurt it out directly,right?
Anyways I also hope it all ends allright.
@indiavani (863)
• India
18 Sep 07
Hello Ashikkalam! Yes, I agree that being in love and telling your love are different things. Sorry I haven't experienced anything like this because I haven't fallen in love with anybody till now.
But yes, one of my friends loved a guy and wasn't able to tell him about this. But then started talking to him by becoming just his friend and he proposed her to be his girlfriend after being friends for few months, but she broke up with him (said no to him) as she felt he didn't have a correct thinking about her and he wasn't right for her. Now she has a boyfriend (not him).
vani^_^
@ashikkalam (187)
• India
18 Sep 07
Looks like your friend was not right in the first place in loving the wrong guy.
But there is no magic formula for love,you have to test it to find it.
Good luck to you and your friend.
and thanks for the response.
